2007-11-29 08:47:58 · 30 answers · asked by amigoingcrazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all the term "routine" is a problem. I would be upset because she is could be creating a problem in the long term. Sometimes, when spending too much time with the opposite sex, can lead to something else, not all the time. But a married woman she should put herself into those situations. If she feel like she can have lunch with him, then she must enjoy his company which can lead to other things. Express your feelings to your wife and his friend and if they continue then you may need to look deeper into that relationship.
2007-11-29 08:55:03 · answer #1 · answered by Single123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be jealous and a little concerned. They are developing a relationship by routinely spending time with each other, this could create deeper feelings towards one another and eventually lead to cheating.
As your friend and as your wife, do they not feel guilty/awkward about this? I couldn't do that to my husband or to one of my girlfriends either!! One on one time should be between you and your wife.... if they need to spend lunch together, you should have an open invitation to join!
2007-11-29 16:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Betty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have been together for 18 years, and I have known his friends just as long. I have never once had lunch with any of them because that is just awkward, regarless! If he was out with my friends having lunch, I would question it. Although he has taken the kids to Soak City with my female friends (3) and their kids, it is a group thing and our kids have grown up together for the past 15 years! Not a one on one, that is for him and him alone!
2007-11-29 16:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by amy g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to be upset. If I were you I would spy on them the next time they go out for lunch and observe them and if you see something you don't like then you know what to do.
2007-11-29 16:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chingaleng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have asked her not to and she still does, then yes I'd be upset. Why would he be your friend if you are unhappy with this situation.
If they work near each other and having lunch together is convenient, maybe your wife just considers him her friend, too. God forbid, huh?
2007-11-29 16:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its your friend and not just some co-worker then yes you have every reason to be upset. your friend is crossing a line and your wife is as well.
2007-11-29 16:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Slick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right to have feelings of insecurity over it. You are wrong to give your wife any grief about it (not that you are) unless there are grounds. There may be more to her story than she is telling you, but hopefully not. You should spy or something to find out for sure.
2007-11-29 16:57:53 · answer #7 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yah youre entitled to it bothering you. If it does she should stop because it will affect your relationship. If she doesnt then shes disregarding your relationship. Thats bad. Go out and buy a 357. I think youre way too nice. You need to get crazy sometime and start waving the gun around the house and talking with that "look" in your eye.
2007-11-29 16:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by timssterling 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2007-11-29 16:52:19 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are justified.....I would be upset if my husband was having lunch with my friend.....and I know he would be upset with me if I was having lunch with his friend.......This wouldn't go over too well at my house.......
She needs to find a "girl" friend......
2007-11-29 16:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋