Don't you think that we are living in a whole new era? People are having s e x, living in together, yada-yada...... That is the reality of it.
I dont know if we are just forgetting the value of marriage, wanting to test it out first before marriage or what??
I have a live-in boyfriend and we have a baby and I am in not thinking about marriage anytime soon even thought things are really good.
2007-11-29 08:31:17 · 13 answers · asked by 90304 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is Q&A here... I ask cuz I can... Why do you answer if you dont like it?
2007-11-29 08:36:00 · update #1
Those of you that say "because that is what the bible says"
DO YOU DO EVERYTHING THE BIBLE TELLS YOU TO DO?
2007-11-29 08:44:17 · update #2
I'm in your same situation (living with my boyfriend; we even own a house together), so obviously I have no problem with sex before marriage.
The thing I think is important to focus on is saving yourself for the right person- meaning someone who cares about you and who you care about, not to just have sex for the sake of doing it. It is an emotional interaction (especially for ladies, I think) that does need to be taken seriously.
As far as marriage, it is basically just a piece of paper... I probably will get married someday, though. I think marriage really cements a commitment.
2007-11-29 09:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Snugs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I waited untill marriage and im glad i did. Why would you have sex with someone if you werent married should be the question. I believe there are some things that shouuld be kept for marriage because when your married you share a sacred bond and its more of a comitment than dating. I believe that sex was made for a married couple to share not anyone and everyone. No one has any morals anymore and they dont like to wait so things are special, they would rather give in and have it not mean as much...
2007-11-29 08:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by soldiersprincess 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe that. If a man truly loves you, he will/would marry you even if you'd had sex before marriage. To me, it's seems logical. Love and marriage are not about sex. Sex is part of marriage, but should not control it. Marriage is about compatiblity, caring, friendship, etc. Ultimately, you marry someone b/c their personality and their constant friendship are something you want for the rest of your life.
If a man is basing your worth on your sexual status, then he doesn't really love you. He really doesn't care about your personality or your friendship to him.
I believe the same about the statement, "why by the cow, if the milk is free"
That just makes me laugh. If you are having sex, but a man will not marry you....it's not about the sex. It's about the personality and the commitment. It's about the fact that he really doesn't love you. Trust me, it's not about giving up sex.
Plus, in today's society, pre-martial sex is so common in dating. I find it hard to believe a man would stay in a relationship w/ a women he doesn't love; just for sex. Men can easily go out and find other women who just want a sexual relationship and not a commitment.
If a man doesn't want to marry his girlfriend it's because he doesn't really love her. Women need to realize that their personality and the friendship is more important then sex.
If a man said we won't marry me, unless I was a virgin. I would leave him. My virginity doesn't make me the person I am. My mind, my experiences, my hobbies, my love and my friend is what I WANT a potential husband to honor and respect about me.
2007-11-29 08:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by J'adore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like sex, who doesn't? But the Bible says sex should remain until marriage for a reason. I've have sex outside of marriage and failed relationships. Sex is an emotional thing. Even a one-night stand carries with it some emotional, don't fool yourself. The Bible says sex should remain until marriage because it is that one thing that you share with one person. If everyone was virgins and got married you could share that special bond with only one person and develop a close relationship. Unfortunately, it's not like that these days. Sex outside of marriage causes problems: disease, unwanted pregnancy, emotional problems, stereotypes, addiction, etc.
It's true but if you truly love someone you will wait until commiting.
2007-11-29 08:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by modusoperandi 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people believe that marriage is just a piece of paper while others beleive that it is much more, Do what makes you happy.
2007-11-29 08:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you questioning others beliefs? did someone put you down about your living situation. women believe they should not have sex until marriage because it is their beliefs, just like you and your boyfriend living together with your child is your belief. that simple. Glad things are great for you. what works for one may not work for the other!
2007-11-29 08:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by 2/08 is the due date! 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it works for you .... and it isn't broken ../.. why worry about fixing it.
The time tested ideas of the greatest gift of self ...still exhist.
But are far less practiced today .......
The best way is your way .... Be safe, Be happy, Make a great life !
2007-11-29 08:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by John 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You can't completely know someone without getting everything.
2007-11-29 08:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the boys and girls should wait after marraige because thats what the bible says
2007-11-29 08:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
To avoid STD.
2007-11-29 08:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by nmkmathan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋