My boyfriend is 11 years older than me and we don't have any special problem but this 11-year-old difference has worried me and sometimes I think he is too old, I'm 25 and he is 36.Please help me.
2007-11-29 08:23:01 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends. I was 18 when I met my ex and he was 31. It wasnt a problem at first but the older I got I was not the same person I was when I was 18 and he was the same. We no longer shared the same ideas on anything. We didnt like any of the same things. If you are older and secure in who you are I think it can be fine. At 25 you might be mature enough but if you think you might still have some growing up to do I would think twice because at 36 who he is now is probably who he's gonna be 10 years from now. Hope that helps.
2007-11-29 10:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetie28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people place too much emphasis on age - it really comes down to two people having the same outlook, ideas, views etc on life in general. I am 10 years older than my boyfriend and we get on extremely well (although i have always preferred men younger than me anyway) but age shouldn't make any difference at all if you feel comfortable with each other.
2007-11-29 09:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by colgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number.
If you can connect intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and physically and most especially both single then I don't see any problem.
Looks like you are the one bothered with the age gap.
In my opinion I usually don't care what stranger will say about my decisions in life since these strangers are not there when the damsel is in distress. As long as everything is legal in the eyes of law and God then you should be ok.
Bdw, I married to a wonderful guy, 15 years my senior and we complement each other.
2007-11-29 08:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by brittanique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both in the same place emotionally. If you want the same things, share the same goals and make each other happy I say go for it. I once dated a guy who was 11 years older and I ended it because he was too immature! LOL! Focus more on if the person he is is right for you not if his age. Good luck and best wishes!
2007-11-29 08:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sugarkiss 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is 16 yrs older than me and the age thing isn't a problem to me or him. Only you and him will know how you feel. It sounds like you have a problem with it though. If you love him it doesn't matter.
2007-11-29 09:54:32 · answer #5 · answered by Lonely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is all up to you, my cousin married a man 12 years older than all of us!!!!
Given the fact that he treats her like a daughter, and that he is a control freak, and he is always sarcastic to her, and watches what and how much she spends, I mean he is a sugar daddy, he bought her a boat, a new house and a new car and toys for the kids, everything to keep her happy and not complaining when he is away on business.
He is a wine salesman.
It all depends on what your heart is saying, but from me observing my cousin and her husband, they are not happy, even with all her toys, she is not happy.
I married a man a year and a half older than me, and we are much more happier than them, I guarantee you that, my husband is NOTHING like my cousins husband, thank God!!!!
I think she just married him for his money to tell you the truth, because when she was growing up her daddy showered her with everything and anything she ever wanted!!!!!!!
2007-11-29 08:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he is too old.You need to connect with someone you have something in common with.I didn't see that you said you have anything in common.I met my ex when i was 15 and a half he was 28 and lied and said he was 18.Long story short he is a vile evil controlling disgusting piece of crap who molested our daughter.I question someone when they are so much older than the other person.There are major issues not being dealt with there.
2007-11-29 08:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by iluvmyman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Age is just a number so you should not let it bother you. My girlfriend is married to a man who is 13 years older. They have been married for 32 years.
2007-11-29 08:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I'm 2 years older than my bf who is my soulmate, it's not a bad thing. It depends on if you really love that person. Now, if it's a 6 yr. old and a 35 year old. I think that'd be wrong. Without a doubt.
2007-11-29 08:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Roxanne S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Age is just a number. I'm 36 and my boyfriend is 49. As long as you're happy with each other, that's all that matters.
2007-11-29 08:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋