This kid at school keeps throwing food at me at lunchtime. He is bigger and tougher than me. I don't know how to stand up to him as I am afraid of being beaten up. I need to get him to stop because it is bringing me down as I am also worrying about an operation in 2 weeks.
Thanks a lot!
2007-11-29 07:27:54 · 18 answers · asked by Leo R 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
1.Well you might want to tell a teacher but then you would be thought of as a snitch and could make the bully more mad.
2. Try not to show fear, for it will make the bully see you as an easy beat up victim.
3. If you did something to set him off apologize
4. And if worse comes to worst find a group of people to beat him up. (try to avoid this one)
2007-11-29 07:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. One of my biggest regrets is that I never stood up for myself in high school. The other girl was very big, and I too was afraid of getting beat up, but maybe standing up for yourself won't necessarily mean it will become physical. I'm not sure if the lunchroom is a place to do it because it already sounds like this guy loves an audience and feeds off other people's reactions. Maybe it would be best to confront him when you two are alone somehow, with some of your friends and a teacher close by if needed. I would also give a lot of thought as to when you are going to confront him. I wouldn't put yourself at risk with an operation coming up. Maybe you can wait? Good Luck.
2007-11-29 15:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rivergirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree martial arts is the best way to go. It will give you an inner confidence and plus the skills to deal with anything should the need arise.
Bullys rely on your fear so do your best to show you are not afraid. Remember they bully because of THEIR insecurities. Strong together people dont bully. Just remember (although you may not feel it) that you are stronger than them. You just need to show them (I dont mean physically). Looking at them directly, even asking them about their actions very calmly.
But I really do suggest martial arts. It will be very helpful. I hope all goes smoothly with your operation.
2007-11-29 15:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by skyhook 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trouble is, bullies usually have their own little posse that hang around with them dont they, and sometimes the 'sidekicks' egg them on to start on you? I dont know what the answer is, cos i had nearly the whole class on to me at the age of 13-14yrs, i started playing truant cos they were making my life hell! I couldnt tell my parents for various reasons, and felt way too embarassed to tell the teachers, cos my pride was hurt by the names they were calling me? I ignored them, and hopefully they didnt see they were getting to me, but this went on for a year, i got no help and have kinda carried it with me up until now. Thats why i think its important you get some help, hopefully ppl here will give you some blinding advice. take care - remember for some reason they could well be jealous of you!
2007-11-29 17:03:08 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Glitterbomb ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take some karate or self defense classes. It will help you mentally, to stop being afraid. To see yourself as strong and capable of taking care of yourself. This will be reflected in your attitude...No need to actually fight with anyone. Just the RUMOUR that you're taking karate lessons should make a bully stay away (but I mean, don't spread such a rumour if you aren't taking the classes..in case someone challenges you).
I'm not talking from any experience and I'm not a psychologist..so I don't know.
What I do know..school is temporary. This bad episode in your life happens to most of us but it passes. You'll become a nice, civilized, educated man and the bully will work in a car shop or ask "do you want fries with that?"
2007-11-29 15:35:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ignore him, and find somewhere else to sit, where you aren't alone. Being ignored is something that bullies hate the most, because they want the attention and the power. But if you ignore them, they aren't getting either, and hopefully they will eventually leave you alone. Don't hesitate to talk to a teacher or a school administrator about what is happening. If they handle it right, there won't be any repercussions.
2007-11-29 15:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
laugh at him and tell him he throws like a girl, make sure a lot of people hear it, if he gets aggressive just explain how you're not into that sort of thing and the gay bar is down the road, and remember if he is bigger and stronger than you chances are you're smaller and quicker, always work to your advantages.
2007-11-30 07:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Conspiracy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right.
Keep being decent- save some money. Either make friends or directly bribe someone bigger than him to look out for you.
There will be someone who will
2007-11-29 16:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by James J Turner esq 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing to do is talk to people. Have you got a teacher who you can turn to, have you told your parents. Don't show the bully you are scared or that he is bothering or upseting you. always ignore the bully. If they are really tormenting you stand up to him by saying firmly "leave me alone".NEVER hit them. I hope this advice helps and be srtong you will get through this. TALK TO PEOPLE
2007-11-29 15:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bully is a code word for COWARD when you go in for lunch go up to him and say to him can you stop throwing the food at me because all the boys think you fancy me and i brought a knife today and if it happens i am gonna stab you in the neck just say it quietly to him if he throws food at you get up go over to him with your hand in your back pocket see how fast he moves
2007-11-29 15:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by golden 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋