How many women really feel like they have lost themselves in their marriage and being a mom?

Question

and how do you get yourself back?

Answer 1

i kinda do... ive only been married a year and a few months. my friends are all out of the country and really havent made friends here especially since i keep going back and forth from michigan and florida. i also own my own business so not a lot of coworkers there.
i havent been out with girlfriends in years... i miss those times--girl's night out. its hard to find friends who i can actually talk about family and "husband" stuff without boring them. im only 22 so girls my age are talking and thinking more like going out to bars every night and flirting with men. i can still go out to bars but without that agenda. i love my family but i still would like a life outside my family. so if any of ya girls out there wanna hang... im available!!!

Answer 2

I used to feel that way. When you start taking care of yourself the same way you take care of your husband & children, then you will be whole again. Sounds like you've given so much to others that you have nothing left for yourself. Take some breaks. You can't always be superwoman. Go back to school, get a job, or find friends to have lunch with. I guarantee that you're not the only mom who feels they've lost themselves through the years! Good luck!

Answer 3

I used to feel like that,then I really thought about it and realized I'm happy and this is where I was meant to end up in life...being a mom is well there's nothing else like it. And being a wife to the man I love-well I never thought i could of been happier,that is once I really thought about it. I mean what are we really missing out on? The partying going out to the bars, one night stands? All that got old after we grew up and now its time to be what we are and appreciate what we have.Cause there's still people out there doing all that with no families etc, and wishing they had one or something to come home to.

Answer 4

You stop sacrificing everything for them and stop cutting yourself out of the picture. Mostly, you have to stop feeling guilty for reestablishing yourself. When describing yourself first as a wife and mother then you automatically become third on the list of importance. I'm not a chick, but I believe you create your own reality and are treated the way you allow yourself to be treated. If you are lost it is because you have done that to yourself and set expectations that some might find difficult to except.

Answer 5

getting a job really helped me. Also, reading books and shopping with the girls. Going to the movies. Little by little you start to feel yourself again. But, things HAVE changed so much that you are a totally different person, so you have to find yourself again.
I'm still looking. Good Luck!

Answer 6

This is something I have given some thought to recently. When I have spoken to my Husband about this.....I soon realized that I let myself loose my own identity. I had been taught that Mom's and Wives always come 2nd to everyone else. I just about dropped over when my husband said that never expected me to not have friends or hobbies and that all I have to do is make plans to do something for myself.

It is easy for Women to feel guilty about taking out time for ourselves...... Do you want to find your identity again? If you really want to... then do it. Find something you love about life and TAKE THE TIME to enjoy it. Never take for granted the limited time you have to enjoy something that is all about you.

Answer 7

ME!!!!! But I went and got a part time job and get up everyday now put on makeup and do what I need to do I feel much better about myself now give it a try what can it hurt?

Answer 8

You simply need to accept the fact that you and the circumstances of your life have changed.

Good luck.

Answer 9

my wife has but a part-time job has helped