I've only been officially going out with my boyfriend for just under a month, before which we were sort of seeing each other for a few weeks and known each other since august as friends. I knew from the begininning that he had a pregnant ex girlfriend who was 'supposedly' pregnant with his child. He only went out with this woman for three months and the only way the baby could ever be his is if it had been concieved the first time they slept together (she told him she was on the pill) after he found out she was pregnant he stuck with her for a few weeks but her psychotic behaviour caused him to break up with her. Before you ask, I'm not seeing him through rose tinted specs- all his friends ,who I also know, (including my sister) knew what she was like aswell. Anyway even though they dont get along he has always believed the baby was his even though all his friends have said to each other they don't think the baby's his (could have said something to him!!) anyway, the baby's been born
2007-11-29 05:57:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...apparantly 2 weeks early weighing a massive 9 pounds ten. How suspicious is that! My bf has never mentioned anything about having a paternity test but i think he needs to. I dont feel that I can say anything tho- we've only been together a month and I dont want him to think im just being bitter about the baby. what should I do?
2007-11-29 05:59:09 · update #1
Personally my feeling is that you need to back up and mind your own business. He is grown and is being responsible. It is his decision, and if he feels like that is his kid, good for him to step up and be a man. I mean put yourself if the mom's shoes and that was you who got pregnant, I am sure you would want him to be there for your baby too. You weren't there in the bed with them that night, so you don't really know if that is his baby or not.
2007-11-29 06:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by ?? yaddajean ?? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speak to his family and get them all to Chip in and Buy the test online its only like 99 dollars, and when the baby comes over do the test, and send it in,
this way he doesn't have to say yes or NO, and everyone is happy to know the truth.
no need to upset the apple cart,
You could have the results BEFORE christmas
This is link
http://www.worldwidepaternity.com/
Do it NOW,
M
2007-11-29 14:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't imagine going through life wondering when (if it is his) this person will come chase him down and expect child support. How can he be that ignorant?
This should also be a red flag for you to be careful with him.
2007-11-29 14:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by m k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is the right thing to do. There may be some other guy out there that may be the baby's father.
2007-12-03 03:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what
people like you make me angry
i was with my ex a total of seven months... it took ONE TIME for me to get pregnant with triplets
ONE TIME
my babies were born premature at just over 22 weeks
I THINK ITS SHOCKING TO LIE ABOUT BEING PREGNANT
really
how dare you call this woman psychotic HOW DARE YOU! do you know what its like being pregnant with hormones ragin AND NO MAN BY YOUR SIDE?
well I DO AND ITS NOT FUN
i cant believe you, you know my ex wants nothing to do with my babies. its people like you that make me so angry
he is missing out on the best thing that would have ever happened to him.......
HOW DARE YOU SAY SHES LYING! you dont even know!
you know you really hit a nerve with me on this one and you are well outta line! really seriously over the line.... i would never ever ever lie about who my babies father is.. if she did then yes it was wrong to do so but dont dare call her names
you dont know the situation
perhaps your bf should step up and be A MAN
IT HAPPENS ONE TIME I GOT CAUGHT ONE TIME AND I FELL WITH TRIPLETS WHO WERE BORN AT JUST OVER 22 WEEKS AND YES THEY ARE STILL IN INTENSIVE CARE SO YES,... IT HAPPENS
2007-11-29 14:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by spongebobs biggest fan 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ask him if he wants to go threw life not knowing if the baby is really his or not, its not fare to the child to not know who the father really is. Also if he isn't the father and he claims to be he may have to pay child support for someone elses child.
2007-11-29 14:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by LILAC 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Tell him straight up to take one.
Explain to him that he could end up paying hundreds of thousands in child support that doesn't even belong to him if he's not the father.
Facts, my dear! Good luck.
If he still continues with this chick, DROP him. That is way too much drama to deal with.
2007-11-29 14:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
you really aren't in a position to be deciding weather or not he gets a paternity test, he should decide that on his own, after all you are a newly dating cuople and it's not your problem and you should just stay out of it.
2007-11-29 14:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by complearn99 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
************* RIGHT!
Dont support something that isn't yours.
*Break up with him....telll him how you feel.and tell him hes a dummy.
2007-11-29 14:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He had better, otherwise he will eventually be chased to pay support for someone else's kid.
2007-11-29 14:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋