I need help with my one year old's behavior!?

Question

Ok, I have a baby that is going to turn one on Dec. 7. I have a couple of things that I need advice on. First, he has a bit of a biting problem. He does this towards me most of the time and only occasionaly towards others like his dad and siblings. I don't know if he is trying to kiss me and maybe is teething and goes for a bite, but why only me? He comes towards me with his little mouth wide open and then takes a bite and pulls away. It's getting painful and I don't know what I can do about it being he is only one year old. I think he is way too young for disipline like time out and I'm not sure how to go about it since I never had this problem with the first 2. Then another thing is he is starting to throw tantrums, I thought it was too young but he's doing it. He throws himself on the floor and cries if I walk a step away from him. I've been with him 24/7 since he was born so could this be separation anxiety? I don't know but I need some opinions.

This is for callawak2. I'm sorry if you had a horrible life at the adoption home but my son is perfectly well taken care of. Please be a little more educated and ask questions if you are unclear becuase you have no insight on my parenting abilities. Are you around ignorant people all day long that let their children play with the light sockets. My babies safety is well taken care of. This problem is a little more complicated than you will ever understand. My child is very attached to me and I need educated answers not from just some person thinks they know what they are talking about. Just for your information maybe you should read up on some books about kids and you will understand that children under the age of 2 cannot comprehend why they are being disciplined.

Answer 1

Please, please do not bite your child back as someone suggested. At one year old, your child will not understand that you biting him back is a consequence of him biting you. As hard as it is, try to avoid yelling out or making any noise by which he could be entertained. To him, this will be considered positive reinforcement. The only thing that you can do at his age is to give him a firm "no" and remove him from the situation. For example, if you are holding him and he bites you, tell him no and put him down. If he bites a sibling, remove him from the situation and give him something else to do. Unfortunately, because his understanding at one year of age is so basic, this is all that can be done. You are right that he is too young for discipline. He will not understand and will most likely grow out of this behavior. As far as the temper tantrums go, it does sound like he is experiencing separation anxiety. It usually occurs somewhere between 6 and 15 months. There are only a couple of things that you can do for it at his age. First of all, every time that you leave the room acknowledge him by saying the same thing. "Mommy will be right back". He will begin to understand that you will be back when you say this. Secondly, never ever sneak out of the room or house to avoid a tantrum. This will make the anxiety worse. As with the biting, he will grow out of it. They are both very normal for his age. Good luck.

Answer 2

He is trying to get a reaction from you in both instances. At this age he is learning that he can cause you to react to certain behaviors. Of course he can not understand the negative consequences.
When he bites you say NO! and set him down and walk away. He will cry and probably throw a tantrum. Let him! Just make sure he is in a safe place, like on the floor and away from things he can bang into. After he starts to calm down pick him up and tell that you love him but ha can not bite. Explain that it hurts and makes you said. He won't understand but talking will help you feel better.
You are his favorite toy, that is why he does to you. he just wants to play, but it is time to set some boundaries.
Please do not spank or bite him back. What could that possibly teach him except that biting and hitting or ok?
Now go play with your son, he seems to love you!

Answer 3

Our son just turned 1 year also, he is the same way with me. He bites, me mostly as well, but only when he is teething. I just tell him very sternly no biting. He may not understand the biting part but he does understand the word no. As for the tantrums, I just pretend I don't notice him until he is done, He is not too young for this type of discipline. positive reinforcement works wonders. His tantrums have become less frequent and last for a shorter period of time. Hope this helps you too, Good luck.

Answer 4

My son also tries to bite me at times and I've heard other mothers talk about this. My son is doing it to be playful, not to hurt me...they don't know any better at this age. Do you ever pretend to nibble on him? I would stop doing this if you do. It's hard to prevent the biting, but try not to give him too much of a reaction--sometimes babies bite because they enjoy your reaction. It could also be that he's biting you because he is teething and it feels good to his mouth. Give him something else to chew on if this is the case. Some babies do start to tantrum around 1 yr...again, normal. He is trying to get your attention for whatever reason. It is too early to do any strict disciplining at this point, so your best bet is going to be to try to ignore the tantrums and distract him with something else. Good luck!

Answer 5

I think the biting is one of those things they used their teeth to do, my 11 month old do the same thing because he has eight teeth already but sometimes I gave him teether to bite some time, I usually put it in the fridge to cool so that it can relaxed him a little bit. Even if you start to discipline him now, he doesn't know /understand why you are doing it but as time goes on it will stop drastically.

I hope this help a little bit.

Answer 6

well my kid does these same 2 things that your kid does. When he bites me i tell him no in a very stern voice and then i take his arm and politely bite him back. Then i tell him that it's not nice to bite and i ask him does it feel good and does he like it. And then when he falls out and has a tantrum i spank him and tell him no and that that will not be tolertated and if he does it again i ignore him and don't give him any attention until he decides that he wants to get up.

Answer 7

first get him a toy that he could be able to chew on until he get out fo that stage.... get him some toys that he would like and when he tries to throw a tantrum just give him one of his toys that he likes alot... it could prb be seperation anxiety since you are around him 24/7 you need to let his father take care of him when you want to go out with friends or jsut go shopping.

Answer 8

Well Youre son is very cute!

And this is normal between new borns although i think youre son is a bit old for it now but normal dummys or teething rings usually solve this.

I think theres some spiderman ones in Toys R Us#

Hope i helped

Answer 9

Here's some good info on discipline:

http://askdrsears.com/html/6/T060100.asp

You might want to start working on sign language. Toddlers often get frustrated when they cannot yet communicate, and some simple signs can really help him to feel more in control:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7gSZfW4gVhI
http://www.lifeprint.com/asl101/pages-layout/concepts.htm

Answer 10

i'm a mother of two girls and they each only bit me once and after they bit me i bit them back not enough to do damage or break the skin but they knew i meant business i know it sounds horribly mean but nip this in the bud now or you'll pay for it later, sorry nothing about tantrums other than ig nore them