Is NEW JERSEY really a horrible place to live, or is it just me?

Question

I live here, and I think that this place is the pits. It's just so rude, arrogant, completely morally and soul devoid, and everyone says how it's great for money/schools etc, yet all of our cities suck, the people suck, the suburbs are overpopulated places, and everyone is in such a huge rush and people are usually phony, and Aholes.

I hate it here, and are there better places to live in the country other than here?


OR is this all just me, and New Jersey is in fact wonderful?

If this place is so great, then name me reasons why it is? I'm sure all the reasons that make it great, can also be found in other states as well.


Thanks!

Answer 1

I grew up in NJ, and it has changed a lot since I left. Yep, most of it is the pits now, but I still spend my summers there.

You don't have the Jersey Shore anywhere else, believe me, there are no other 'shores' on the east coast like it.

Some clear winter evening take a ride from 14A to 14C on the pike and check out the view of NYC - it's fabulous! Or take an NJ Transit bus to NYC some night... another great view going into the city.

I suppose the money is good and at least there are jobs. Here in Florida there are very few full time jobs. Mostly they keep you part time so they don't have to pay out any benefits. Anything in retail is minimum wage.

How you view your surroundings has a lot to do with your own attitude. There are a LOT of people that love NJ and wouldn't live anywhere else.

Get off the net and go out and find a few real people to be friends with... they don't all suck (if ALL the people suck and are phony and Aholes, then go look in the mirror... you've just described yourself!)

Time for an attitude check.

Answer 2

I just moved from a suburb in Illinois to NYC and I have to tell you America pretty much feels the same everywhere. New Jersey is the same as where I used to live except for having hills and new trees. The shops seem the same, the gas stations, and even the same fast food chains. I guess it might be a bit more populated which makes it seem like everyone is in a little bit more of a rush. But people are the same everyone. Its not that their assholes, phony, or morally devoid. They are just looking out for their own interests and if phony means being friendly to the next guy when you don't really care about them, then yeah they probably are phony by that definition.

I'm sure that people are different in some was either in the city or much much less populated areas. I would imagine that less populated areas have more of what you consider phony because it is a tight nit community where people have to get along because they may run into each other again. The city is on the other hand is so populated that people don't have time to be friendly. They may make them seem more arrogant at times but you seem to get more honest human interaction when people are friendly. Keep in mind that I am just taking in general terms and its all about a persons perspective. Don't believe that your judgment are the end all be all truth even though they may feel that way.

Answer 3

Honestly, it completely depends where you live in New Jersey. The beautiful thing about the state of NJ is that it is enormously diverse in its landscape, people, culture, and so forth. My personal preference is to not live in the crowded areas closer to the city, such as Newark, Jersey City, Weehawken, Hoboken, and so forth. However, the shopping, restaurants and nightlife in some of these areas are great. You could also go live down at the shore. Places like Long Beach Island, Point Pleasant, Cape May, and so forth have great seafood and you can find a more slower-paced way of living with the gentle sea breeze. OR you could live in the countryside towards the Western side of the state (i.e. Hunterdon County). Towns such as Lambertville hold so much history and represents the ideal "quaint" town with hundreds of restaurants, the sweetest people you have ever met, and a killer night life right over the river in New Hope, PA. Honestly, I love the extreme diversity of NJ. You are so close to NYC and Philly, yet can live a low-key life. You can obtain any experience you would like within the matter of 1-2 hours. It's great!

Answer 4

Yes! I would never move back there!! It's overpopulated with rude and miserable people. Jobs are scarce, and everyone strives at being the best asshole. It's mostly cold and dark all year. It's polluted, expensive, corrupted, dilapidated, and you can't pump your own gas or make a u turn. Tolls are ridiculous! Women overall lack beauty, and if she's a 6 she acts like an 11. Did I mention it's ******* crowded, so take a number and wait in line the rest of your life while you wish to die there, because residing in NJ is a slow and painful death where people don't know what happiness is, just how to obnoxiously honk their horns and cut you off with their middle finger up. douche jersey..not for me. Texas 4 life!!!!!

Answer 5

I used to live there till the age of 16 then we moved to texas where my mom is from.My dad was born and raised in new jersey his whole family is there.I also knew alot of people there.I missed that place so much for alot of years ,but when i went back there when i was in my 20's the place was not the same.people werenot the same.My trip there was a nitemare.I prefer Texas and so does everyone since almost 400 people move here a day and jobs are plentiful.

Answer 6

regardless if it is good or bad it sounds like you need a change. I recommend moving. the worst thing that could happen is you could hate where you end up and then you could just move back. But what if you love where you might move? If you don't try something new you will wake up 20 tears from now in New Jersey wondering what if? That would be the real tragedy

Answer 7

Places in and around Morris County are really nice places to live. As mentioned before, it really depends where in NJ you live. I've been in most of NJ and I haven't seen any cities or towns that really match what you're talking about. Any kind of person could be in any state, really.

Answer 8

No place is perfect. I lived in NJ for 33 years and moved to PA last year for pretty much the same things that you are complaining about. There are many things that are better here, some that are worse, it all just depends on what you are looking for.

Answer 9

NJ sucks big big time...!!! we are here on a business project trip for 6 months and all these areas are like Country Side little villages....old as heck..!!!! everything here is old old old.....we rented an Apt , the building is only 15 years old.....no Central Air/heating...!!!!!! Appliances are like 20 years old.(originals /fixed) NJ has to nothing to show to be sooooooo Expensive, and now the only thing that was good, the Gas prices ....thats also gone..!!!! the Traffic system is the worst in America, the worst!!! you can t make Lefts or U turns...if you missed an Exit or turn...you have to drive miles and miles to come back to the right exit or place....People have no clue what to drive a car is...and if they do , hey drive like maniacs.......if you accelerate or move ahead of someone, they will make it a RACE..!!!!! omg people here are extremely Complex.....they are mostly nice but in denial....they think NJ is " great" ......we have lived in multiple states an cities and this has to be the Shittiest of them all.....we had a State of the Art Condo rented in Northbrook chicago in another Buss project that we had in IL...for 14 months and we were paying less Rent than in this **** hole place..!!!!! the comparison between the one in Northbrook ( chicago) IlL and the one in NJ its like a a Rolls Royce and a Chevy.....in Chicago we had wood floors, Quartzs tops and Back splash in the kitchen...med/top of the line GE stainless steel Appliances...Internet inside the walls..!!!! amenities like a Expensive resort..ect eat....under roof garage to park.........here in NJ , this building is 15 yrs old and it looks like it was build 25 yrs ago or 30 yrs ago.......individual AC units..??? wow....where we live in Florida u have to go to very very poor and ghetto old places to find such old appliances eat eat....no thank you NJ...but no.....thank you NJ are like NY prices with Country side things.....

Answer 10

All Asians is a vast generalization. Asia covers a extensive area of the international. If it replace right into a terrible place for Asian adult males than we does not have quite a few Chinatowns, Little Saigon, Little Phenom Penh, Little Tokyo, quite a few Koreatowns, Little Bombay, Filipinotown, Little Pakistan and Thai city. I probable ignored one million or 2 Asian enclaves, yet you get the factor.