who should i tell?

Question

i am pregnant but i dont know who to tell there is my mother the babies father his family and friends my family and friends. i dont really want to tell anyone but i know i have to who should be first or should i just wait

you all should read my other questions just to get a feel of the situations

Answer 1

OK - I'm rewriting my answer because i just read your other questions.
Jeeez girl, you don't do things by halves, do you?

OK, no point telling you you've messed up and you're too young. Solves nothing, so let's be practical.

Who has been looking after you while your Mum was off on her bender? Is there anyone, say, at school who's aware of your dodgy situation that can help you get sorted out?

Are you in the UK or the US? I'm in the UK, so what I can suggest is based on that.

You need to go and see a doctor. They won't give you a hard time - they're there to look after you and the baby. You're only 14. You already know the options: terminate or have it; adoption or keep it. They'll sort out your health care, the counselling you need to make an informed decision, all the rest of it.

You're going to have to phone or write and tell the father. Realistically he doesn't sound as if he'll be a fat lot of help. Still, if nothing else he can help financially - or be prosecuted; you're under age and he obviously isn't.

The doctor will want to involve social services. Let him. They can find you somewhere appropriate to stay - at least it'll be safe and they'll be nice strangers. I don't lke the sound of you staying at your mum's. They'll also help you with telling your mum and the father's family. Do you think they'll support you? Personally, if he's already in jail, I'm not optimistic on that one.

You sound pretty together about things. Let people help you to decide and do what's best both for you and for the baby long-term. Only you can decide that - but please try to find a way to finish your schooling.

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Answer 2

Begin with your mother. You are her daughter, and as such, you are her responsibility, so I would hope your health and safety would be of utmost importance to her. At this point in your life, you will need to do all you can to care for yourself so that your child can grow inside of you and be born healthy. You will need the help of your mother in order to accomplish this.

Next, you should inform the father of the baby so that he is aware he has a child, and so you and he can make a decision about his part in your baby's life. Hopefully he will respond with a loving heart, and will assume a responsible role, at least to the extent he is able. This is, of course, assuming his not a dangerous or immoral person. If he is, you and your mother should discuss in length, and perhaps seek further advice, on whether or not to tell him.

As far as family goes, leave the job to your mother. Decide beforehand what you will say if a relative asks if you are pregnant, or say no, and seek your mother's opinion on whether or not this relative needs to know. When it comes to your friends, if they are close to you, let them know, otherwise, use your best discretion, or ask your mother's opinion.

Above all, the most important thing right now is your health and safety. Always seek these two things first for the sake of your growing child. It is my hope your mother will help you every step of the way.

Answer 3

Tell your BF first who is responsible for this....then , tell your Mom....and stop.Don't care what the friends and society would think about it.That stage is over.You had acted very irresponsibly.Don't do anything foolish now.Let the BF know first and hear his response.It should be positive ....or else, you have to be bold enough to have an abortion tactfully without allowing anyone to understand this.okay?
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Answer 4

Don't wait. You should tell the babies father first. Then the two of you should go and tell your parents. Good Luck.

Answer 5

tell the babies father, and then tell your mother. Because if you tell your mother that will be her first question. Let him and you tell his family together.

Answer 6

I would go with the baby's daddy and then you 2 can take it from there, but the dad def deserves to know first

Answer 7

i would tell your babys daddy first then your mom/dad and your friends i would let him tell his family and friends thats what i did i was 16 when i got prego but everyone was happy besides him mom and step dad and everything worked out fine for us we are now happily married ( we are now 19)
if you need to talk about anything e-mail me i am friends with lots of people who are young and prego
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good luck

Answer 8

The first person you should tell is your doctor. You should get prenatal care starting right now!

The next person to tell is a trusted adult. They can help you talk the next steps out.

Who I think you should tell is the father-to-be and your parents. Beyond that it is up to you.

Answer 9

Id say the child's dad. Its his kid too,and he must be a part of it from the very beginning.
Also you and the baby's day shod tell each others parents together. That way you show maturity and look more organized.
Good luck with it.

Answer 10

You need to tell the baby's father, and the BOTH of you tell your parents, and then his parents, and accept the consequences.