If u had in the past, would u or would u not tell ur kids that u have done drugs/drink? This morning there was a debat on the radio about telling ur kids what bad things u have done in ur past. Some say telling them will only influence them to try it...while others think not telling them is better off.
I'd like to hear ur opinions..
2007-11-29 03:23:55 · 11 answers · asked by Lils 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am VERY open with my teens. Perhaps too much so. When I tell them something I have done wrong, they use it against me.
They say,"But you did that when you were my age."
* Kids do not respect hypocrites*
2007-11-29 03:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by For Sure 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should always be honest with your children in an effort to help them be honest with you. However, the information you share should be age appropriate. I wouldn't tell a 7 year old that I had used drugs, but I would share that with a teenager if he/she asked about drugs or told me they had friends who were using.
If you talk to your children about the harms of drugs and excessive alcohol, you may never have to divulge any personal information. On the other hand, sharing your experiences and focusing only on the negatives may help your child make the decision to never try drugs or to limit their alcohol intake. It may also help your child to see you as a person, someone who is like they are, instead of someone who appears to have no flaws, you know?
2007-11-29 03:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think they should. ur denying and lying to ur child if u dont. ur teen will always say that u dont understand me, and how could u if uv never done anything. maybe u have done drugs and junk, but the child doesnt know that and probably will continue to do so until their problem comes along that screws up their life and not listen to urs
2007-11-29 05:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by texas_tec_chick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with the answerer who said you wouldn't tell certain things to your kids when they're young. However, when my children hit their teenage years, I absolutely plan on being honest about my life. I've been through a lot....I dropped out of my senior year of high school, I had a baby at 18, moved out at 17, was strung out on drugs, spent 30 days in jail...none of which I am proud of, but I think it is so important to be honest with my children about this. If, say, one of my children are falling into peer pressure with drinking and drugs, I can tell them my experiences (I did drugs and went to jail because I stole to support my habit. That's what drugs do) or "My best friend died and my other friend is sitting in prison because he chose to drink and drive."
It will be hard and it will be very emotional, but I think it's necessary to tell about our experiences, the trials we've made it through, to help our children out. I'm not going to act like I'm perfect because I'm not. We're all human (including moms and dads) and I want to let my children know that. Hopefully, in sharing my experiences with them and letting them know that I dealt firsthand with the consequences, it will prevent them from making as many mistakes as I had to.
2007-11-29 05:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i'm 19 my mom said she never has i don't believe that i'm sure she tryed something but she did get drunk and go to bars at 17 using a fake ID though but i'm a mother of a 2 year old i'm married happpily and don't do that stuff i've tryed it but drinking is the only thing that i liked i'm not going t o lie too my lil girl because i don't want to break her trust. being a mommy and daddy is hard but you just have to talk to your kids let them know that no matter wht you will love them and that you are awlays there for them. make sure their friends are not in to bad stuff same with there moms and dads. there are wat too many moms and dads buying this stuff for there kids
2007-11-29 03:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by kariweber_17 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMO my kids do not need to know what I did wrong as a kid. At some point in time they will take that information and use it against me in a fight to prove their point. I have seen this happen with divorce, drinking and mild drug use in friends and acquaintances. Teens are full of bravado and questions and always schemeing to make things go their way (I was one of those too). Somethings should remain hidden and buried...my past is one of them.
2007-11-29 03:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Instantkarma♥♫ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i was a bad kid, not proud and quite frankly though it is a tough question, i tell my sister that i was an idiot and exaggerate the bad points and tell her not to make the same mistakes and let her know what i missed out on. i let her know that im happier now not doing anything and tell her that its not something to miss... sex too lol anyways, good luck with that one. trust your gut
2007-11-29 15:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by moocowmeow11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question. Maybe once your kids are older, like 18 then yes. But anything younger I don't think I would.
2007-11-29 03:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would not tell my kids until they were adults. i think if i told them what i did they would feel like it is ok to do it too and they could turn around and say "well, you did it!"
i know if my parents had told me what they did, when i was younger i would have had no fear of trying anything. i am glad they waited to tell me.
2007-11-29 03:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by potato 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when he is much older yes he will know my mistakes. not in detail but the purpose will to keep him from my mistakes
2007-11-29 05:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋