How do you get out of naming your child after the father? We are expecting our first together, if its a boy, he wants to name him Willie James, I refuse to name my son that!!! So that is not an option on my end. I can deal with the middle name as a middle name only. I was looking at Christian for a boy or a girl. I am not naming my child Willie. He is so mad right now, its our choice and I have the right to refuse right?
2007-11-29 02:49:00 · 35 answers · asked by MiaDiva28 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
The first name is my choice. I am not compromising by calling him William James, I dont win in this situation; he gets the first and middle name, no thats not right. I will allow him the choice of a middle name but the first name is my choice.
2007-11-29 04:37:53 · update #1
Don't do it! You two should agree on a name TOGETHER, it's both of your child. I think Christain James would be an adorable name. But I wouldn't name my kid Willie either.
2007-11-29 03:07:14 · answer #1 · answered by I ♥ ♥ ♥ you! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do have the right to refuse. Sounds like you are willing to compromise yet he is not. Stand firm unless you have a change of heart. Maybe the more formal version, William, would be appealing to you for the first or middle name. But you know he will be called Willie by his dad. Hopefully not Little Willie ! The father is probably very traditional which is not a bad thing. But you do have a big say in this. If he is so mad right now as you say, that is his issue. Hopefully it won't get ugly for you, meaning an all-out fight. Then you have to rethink the relationship as it sounds he could be controlling.
2007-11-29 02:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Debra G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I also told my husband that I was not going to want to use his name. Lucky for me he was fine because he did not like it either. I was more worried about his father, but it went fine.
Tell him you want the child to have his own identity. The name is a choice you have to make together but it needs to be a compromise and not decided by one.
Maybe you can offer the middle name James or even the first and choose another to go with that.
He will get over it. Try to come up with some options. Be mindful that he will probably reject them for the simple fact that you do not want to use his, but you have time and he will come around.
Have him ask some people (ones you think will provide some good advice) what they think of naming the child after him.
Find out if the issue is that he wants the child named after him, or that you do not like his name. Maybe that will help him move forward.
Good Luck.
2007-11-29 03:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you like the name William? Maybe use the first name after him and decide on a middle name to nickname the child. Or even Christian William sounds good too. You have a right to chose the name, this is what you're going to refer to your child as for the rest of your life. You don't want to regret selecting the wrong name.
2007-11-29 03:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kay-Bee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have the right to refuse it. Willie James is a silly name to pass on.
Maybe you can find another name you both agree upon, and then use James for a first or middle name. James Michael, Robert James, heck, even William James!
Jr's. and III's and stuff always get confused in mail, and life in general. Unless you're married to Donald Trump, J. Paul Getty, or a Vanderbilt, I can't see naming the kid after the father. Esp. w/ a silly name like Willie!
2007-11-29 02:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by Sugar Pie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you two need to compromise. If he really wants his name...then go with the middle name but you can pick out the first name. I think Christian James is beautiful for a boys name and how about Christian Jane for a girl??
=)
2007-11-29 05:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by ツ ♥ღλκ ※ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of Christian William James! That may be a great compromise. When my son was born my husband and I refused to name him after my husband because his name is Dana. In today's world that is a very girl name so we named him Adam Alexander! Congrats on the baby!
2007-11-29 03:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by renee70466 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my 1st wife and I argued about the name until she was born, when the nurse asked the name of the baby my wife said her choice. I was so grateful for a healthy baby and a safe delivery, that I didn't care. we named the second daughter my choice. Willie is a little boys name, and something you shouldn't be saddled with as an adult. would he except William James? it has a much more authoratative sound to it, i.e., " now presiding over the supreme court, the right honorable William James....(insert last name here) one of my brother's-in-law is named william, and so is his 2nd son, the first was named for the grandfather, who was about to pass on
2007-11-29 03:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like Christian William James. Or what about James William? Is there a reason dad wants his son named after him? Is it a family tradition. My son has his dad's first name as his middle name (tradition). I hate it, but out of respect, I agreed to it!
2007-11-29 03:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just name him William and your husband can then call him Willie all he wants.
I kid you not........ When one refers to a "willie" they know that you are using a euphemism or slang for "penis". I am all for tradition if it was like Willie James the third but in this case...... Jeez, talk about a lifelong impediment. Sure if your nickname around your drinking buddies was Willie all is well.
But to put that on a driver's license, college application or resume in this day and age? You have every right to refuse at this point.
2007-11-29 03:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by jackson 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do have the right to refuse that. I told my husband if we ever have a boy we are never going to make him a jr. That is my opinion. I know some people like to do this, and it's fine. You need to tell him that you will agree to his middle name but YOU and the FATHER have to COMPROMISE on a first name.
2007-11-29 02:52:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋