I've taken an old friend of mine into my home. He's hit some hard times lately and I want to give him a break. Here's the problem: He's a pretty serious pillhead. I made it clear to him that if he's going to stay here, he MUST fix his addiction and he MUST get his life together with all speed. Have you dealt with trying to help a drug-addicted friend before? Any input would be useful. What to look for in terms of relapse, what boundaries to set, etc.
2007-11-29 02:31:15 · 4 answers · asked by aquaman2964 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's a hard one.
Addicts can't stop for themselves for the most part; so stopping just because you said so.....I seriously doubt.
He will need help with this, more help than you can give him. I'd say help him out with a place to stay and point him in the direction of some counseling and see what happens. I wish you luck.
2007-11-29 02:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Indypendence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first understand where he is coming from... think of how you would want someone to help you if u were in situation... u know? like thats usually the best way to help someone.. understanding where there coming from.. and also putting into account what the "right" thing to do for them.. and how to do it .. Therepy would also be good start! Look up in the telephone directory for therepy classes for people who are addicted to drugs.. usually have some there.. call and book a appointment after.. and make it clear to him that if he MUST stay in your house he needs to go to the therepy class and give up all the pills that he has and make an effort to change!
"you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink if it doesnt want to"
so be aware.. if he is "trying to change" then hes on the right start.. if you are doing all the work and hes not making an effort to change.. then its not gonna work!
2007-11-29 10:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a spouse and/or children then I would say kick him out. Your rules will not get him off drugs; he will get off when he is ready. It’s great that he has a good friend as you are but I think you might want to assist him with getting into a center that can help him get clean, after that then invite him back into your home to get a fresh start.
2007-11-29 12:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by nightplay205 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick him out! show him that what he is doing is unnacceptable. i used to be a drug addict and it went on for years. once i realized i had no place to go- i changed. i got tired of being moved around from place to place. you can lead a horse to the water but you can't make it drink. you can show him what to do... but you can't force him to do it. if he is not ready. then your waisting your time.
2007-11-29 10:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by victoria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋