Can you have wisdom and be emotionally attached to someone at the same time?

Question

As in Romantic attachment? Family attachment?

Or does wisdom constitute a sort of detachment from these things?

Answer 1

It is impossible for a human to be detached from EVERYTHING. We might be attached to people, places, memories, dreams...SOMETHING.
Wisdom has nothing to do with attachment. People have emotions about certain things that are sometimes totally irrelevant to what they know about those things.

Answer 2

Through wisdom, a person can find that it is a great thing to allow deep emotional attachments to flourish. There will always be a level of objectivity to this as the decision would encompass taking responsibility for the experience of the people you love, but you can enter into these relationships whole-heartedly and without fear, given a level of wisdom that understands the value of this. Also, at some point, wisdom instructs that the experience of life is to be embraced fully.

Answer 3

Wisdom is a part of these things.
Of course you can be wise and emotionally attached to someone. You can be emotionally attached to a dozen if you care.

Answer 4

Yes of course you can have emotional attachments and wisdom. In fact with wisdom you are far less likely to make false starts and muff up the attachments you do have.

Answer 5

Yes, but it may require maturity to keep things in ballance.

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Transactional Analysis sees people as having 3 main parts of their personality or modes.

These are:

Parent: (what should you do)
who wants to guide, and comfort;
Child: (what you want)
who wants goodies like: guidance, and comfort;
Adult: (how to get it)
who tries to work out how to get things done.

When you first meet a person your subconscious (guided by instincts and social customs) seeks out people you should be attracted to.

(E.g. most women like tall guys, most people go for faces that have diametrically complementary looks on a masculine V femininity scale)

Your brain is then awash with lust chemicals causing your intelligence to fall and you not notice the faults of your desired partner. This is done to get you hooked into the relationship in the early stages, and maybe get you hot blooded enough to forget that sex leads to babies or emotional commitments.

From a TA point of view your child will be totally in Gaga land
wanting to have romantic or lustful needs fulfilled.

The parent (in you) will be asking you if you should be doing this on moral grounds, (or will your partner impress friends or society) but being pleased that you have found someone.

The Adult will be making sure you have protection and keep a level enough head not to anything to stupid like spending all your money on clothes or gifts to please your partner.

In a healthy person the adult will be in charge but allow the child to enjoy the thrill of the emotions but step in if things get out of hand.

Once the initial lust has worn off, the body produces addictive comfort drugs, which are designed to keep couples together.

The affect of these creep upon you slowly.

You generally only notice a comfort, whilst around your partner but if the relationship is long enough you will feel a longing for the person when they are away because of comfort drug withdrawals.

Knowing all this intellectually, does not stop me from enjoying romantic feelings.

Thus a part of me has the wisdom to know what is going on, but anaother part of me has the wisdom to sit back and enjoy the experience.

Answer 6

Wisdom can be used in a romantic setting but it is good to get advice from many sources. That way you can obtain the best of wisdom. Ask people you know people who don't. Ask people who are involved in your life ask people who have nothing to do with you. You will get a wide spectrum of advice and still make your own decisions based on that advice. I will gladly give you my best advice based soully on my own life experiences. Feel free to email me at [e-mail]

Answer 7

It entirely depends on the whether or not the 'attachment' is 'good'. A wise person will wrench themselves from an attachment that is doing them harm. A wise person will submit to and nurture the attachment that does them good.

Answer 8

You can't possibly "detach" wisdom" from this? Wisdom along with knowledge and understanding...all work together hand in hand...and these three..comprised together...work best when they are brought from the perspective of "love"..therefore, without love..they are "hallow, shallow,and make one like a computer" and seeing we are "people" how nice it is to be able to share the whole of ourselves in our entirety.....this is what makes love "complete!" so, don't mess this one up.."Peace!"

Answer 9

Love is blind...you figure it out for yourself...

Answer 10

the burn believes very few can do so.