My wife is cheating on me.?

Question

I have the guy's home and work phone number, address, email address and wife's name. How can i exact revenge on this guy?

Hmmm...there is a lot of good advice here, but I must add one thing, we have two young children, so right now, leaving them or divorcing her is not an option.

Answer 1

Part of me wants to tell you sooo bad to just bombard his phone email and mail with how he is a cheater....but the question you need to answer is...do you want to stay with your wife? Hurting him could drive her closer to him because he would seem like the victim...when really you are the victim.

If you are 100% sure that they have been cheating on their spouses (you and his wife) maybe think about talking to her. Give her the evidence and then tell your wife that you know.

Please remember though, if they have children, you would be hurting them as well....and you also may not feel good about what you are doing after the fact....you cant take it back when the damage is done.

Betrayal makes us all feel the need for vengance...but vengance is not an answer to the long term issue. It may make you feel good for a moment....but the long term effects may haunt you forever.

If you want to work it out and stay with your wife you need to tell her to cut all contact and the two of you need to get in to counseling.

Good Luck!

PS If you cant live with her betrayal, then I would leave her. dont tell her that you know and just hand her divorce papers. Site his name on the papers and it will now be public record of her affair with this man.

Answer 2

You have choices, the solutions or the false exits to the situations and live in denial. If you think about it, it's not the other guy's fault, he has nothing personal with you. It's your wife problem, that's just a random guy *she* picked, the best you can do, is forget about revenge and concentrate and solve the problem where the problem is. If you want revenge, don't make a single move, just leave your wife now if you have the guts. You will find someone better somewhere in case you want someone, but the other guy has absolutely no fault on this except for the moral aspect if he cares about that, which is his personal decision. Work on yourself, admit you just made a poor choice with who you chose as a partner, and correct that at the soonest, by leaving. That's the best path for you to be happy, there is no point on doing any harm to the other guy, since that is just a random guy and he never had intentions to hurt you, you have been the one who has hurt yourself for the partner you have chosen, and what happens in your life now and in the future same as it was in the past, was and is your responsibility, if you want a nice future without the problems you are having now, leave and chose another partner in the future. It's the smart move, the other ones, are to just deny and believe that doing revenge, will solve your problem (yes in your mind) but it doesn' solve anything, you will be in the exact same spot and most likely things will be getting worse since you are not working on where the problem is.

Answer 3

A real man would beat the guys azz and screw the other mans wife and divorce his wife,, if not you will go through life feeling like a wimp and inadequate in the sex department i know men who went through this and did nothing that had trouble getting a erection with other women because of the shame they felt for not standing up for themself.. good luck have a friend on standby to bail you out..

Answer 4

My Wife cheated on me several times. By the time I found out it had been 15 years. The last guy was a seven year thing. My wife told him that I knew what they were doing. Do you think he was concerned about my wife. No, he wanted to know if I was going to tell his wife. I let him sweat it out for a few months then I told his wife and never regreted it. When she confronted her husband he told her everything. That's when i found out my wife was lying about what they did. I still don't regret telling his wife. Once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 5

Get some pictures of them and send them anonymously to his home and office. Then send a copy to your home, best way is to drop them in the mail box with no addresses, just a blank envelope. If you can get a fax number at work then you can fax the pics from a public fax machine.
If she is doing him in your home and bed then it is legal for you to take pics so that is a good idea of them frolicing together.
So he gets it from 2 ends(no pun intended ) and your wife knows that someone knows about it and she either gets really guilty and starts to treat you better or leaves. In either case you win.

And never let on that you know about it. It will drive her nuts trying to figure out who knows.

Answer 6

Revenge really sucks and takes a lot of energy. Also, why not blame your wife as much as you do the guy?, I agree with the first person to answer, and that is, let him and her be together, normally after awhile she will have many regrets, and you will have the freedom to watch them try to figure out, why you threw in the towel, just like that. It becomes like a comedy. Seriously, let this go and time will catch up with them. take care.

Answer 7

OK, revenge! Im sure there are prositutes somewhere in your area. Sleep with everyone of them. Your bound to recieve some type STD. Continue sleeping with your wife! Then you could give them all AIDS. But then on second thought he may have already given it to your wife and then you.

Answer 8

I would not have it mate I had the same thing happen to me but there were seven of them she tried to tell me it was a play and her cloths fell off I don't know weather to believe her my wife snow is usally honest

Answer 9

why do you want revenge on the guy? it's your wife that's doing it!

i was in the exact same situation 2 years ago, and unbeknownst to me their affair had been off and on for 10 years. which calculates to almost our whole marriage. you don't want revenge. you're hurt. and spreading around that hurt in order to "catch" everyone is just going to make things a lot worse and by far more complicated. get your revenge by separating at least, if not divorcing her. it'll hurt like hell, but in the long run you just might be better off.

Answer 10

My husbands ex had an affair. What he did was call the wife and told her who he was and met her for coffee....he told her everything. After he did this he kicked her out of the house and told her she could have the guy...that he was done. The guy ended up dumping her also so now she has our lives to peer at and know what a huge mistake she made. Great revenge.....this guys wife left him also...now he has child support and alimony.