My ex walked out on me when I was 17 weeks pregnant. He wants nothing to do with the baby and that's fine by me. But the thing is, if he goes on to ind another girlfriend and it's "the one" for him and they get married and have kids, what's the difference in a mans heart between the 2 kids? Ok, lets say hypothtically they are 3 years apart.
This hasn't happened but obviously it will as my ex doesn't like being single and has to be with someone. (26 and still lives at home rent free with mummy by the way)
So people...Discuss your views?
2007-11-29 01:44:10 · 9 answers · asked by Kayleigh + Alexandra 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ok that makes no sense. I meant what's the difference between my baby and the baby with his new lady.
2007-11-29 01:45:17 · update #1
Oh and I don't know if people have read my other posts but he never actually gave me a proper reason for leaving me. Just that I never let him watch enough football and he wanted to do things that he couldn't do while he was in a relationship. Did make me laugh a lot.
Oh and I don't know about Child support money from him. I think I can handle on my own without him. Yeah ok the money would be nice but just having the satisfaction that I never needed his help in any way shape or form and I raised my child by myself would give me great pleasure in my heart. Yes I know it would mean him getting away with it but I just can't be bothered with the hassell that he'll give me.
2007-11-29 01:59:49 · update #2
Oh, There is no need for a DNA test either. He knows the childs his. I had my 22 weeks scan yesterday to find out the sex. He knew better than me when that scan date was. He didn't turn up at all.
I think this might all make you laugh a bit though...he's now looking for a new girlfriend on FaceBook.com.
2007-11-29 02:15:36 · update #3
Some guys aren't grown up enough to handle a baby.
If he still lives with mommy he is definately not grown up enuf.
At 26 he should have at least some feelings for a baby he helped create. I wouldn't worry about what he does in the future. I would just move on with my life and make sure that you are secure enough to cut him off someday when he regrets his decision. That is if he ever does.
It sounds like all he cares about is himself, and that probably won't change.
Some men just don't have a heart. And a lot of those that do, don't know how to show any love or caring.
2007-11-29 01:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is a big baby his self and his mother should be ashamed for letting him live there rent free at his age...
Be prepared for a sibling for your child because this man undoubtedly can't control himself when it comes to women and must have a cold heart if he wants nothing to do with his child. If he does get someone else pregnant, remember to take only your child into account when you decide what to do. Your child has a right to a father, so if he doesn't want it, have him sign away his rights to the baby. Later he may regret this decision but I think if he has another child he may or may not care about that child either...you will have to wait and see. Even if he is a true father to the other child and not yours, you child has a right to grandparents and siblings that come from this man. Don't let your child get to be a teen and then they find out they have a sibling...they will blame you for not knowing them. You could try to get him involved in your childs life by sending him ultrasounds, getting a DNA test to prove to him it is his child, inviting him and his mother to birthday parties, showers, or whatever involves your child, that way you can never be blamed for not trying...
2007-11-29 09:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think my opinion will help but maybe u find comfort somewhere to know people share this with you..
However, a baby is never to be held guilt because this innocent soul is the victim and ot the parents. ur bf, sorry, ur ex, is a big baby and if he can't live without a relationship it's bcz he is not independant. He is so low if he would love any future child more than he will love the one he has from you. That's all I can say because the baby did not chose his parents neither made them have him nor caused their break up, and if someone breaks up with another for a baby, they're jerks! we should care for babies, and not leave them behind!
2007-11-29 10:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in my opinion they should all be treated the same, and Honey let me tell ya some thing nail his butt for child support. He is not a man just a boy trapped in a mans body. Any guy that can walk off from his own flesh and blood is nothing and will never be anything either. Good luck with your baby and u will be just fine.
2007-11-29 09:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Millysspot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner's (now 23) dad had 6 children with his wife and then left her for another woman who told him it was her or his kids, he chose her. The kids were (oldest) 19 (youngest) 7. He never sees any of them and isnt interested in his grandchildren either, BUT he treats his currents wifes children and grandchildren as his own and cannot do enough for them!! Some men just find it easy to detatch themselves from certain situations. The way my partner sees it, is he's better off without someone like that in his life. Good luck with the baby x
2007-11-29 09:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Rylie's Mammy ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. he gets married with a girl "the one" and has kids... Yet you have baby from him too but he chooses not to be part of that baby's life..... i can't understand why he feels that way but has it occured to you that maybe he might think that baby isn't his??? Why don't you have a DNA test done to prove that he is the daddy? That might make him come around.
not for you but for the baby's sake. if he does know this is his child then there is no reason why he should choose between 2 kids. he sounds very irresponsible.
2007-11-29 10:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really good question, I would be interested in hearing the male views. I have wondered about that myself, as my ex has never had any more kids (vasectomy) I often wonder if they do favour the ones' they have with the new partner or not. Anyway what a ****** for leaving you pregnant at 17 weeks!
2007-11-29 09:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jasper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no difference in between the babies.The difference is the emotional frame of mind he had in each of those situations.He may be a jerk and never care for your child and that would be a shame...but not for y'all-for him.But maybe when that time does come and he has another kid maybe he will grow up and realize that he needs to care for and love his first born also.The question is..would you let him?
2007-11-29 09:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by berlytea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously you two broke up for some reason...so maybe it's more resentment towards you.
2007-11-29 09:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jem 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋