My husband recently went on a company trip to Phuket in Thailand. When he came back
1) I found a ticket to a strip club in his pants pocket while doing the laundry. He insists he didnt go, and said the ticket must be someone else's.
2)I found receipts for beer in his pocket while I was taking out the foreign currency. He says he didnt drink (i have something against drinking and he knows its) and he just treated his colleagues. Says his drink isnt ont the bill because he had plain water, which he never does.
3) I found lipstick on the collar & back of his shirt while doing laundry. First he said it wasnt lipstick then he said maybe someone accidentally brushed against him, then he said (when I was abt to leave) that some hooker had tried and he brushed her off.
4) Today I found another lipstick mark on another shirt from that trip. This time at the part of the shirt that is tucked in. He said he doesnt want to go thru another round of accusations.
Ha. So wat do u think?
2007-11-29 01:34:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is clearly cheating and you know it.
2007-11-29 01:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by andie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think he is lying, that's what I think. I think you know perfectly well what he was up to on that trip, don't you?
It seems unlikely that he was stumbling around having strangers put receipts for beer and strip clubs in his pockets, and having strange ladies use his shirt as a makeup removing cloth.
You have got some thinking to do, and possibly counselling (go by yourself if he won't go). I guess the next step includes confronting him more directly, saying you know what he did, and also - very important - don't have sex with him, get checked by a doctor (so should he) just in case he picked up any transmittable souvenirs.
I wish you all the best and hope you will be OK. This must be so awful for you.
2007-11-29 09:50:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are so overbearing in the sense that you "have a thing against drinking" that your husband feels like he has to lie to you, if he goes out with the boys for a little R & R on a business trip. Believe what you want to believe, I know you will. But the fact is when you keep a dog on a chain for too, long when he gets a chance to run he will. You are lucky if he comes back.
It saddens me that a person has to lie to a spouse because the spouse is so radical about one thing or another. If you want to stay married then you need to realize that regardless of your distaste for drinking, he might not share your feelings and if you try to control him he will crack.
I can tell you that I have been married for 17 years and have never had an affair. I have however been approached (physically) by many women, some have even gone as far as to spray their perfume on me and give me an unexpected kiss. I can only imagine what your response would be to your husband coming home smelling like perfume. In America a person is supposed to be innocent until proven guilty. Ease up on the guy.
Yoda out.
2007-11-29 09:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just drop it and forget all about it, he was 15,000 miles away from home and even if he did cheat you can never prove it unless he admits to it.
Its not uncommon for businessmen to take colleges and or potential clients to strip clubs in order to win them over and get their business,,,,,,,, That doesn't mean your husband cheated on you. And you know as well as anyone else that even if you don't do anything wrong its really not a good idea to tell your spouse that you have been to such a place because it will only cause an argument and unwarranted suspicion.
No reason to ruin a good marriage because you think something happened that maybe didnt happen
2007-11-29 10:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that he was rescuing some poor unfortunate person on the street when a fight broke out, and the fight was so large it spilled into the strip club and he was shoved into a group of dancers and the lipstick accidentally got on his shirt and the beer receipts were flying and somehow landed in his pants. When he got back to the hotel he threw the shirt on a pile of dirty laundry and the lipstick got on another shirt.
2007-11-29 09:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well Thailand is known for that type of entertainment.
The real question is...........What do you think? Does he have a history of cheating?
Another question I have is............why are you so questioning, if the man just wanted to go out and hang with the fellas it seems he would have to lie to you whether he did something wrong or not.
2007-11-29 09:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Indypendence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever lied to you before? It's possible he just had a wild weekend with his buddies from work. Try not to jump to conclusions. I, by no means, condone that type of behavior! Sounds to me like he went to a strip club, and some of the dancers got their lipstick on him.
2007-11-29 09:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thailand is known for its cheap hookers. If you found lipstick there he probably cheated on you.
2007-11-29 09:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by Joey B 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Who cares about some scrawny, no T&A gooks in Thailand?? YUCK!
2007-11-29 09:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Violation Valerie X 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you blame him??? He has a mommy not a wife! Leave the man alone, he is an adult and should be able to have a drink occasionally and go to a strip club with the guys. LEAVE the poor man ALONE!!!!
2007-11-29 09:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
I think you haven't trusted him LONG before this trip- and for good reason.
2007-11-29 09:41:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋