my hubby &I have been married a year.when we first met , he told me that he loved me &knew he wanted to marry me. he is loving &sweet .after 6 mths , I found out that he was on a student visa.I offered him the option to get married to secure his immigartion staus. I just felt that since we loved each other,this was something that would eventually happen so why not do it.he refused at first,saying he would rather do it with someone who understood that it was more a deal than a marriage. he then reconsidered &we got married.now,I have always told him that I married him because I loved him &thats how I feel.we did not tell our families,since we had done this in a hurry,but I hoped in a year,he would porpose in the right way &pay my drowry to my parents.right now,it has been just over a year&he nevery speaks of these plans.I am an equal financial partner,I treat him like a king &adore him. he got in trouble & now I cant file his immigartion, no one can.
2007-11-29 00:59:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he commited a felony , aggraveted assult and once you commit a crime , immigartion goes out the window.now , we are marrie dlegally but our families dont know this.he has to pay a dowry for me for them to knw we are married. now, will he ever do this or not. he is in more legal trouble now , and I still stand by him.Im just getting tired of trying to prove Im worth the him paying for my dowry.what do you think
2007-11-29 01:02:17 · update #1
pardon my sp mistakes.
2007-11-29 01:03:20 · update #2
gosh, he's the one who's supposed to prove that he married you for love.
Sounds like he's taking advantage of you. let him deal with his problems for once. Wait and see.
2007-11-29 01:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Tesse Malou 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's complicated. The question is: "are you willing to love him still even though, he can't pay any dowry?" I don't think so that he has the money to pay up, right? The way I see it, you're the one financing all the "damages" he has occurred. In that case, how can he pay up, right? Think about it... I wish you happiness.
2007-11-29 09:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by skeptical 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got duped, there is no dowry and there won't be any in the future. It is best for you tell the whole story to your parents that they might help you to get out of this marriage as soon as possible that you may distance yourself from him and his criminal activities.
2007-11-29 09:17:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you tried to rescue this man and fix his problems. That's a sign of poor self esteem on your part, not love. If you can, divorce him. He will ruin your life, you are now a reflection of him, that makes you as bad as he is. You don't deserve that. Grown men need to be responsible for their own behavior, thats a sign of maturity needed in a good husband.
2007-11-29 09:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him where's the dowry??? Suggest to your family to go after him about it worse than a bill collector would.
2007-11-29 09:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What country do you live in / what culture still requires dowries? If I was him, I wouldn't pay it.
2007-11-29 09:10:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut your losses and leave the loser!
2007-11-29 09:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋