I've know that my brother has been gay since he was 15 years old. I have no problem with it by my parents are like in denial about it. That was until yesterday, my parents were awa at the store and my brother and his bf were in his room doing what people in love do when my mom walked in. Seh just walked out and was really upset. me and my brother really ant them to be ok with his sexuality so how can we help them accept this??
2007-11-29 00:51:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
They need to know that he cant help being gay its not his fault is like an alcoholic without beer
2007-12-02 14:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by jperez08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more respectful of your parents home and ask your brother not to do anything inappropriate while they are at home. This is a rule you follow regardless of if you are gay or straight, male or female. Being gay is not a big deal, but for some people that come from a different generation it can sometimes be very hard to accept and I guess perhaps your parents are saddened and upset that their son is gay. Look at the situation through their eyes and perhaps you and your brother can sympathize with them. If your brother is the only son then it's an even harder blow. If sitting down and discussing this with them together is difficult them maybe you should make a video of you talking to them about your feelings. Tell them how much you love them and want them to always be a part of your life and that it is important that you have their support and love in everything you do. That you wish things could be different but your sexuality is not a choice and you want them to be a part of your future and life. It's important to make them feel you love them and see things the way they do. You may not be able to change the way they view homosexuality, but the son you are is still here and that will never change. It's a hard question to answer, but I hope I have put a little more light into it. Good luck and all the best for you and your brother and family.
2007-11-29 09:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well by the way they are going they will lose their son eventually! He is what he is and nothing will change that - particularly bullying into what other see as right.
All you can do is give him your support and let him know that at least you are on his side. In time your parents may well come around to the idea, some people of different ages live in different times in their heads.
2007-11-29 09:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by dabbit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya your parents need to learn to except it. Really your bro needs to sit down and have a talk with them.. Time changed it is now ok to admit and also act gay in public and to ur parents without the fear of being killed, so tell ur brother to have a talk with them.. Your parents need to learn to except it overall
2007-11-29 08:54:42 · answer #4 · answered by Marco P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it, not your business, let him handle it. If he is going to act like an adult in your parents home he needs to fight his own battles. Support him behind the wcenes but do not confront your parents about it unless asked by your parents. When that happens give your honest opinion.
2007-11-29 09:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just have your brother have a legit conversation with your guys's parents...and tell him to be honest on how he feels...the good thing is that your parents know...so you dont have to worrie about that anymore anyway's...love isnt about what people think it is ... its about what you trully feel inside...and should never be ashamed of it, also have him ' show your parents this is what he trully is and wants...and that ...all he wants from them is love and support...im sure they will understand...after all hes their son anyways bro ...just support your brother and love him...and tell him I say ...whatever he does ...never let anyone make him feel belittled...and always keep his head up...after all hes decisions should only be maid by him
hope i helped if you need anymore help ...just I M me ...and goodluck to you,your bro and your family , and hope it goes well...
2007-11-29 10:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can try being more respectful of their home for one thing...I never once got caught doing what people in love do at my parents home. He also should at the earliest opportunity sit down with then and talk honestly about his orientation. You stay out of it unless asked for your opinion.
2007-11-29 08:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by ~Just 1 good egg~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't really 'help' them accept it I hate to say. It's something that only the dark magic of time will fix. They'll learn to live with it and embrace it sooner or later...after all they are adults- they don't want to act childish about it do they!
Good luck,
Simon :¬}
2007-11-29 11:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by Simon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help them accept this. They will come to terms with it when they are ready. Give them a little time to get around their mental block and they will be fine. They might never be completely comfortable with it but they should accept it.
2007-11-29 08:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Book by Dossie Easton called "When Someone You Love is Kinky." Excellent book which should help. Read it and pass it along to your mother. I ordered mine off of Amazon.
2007-11-29 09:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by LadyBug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋