Couple of years ago I had an accident and part of my face got burned and is scarred. Women see me and run the other way. A friend of mine introduced me to his cousin and she's a beauty. She's single and lives a quiet life and I found it hard to believe that she was single and not dating anyone and would even go out with me. She took one look at me and told me I have the bluest eyes she has ever seen in her life. We're dating now and she has never asked me about my scars. On the last date I put my arm around her and she looked at me and smiled and put her arm around me too. Last night she called and I was afraid to answer the phone, thought she was calling to break up with me. She left a message and said she was thinking about me and have a nice night Blue eyes. Blue Eyes is what she calls me and I like that. I don't understand why she didn't run the other way when she first met me. Is it crazy to say I feel wanted by her?
2007-11-29 00:50:09 · 26 answers · asked by Jeff 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not at all. I think you know in life that we take chances and are strengthened by the outcome. Whatever it may be.
Don't be so surprised when things like this happen cause to some woman beauty is on the inside. Congratulations on finding someone who isn't so shallow to think that you are just one big scar. Some woman think that way.
Why don't you talk to her about it when you are comfortable enough to bring up the subject. First compliment her not on her beauty on the outside but what you see on the inside. Then say something like most woman don't see my personality( or if you are more in touch with yourself say soul)through my eyes, all they see is my scar. Then see what she says. And then thank her for being her.
Just a suggestion. As as open person who needs to get to know someone very well before befriending them I wouldn't mind asking that other person about what they thought of my scars.
2007-11-29 01:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Rainbow Water~~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Soak it up people don't come around like that often...you actually found a girl that cares about you ...inside!! That's what it's all about. Don't be so hard on yourself about your scars! The women running the other way are very shallow people and I would assume you wouldn't want a girl like that... scars or not right? As far as her not asking any questions. You friend hooked you up he probably already told her what happened. Any obviously that's not what she sees when she looks at you...BLUE EYES!! You sound like a great guy and I'm pretty sure thats what she's after....most of us girls want a good man you know. Plus you sound like your still pretty handsome..Blue Eyes!
2007-11-29 09:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. You deserve someone like that. The other women you are referring to are all shallow. This girl sounds like a genuine person. Don't read too much into it, the girl obviously cares about you. She might not ask you because she thinks it would be painful for you to talk about. She is being sincere. Like you said, the other women run the other way, shes not those people. Its good you found someone that will look past imperfections and focus on the personality you have. She has character.
2007-11-29 08:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She didn't run because she sees your true self which is not what you are on the outside. You are not crazy, this is what loving with the heart is all about. You need some short term counseling to deal with your feelings of poor self esteem and to get some tools to cope with what you consider differences than anyone else. Take a good look around you, no one is beautiful on the outside unless the inside is beautiful. I have psoriasis all over my body, and at times I'm one big red flaky blotch. Those that love me look right past that and see what's in my heart. That's whats happening to you. Don't let your insecurities ruin your chance for happiness, take the leap of faith that she is offering you. Good luck in your future.
2007-11-29 09:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe she's just being herself, and friendly.
Maybe she really likes you.
Maybe for her, you as a person are more important than your face.
Just don't let your scarred face affect the way you think about the intentions of others. Afterall, not all people choose their friends or partners according to people's appearance.
People who have great character are always being liked by others no matter how they look in the outside.
Cheer up! Maybe you have just found a true friend.
Be positive!
God bless you!
2007-11-29 09:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by sojourner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you checked the view into your blue eyes lately?
It's funny how we look in the mirror and see our skin, our hips, our outer shell that we self-judge and present to the world.
Obviously, your young lady first saw the beauty in your very blue eyes (I can almost picture the blue--you are to be envied.) Then, she experienced the you who relaxed when not being asked about or judged by your scars.
It's possible that this lovely young lady is curious and patient and waiting for you to talk about what happened to you. Since your friend introduced you, chances are good that she already knows what happened. She simply can wait for a time when you feel comfortable enough to discuss it.
You have a peach here, and maybe it's time to speak on a subject that is painful to you, and hard to talk about.
God bless...and take your time, she is!
2007-11-29 09:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have a hang up about your scars doesn't mean she does. You need to trust her for what she presents to you until she shows you another side. I am so sorry this happened to you but quit looking for ways to be hurt by her. She likes you. Now enjoy yourself...and go see a therapist so you don't screw this up with her :-)
It will be okay, she sounds like a normal person. Believe it or not, most of us don't care if you have a scarred face or something else wrong. Be faithful, don't lie, treat her respectful and make her laugh.
2007-11-29 08:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Mad Maddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone in the world is fixated on looks. Some people out there actually look deeper into people. She has found something in you she finds attractive and focuses on it, the scars don't bother her. Some really pretty women have been burned (so to speak) themselves by good looking men and want nothing to do with that life anymore. Maybe she finds comfort in your looks, she doesnt have to worry with you.
Be happy you have found this special person, now don't screw it up with your insecurity!
2007-11-29 08:56:32 · answer #8 · answered by Leizl 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
This women who your currently dating, clearly sees you for you, not what you look like. She sounds great. You have lack of confidence, and you ned to realise that these other women who 'run the other way' are just bitches!
I think you need to tell this lady friend about your scars, and how you feel about women. She''ll understand. Good luck, I hope everything goes well for you.
2007-11-29 08:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - score some self esteem.
Just ride it out - if you make scenarios in your head that she is calling to break up with you - you are going to be too negative and it will come through in your relationship how insecure you are. Who cares if you have some scars? In this month's People with the Sexiest Men Alive they have a section with 4 hot dudes with scars. Stop it! Love yourself so other people can, too. Good luck!
2007-11-29 08:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by so Fresh 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋