Okay so forever I have had nothing but drama with the mother of my fiancé’s “other” children. What happened was he cheated on me with this girl and got her pregnant about 4 yrs ago. I left him and then he stayed with her during that time and she got pregnant again by him. (VERY JERRY SPRINGER…I know)! Well anyway…….we got back together after awhile and began counseling and so on as we have two sons of our own and decided to make our relationship work. Since our relationship has been great….we get along great and are the best of friends. But the other women was very bitter that he came back to me and didn’t want her so she would slash my tires, break windows, call me and leave LONG CRAZY messages on my phone, try to fight me and so on. It has been wild. Well all of a sudden a couple days after her last incident of trying to get crazy with me she is all cooperative and even asked my fiancé if we could keep their girls while she went to work. Now remind you she hasn’t let him see them before this in 9 months. And now she is all “cool”. Which I am glad for….but I just wonder what are her motives and if I should keep my gaurds up b/c she is unstable and there might be something behind her coming to her senses. How should I assume this situation? Thank you.
2007-11-29 00:44:56 · 12 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would be very careful if I were you, people as unstable as you have described will sometimes use the kids and the last thing you need is to be accused of something untrue (ie. abuse) So if I were you I would definately keep my guard up and as much as I hate to say it if you do decide to keep them never be alone with them, that way there is no room for her lies
2007-11-29 00:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by firegirl0514 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're right about one thing. This is VERY Jerry Springer. So let me see if I have this straight. You had a boyfriend, had 2 kids with him, he cheated on you, got another woman pregnant, then got her pregnant again, and now he's back together with you? And you wonder why you're having so many issues! DUH! I feel sorry for the four children involved. Bottom line is that if this other woman is being civil, don't complain about it. Chances are it won't last long anyway. Either that or you can all move in together since the two of you don't mind sharing the same guy back and forth.
2007-11-29 00:53:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well all you can do is hope and pray that she has finally come to her senses and gotten a little more mature for the children. BUT yes just make sure you watch your back. Don't be to defensive about everything right off but don't just let your guard down. Also when the children come welcome them with open arms but don't let her stipulate what goes on in YOUR house because she will try. good luck
2007-11-29 01:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With guarded optimism. Although I"m curious why he lets her keep him from his children. Go to court and get court ordered visitation. If she still refuses to let him see them, then he will eventually get custody of them.
I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her. She is probably up to something, but all you can do is wait and see what it is this time. it's too bad there are kids involved in this mess...
2007-11-29 00:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE!!! I have been dealing with my husbands crazy ex for 10 yrs. And trust me it will be a miracle if she has "grown up". Every time I let my guard down she always started something. How old are their girls...old enough to "report" things back to mommy? She is probably wanting him to keep them so she will "know" things about you. Keep your guard up!!! You never know what will happen when you are dealing with a crazy ex!
2007-11-29 00:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by just me 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I strongly feel the woman u are talking about is not a kind who will keep quite. May be the situation would have changed may be she has met someone else and planning for marriage or else. Or may be you fiancee would have consoled her. first check with your fiancee before doing anything.
2007-11-29 00:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by kavya n 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd keep my guard up, look who you are dealing with. Why haven't you got a restraining order out on her and a lawyer to have visitation rights? I wouldn't trust this psycho as far as I could throw her....
2007-11-29 00:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let an attorney listen to her messages and tell that attorney, Now ain't this some crazy ****? And what are you going to do about it?"
2007-11-29 01:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be very careful with her. she mught seem cool, but deep down that woman wouldnt care if you was dead. shes only waiting for you and him to have a falling out. if she leaves you messages again, tape them. keep records of everything she does. if need be take a restraining order out on her. woman that feel they have been scorned are dangerous. but dont take no crap from her. stand your ground with her and your man.
2007-11-29 00:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't assume she was any more unstable than you or your fiance....perhaps she has realized she is actually the winner in this situation and has moved on and met someone really great who won't cheat on her........she's over it.....
2007-11-29 00:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋