my 7 yr old is very jealous of my 2yr old daughter. He is abusive and rude whenever she gets any kind of attention
He even has started to be violent towards his childminder in my abscence.
I try to give them equal attention but he finds it difficult to understand that he is capable of doing more than her and so she sometimes needs more help.
i always greet him 1st when i return from work and he has almost 2hours with me in the evenings without his sister when shes in her bed asleep. plus we have trips out just me and my son - yet still this is not enough he just does not wish to share me with her.
I have requested an apointment with our gp for a referal for guidance, in the mean time please give me some advise as to how to deal with this situation.
2007-11-28 23:29:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
The best advice is to talk to your child.. It seems that there is some underlying frustration building up for some reason. Ask your caregiver what is his day like during the day and what corrective measures she gives him. I would also sit and ask him to collaborate the stories to see what issues are at hand.
I would also get your children to do activities together with you so that they both see that you are all united and not having to fend for themselves. The more interaction and more things you can organize together and boundaries you set for both of them at the same time the more they will start to trust the other. Deal with the children together to provide unity.
I have attached a really good link on some advice sections on other parents that have dealt with sibling rivalry.
Good luck with this.
2007-11-28 23:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by Justhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its grea that you're working on the problem and that he has alone time with you while she is asleep. After that though try to get them to do more things together. Give him the big brother role of providing and protecting his little sister. He could help you do things such as give her baths, prepare food, etc. Just try to include him in everything even when you're doing something for his sister. His negative behavior however he does need to be punished for. Make him apologize to his sister, give her a hug, then put him in time out for 7 minutes(his age) or send him to his room to think about what he did. Good Luck
2007-11-29 01:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should request an appointment with your GP for a referral for guidance.
Oh, I guess you've already done the right thing.
2007-11-28 23:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try to tell him that being bad toward the sibling its not nice and be good and if that does not work dont spare the rod
2007-11-28 23:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not try and do things that all three of you can do?
try to make them friends.
2007-11-28 23:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for you to punish his butt, plain and simple you need to spank him.
you allowed this ti start punish him now for it
2007-11-29 01:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋