Right, I know this sounds naive, insecure, childish etc., but do men always look at other women and if so, what does it mean.That they fancy them, have no respect for you, fancy the other woman more than you? It's just I was talking to this bloke today and we have kind of started a relationship. Has told me he wants me etc. but these other girls passed and while he was talking to me he looked at them, not lingering look, but he looked all the same. It made me feel like he found them more attractive. Am I overreacting?
2007-11-28 22:05:29 · 16 answers · asked by susieboo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well first they had their backs to us when he glanced. Then they turned to face us and he glanced again.
2007-11-28 22:13:26 · update #1
Yes, you are over reacting. What you described is a casual glance. What are going to do, gouge his eyes out? Guys look, it means nothing. Now, obviously if he's looking a girl up and down when he's with you, that's inappropriate and rude. I get sick and tired of girls saying if he looks at another girl, that means he's going to cheat. If you want to be followed around and feel like you're the only important person in the world, then get a dog. The other point is that guys generally don't compare girls. Just because he's looking at another girl doesn't mean that he doesn't think you're hot or that the other girl is hotter than you. Get over yourself, relax and see how things work out.
2007-11-28 23:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Smart Alec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a proven fact that men think about sex more than most women do. It is also proven that it is a visual stimulant for them. For women, it is mental and emotional. Men are attracted to looking and look they will. Once you are in a long term commited relationship then you will have the right to punch him in the arm when he looks but he will try and sneak it anyway. They fancy pretty. Anything new and shiny. You are not overreacting, it hurts. Just understand it and once you have a solid relationship, let him know it will bother you.
2007-11-29 06:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by dallas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, virtually all men look (there are always exceptions), but they don't necessarily look with desire -- it is a male thing. Don't feel insecure. In fact, the feeling secure of yourself would increase the desirability & all the more better for you.
The bad thing, or what you should worry about, is if you were in an exclusive relationship & he touched them -- that's where his desires have moved into a blatant form of disrespect.
His "window shopping" may bother you, because you are insecure, but his "handling other merchandise in the store" would be a clear sign that the relationship is turning sour.
2007-11-29 07:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation. I think you should say something because if it wasnt just a glance to survey his enviornment, it is a very rude and disrespectful thing to do. I believe that if your boyfriend is out with you, then he should want to make you feel important enough to be the center of his attention. In my opinion, If you have a girlfriend, then you should find her beautiful enough in the first place to not be interested and be satisfied with what you have, and if you still find yourself looking at other women in a way that your girlfriend would not approve of, then you shouldnt be with her.
2007-11-29 06:17:14 · answer #4 · answered by Unikron Fly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not overreacting. This guy is disrespecting you big time. If a man truly cares about a woman, and he's with her out in public, it's nasty to start checking out other women. I'm not saying that he shouldn't ever check out other women... everyone notices beautiful people... but when you're with your bf or gf, show some respect people!!!
2007-11-29 06:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Racer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you overreacting it mean nothing if you are keeping him satisfy but if you don't take the time to know if there's a complaint then you should start worrying cause most time there about to charge up, because your not satisfying them also how many times you've look at another but does the mean you wanted to leave him? with or without him present
2007-11-29 06:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by biggie1biggs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not childish, insecure etc thinking this way we all experience this at times and you are normal. Just looking does not mean anything, don't u do it sometimes? Just remember that he is just looking at them, but he is with you.
2007-11-29 06:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet you're a teenager?yes you're overreacting.well i already have a husband and yes,men sometimes look at other women,but just because they admire their physical looks,but not because they don't respect you.men are men,you know.someday you'll understand.they may be attracted to the physical looks of another,but if you're the one he loves,you're the one he loves!as long as it's just "taking a look" at another girl,nothing else.but if you're just starting a relationship of course it would hurt you to see him looking at other direction.know him well first.know his intentions.make sure he really loves you before becoming too serious about him.goodluck! =)
2007-11-29 06:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by αςhα ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal one relationship I know is very full of trust, the guy tells his girlfriend his crushes and the girls that he thinks are attractive, yet everything is going well. Maybe you should just trust him. You'll never know what will happen. Also try knowing your guy's history about dating that will help you indicate.
2007-11-29 06:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by scotch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, u r overreacting,god has given eyes to see,if he appreciate beauty, what is wrong in it,don't u look at other boys ?
2007-11-29 06:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋