I have been a widow for over 20 years and I and my daughter treat ourselves to caravan holidays about 5 times a year and we love it. We go all over the UK in our car. My fellow bible study member said to me, "The only reason you go away so often is because you're lonely".
2007-11-28 21:47:39 · 18 answers · asked by Hello 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
So what if that is the reason? As a Christian, perhaps God is leading you to go where you would meet the person intended for you. Perhaps getting away helps ease your lonliness. If that's the reason, it's OK.
If you're getting away with your daughter because it's just a nice time with your daughter, then that's great, too. I sometimes wish I were able to do more of that kind of thing with my kids. But then, I've been accused of being on here so much because I'm lonely.
She most likely said it because she can't imagine leaving her little world on a regular basis and going out into the relative unknown. She may be jealous, or she may just nor understand. Your reasons are your own, but unless you are running or hiding from something in your life that you should be facing, it doesn't matter what the reason is - it's what you do and how you live.
Blessings!
2007-11-28 21:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Katie Short, Atheati Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, don't let that bother you, satan is on the rampage seeking whom he may devour, sometimes he uses people close to us to hurt us, it's your response that God is waiting to see, don't forget we are in a spiritual battle.
First of all the group member could just be jealous that you have time and resources to take a break and go away with your daughter and spend sometime together and do some sight seeing.
Secondly, even if you are lonely at least you are doing something about it by travelling and keeping yourself occupied.
Thirdly, talk to this person in a civilised, non-confrontational way, requesting what exactly he/she was trying to say, and just clear the air as a christian.
All the best.
2007-11-29 06:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by Binahl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because people jump to conclusions and say stupid things that dont' make any sense sometimes. Because that's what they think themselves.
For example the day my wife died, I talked to my brother on the phone, and he's telling me to go and find another woman - and I'm going don't you know what just happened? I thought about it, and my brother would do just that, if he lost a wife he'd go get another one right away. so your friend thinks you are lonely because she thinks that you are or thinks SHE WOULD BE. SEE?
women are really terrible at jumping to conclusions - especially about a persons character way too fast, often with little or no information at all, just based on how they feel.
It's very frustrating. But that's the nature of women. I'm assuming this is a female friend.
I'd reply that it's an enjoyable time for your and your daughter, and leave it at that.
2007-11-29 05:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you , i understand, get this, last year i went to this "small group meeting" with believers i know pretty well, during our prayer time, one of the guys had a "prophecy" that I was seeing myself like in a funhouse mirror, either too fat, meaning all full of myself, or too skinny, like i don't think enough of myself. And that I needed to get a better "mirror" image or whatever, I'll tell you I was very offended, and i felt he had no business with his loud "prophecy". He could have talked to me in private if he thought my "mirror" was off kilter.
I think some people think they're doing you a favor. Like what's wrong with being lonely anyway, I'm an unmarried older woman and often feel lonely.
don't let it get to you, God has given you a car and a daughter to take fun trips with, it's His blessing to you. It's hard to know what's behind people's words. Who knows what that person is going through or has been through.
bless you.
2007-11-29 06:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Annmaree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't expect all christians to be kind and considerate people, she/he is only human. Maybe they didn't realise quite what they said, or they didn't want it to come out that way. Or perhaps they even thought it was the truth and it would help you in some way. It was awfully rude of them, but try not to take it to heart.
2007-11-29 05:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like jealousy to me. I think it'd be pretty cool to pack up a few times a year and just take off. I wish I could do that.
2007-11-29 06:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sounds like one person's opinion to me. Maybe they say that because they are jealous and wish they could take a holiday more often.
I wouldn't take offense at it, we shouldn't let another person's words control our own emotions.
Do what makes you happy in life, and if taking a vacation makes you happy, more power to you.
2007-11-29 05:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by endavis02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is jealous.
I wouldn't bother listening to what that fellow has to say.
Even if you DID do it because you were lonely - what does it matter?
2007-11-29 05:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by loggerbomb1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. It sounds like you get some real mother/daughter time in. That sounds like it is good for your relationship. It sounds like you both enjoy a sense of adventure together.
2007-11-29 05:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Who's got my back? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have similar experiences.
Christians are no better than non-believers.
Pray so that you can find a new Bible study group...
2007-11-29 06:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋