What if I love a man who is 22 years older than me?

Question

I am a 20 year old lady. I love a man who is 22 years older than me. I know what you are thinking: what could you possibly have in common? We have everything in common. I love his personality so much. I just don't want people to think it is so wierd. I finally found my soul mate and want to spend the rest of my life with him.

Answer 1

Very creepy, but if it floats your boat.

Answer 2

Just be careful, you are still young and have the rest of your life ahead of you.

I know of a similar situation but the man is younger by 16 years the woman is now 60 and dying of cancer. He will most definately be a widower by the time he is 45.

Don't worry too much about what other people think, it's yours and his decision at the end of the day, as long as you are both happy and not hurting anyone else in the process.

Just bear it in mind but be happy whatever you do;-)

Answer 3

Just from someone who's had a couple of May-December romances....


Sweetie, it usually doesn't work well at our age. I'm sorry to have to tell you, but the male in these scenarios is usually either having some sort of mid-life crisis or is just unsure of what he actually wants. Men our age are often immature, so we naturally sometimes look up to, fantasize, or even fall in love with much older men. It almost never works out well, though....and I know that means absolutely nothing when you're in love (been there!), but that is really just me giving an honest answer. I wish you luck, but the odds are against you.

Answer 4

I'm the product of a marriage where my father was much older than my mother. Consequently, he had a hard time understanding my interests growing up, struggled to relate to me, and died when I was fairly young. My mother, being so less experienced in the world, was at a huge disadvantage when it came to conflict in the relationship.

My advice: see the world; live a little; have some heartache. Once you start to notice a little cynicism growing in you, then go ahead and date men 20 years your senior.

Answer 5

if he makes u happy, and if everyone approves (besides the fact that he's 22 years older) of him, then i dont see whats wrong.
it's not illegal to b w/ a guy 20 or maybe even 30 years older or younger than you.
but... i remember that, for example, a 5 year old & a 90 year old together is illegal, of course!

Answer 6

If you are in my country, then you are not allowed, but this is love, if you want him do it..

I just wanna remind you one thing that if he is old, he might do something childish and in the future make sure you don't have to suffer.. All what you can enjoy from him is 5 more years.. that is it.. if you want to live for 5 years, then do it.

Answer 7

Does it really matter what other people think? as long as u r both happy with each other then that is the main thing the best of luck 2 u both

Answer 8

If he feels the same way, go for it! There's nothing wrong with the age difference. You might have some people giving you weird looks but who cares?

Answer 9

Age is only a number and if he makes you happy then you shouldn't care what other people will think. People will always have something negative about other people... So who cares.

Answer 10

wow! you are lucky to find your dream partner. yeah it is normal and you both find each by age. nothing happen if you are loving a man who's age is 22 because love is not seen through age or whatever but it is seen through heart. if you like and love his personality, and you engage with him for a year, then it is okay to let your life be with him. i hope and i give a litlle effect. happy coming future!:-)

Answer 11

Just be cautious. a man of that age has a way of making you think that he loves you, when in fact he wants only to sleep with you. Make sure that this one is being honest about everything first.

By the way, why is he not maried with children by that age anyway? Is something wrong with him? Just questions you should ask yourself.