2007-11-28 21:20:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If your answer is yes but you're not living with her, what's preventing you?
2007-11-28 21:32:46 · update #1
I did live with my MIL and SIL (along with my hubby and baby) from the time my first baby was 2-18mths old. We all did it so we could all save money. We rented a house together until it started to get too much. Both my MIL and SIL got boyfriends and end up moving
They babysat for us all the time and it was particularly good when one of us got sick and needed help caring for the baby or just needed a break.
As for free babysitting, unless its specifically stated for an indefinate period of time, I wouldn't rely on it. Everybody has their own threshold for tolerance when it comes to being asked to continually babysit.
I personally would now rather live with my husband and children alone and have little or no babysitting, then never have any personal space because of MIL living with us. Its always good in theory at first, but gets really annoying real quick. You just never have your own space to do whatever you want with.
Oh and to be perfectly clear, my MIL is fantastic and we get along extremely well. I love her to bits! Lol!! she's like my second mum. never a bad word between us
2007-11-28 22:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not live with my mother in law. I would not look to get free babysitting out of her. If you are grown up enough to get married and have a baby then you should not look to use your in laws to take care of your child for free. Either stay home and raise your own children or pay the woman. I am sure she can find something else to do with her time like help out at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter a place where she is appreciated.
2007-11-29 02:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, especially not in her house. Some mother in laws will take over the raising of the child and you will feel like your an outsider in months, the alternative is she will resent having you around at all. Either have her live with you.. or find an alternative place to live and do the drop off and pick up from her place. Living with family can be a real problem fast!
2007-11-29 00:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the circumstances. I do live with my in-laws but for a different reason. My husband is in the Air Force and currently on an 18 month deployment. When he gets back we are moving overseas, where the odds are good that I won't be working right away...so we are here saving money on rent and utilities and all that other good stuff, this way I won't have to rush to find a job. It can be a challenge at times, but I absolutely love my in-laws. They're good people and they do help me out ALOT with the kids. Needless to say, it also depends on whether you have a good relationship with them or not.
2007-11-28 22:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tristan Robert Due March 20 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I could as we get along really well and I know it would also be more than babysitting for her , it would help to keep her young at heart and we could also help her as she would be close . The kids would benefit by having someone else in the family teaching them from all angles. I would love it.
To answer whats preventing us, my in laws as they are 6 hours away and are not ready to make that change in life (father in law won`t do it)
2007-11-28 21:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by reallynow 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No.
I don't have kids, but even if I did, I would not want to live with his parents or with my parents, even if it meant free babysitting. I like having sex in the kitchen, having breakfast in PJs, and doing things my way in my house (which is probably why I don't have kids in the first place)
2007-11-29 02:15:31 · answer #6 · answered by jimbell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not, she can live 10-15 minutes away and that still means free babysitting, no way would i live with anyone else for that matter, when you are a family thats what you are and it would be a pain having someone else there, no privacy.
2007-11-28 22:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by fng127 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i lived with my mother in law..because i we had nowhere to go for a while...and i am so glad i am out of there..
been there done that..not going there again.
she didnt really babysit for me either..she tried taking my place as a mother..but she never liked me from the start anyways.. so we are better off in different houses lol.
2007-11-29 00:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would rather stick pins in my eyes than live with my mother-in-law. Everything I do is wrong and now that I am pregnant she has started to take my husband aside to have little pep talks with him about me. Grrrrrrrrrr! I can't think of anything worse.
2007-11-28 23:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Ange B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I lived with my son and daughter in law, and their two boys for three years, and now live with my daughter and son in law (8yrs) and in my opinion the babysitting has been paid in full, with rewards! ( honey, it really depends on who is babysitting who !)
LOL If you enjoy one another's company, why not? Split the rules 3 ways, shake on it, and enjoy!
2007-11-28 21:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by chris_74352 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋