my gf is 18 im 23 we were over my house watching movies she insisted that she wanted to drink I kept telling her no and finally I gave in she had about 6 1/2 shots of vodka in about 4 hours I ordered a pizza we ate ect fell asleep for about 3 hours i noticed her phone ringing i woke her up her mom was worried that she wasnt home im not sure what was said but she broke down she is manic depressive so I calmed her down but i was worried i said she could stay here in the guest room she insisted that she had to go home i offered to drive her home and sleep on the couch she wouldnt let me it was raining pretty bad i told her to drive slow she convinced me that she was ok car was totaled she was ok tho there was still alcohol in her system it read .08 but she was going 105 miles an hour her parents are holding me responsible and cut off all possible contact between me and her I have not heard from her since her fam loved me before this how do i make things right? or do i just accept it?
2007-11-28 20:31:15 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree with Jack W.
The only way to "make this right," if that's possible, is to take your medicine like a man: Tell her parents (by phone or note) that you will pay all their costs related to the accident and offer to turn yourself into the police for providing alcohol to a minor. Prepare to be prosecuted, and like Jack W. said, get yourself a lawyer.
They may never like you again, but hopefully in time they will at least respect the fact that you owned up and took responsibility. If there is the slimmest of all slim chances for you to ever date this girl again, it's through you holding yourself accountable to the parents and in the eyes of the law. No, your girlfriend isn't blameless, but the bottom line is: It was illegal for you to give her the drinks and you should have taken her car keys from her, got on the phone with her mom and explained what happened. The parents would still be pissed at you, but nothing compared to what they feel right now.
Good luck.
2007-11-28 20:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by maxximumjoy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave a person under the legal age alcohol. Unfortunately, you will have to suffer the consequences for it. Ideally, she should have known better than to drink, but you were the actual adult that gave it to her. Why would she be driving 105 mph in the rain anyway? She needs to learn her lesson too.
Just let it blow over for now. Later you can apologize, and tell them that you have learned your lesson. Hopefully she will do the same.
2007-11-28 20:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You provided the alcohol to a minor - you're responsible. There could be criminal charges and a civil lawsuit for damages. Dumb decision on your part. Hire a good attorney.
2007-11-28 20:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by jack w 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u need to take responsibility for your role... but at 18 this girl knew better as well. contact parents... and ask for sit down. tell them how sorry you are.. and that you acted immaturely. ask how you can make amends..because you truly care for their daughter. if that is the case.
2007-11-28 23:04:45 · answer #4 · answered by foosieboy1953 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah if it was my daughter i would be pissed that u gave her alcohol but she was stupid enough to get in the car too..
her parents are blaming you because its easier for them to believe that its your fault rather then put any blame on her
you will just have to wait to hear from her i spose or find another way to contact her
maybe she doesnt want you to contact her and asked her parents to do that i dont know...
but her parents are blaming you first and foremost coz its easier to blame u then her
(just like if a guy cheats on a girl, its easier for the girl to HATE the girl he cheated on her with rather than be mad at him!)
lifes stupid in that way
2007-11-28 20:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by **Jemma** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step up and be a man. I am surprised you have not been charged.
If she had refused to sleep with you I am sure you would have found a way to convince her to stay!!!!!!!
You played with her life,you should pay the consequences....
2007-11-28 22:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by uptoyou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And to think all you had to do was take away the car keys.
2007-11-28 23:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋