other JW's what do you think?

Question

1st im going to say please non JW's dont make any rude unknowledgable comments. ok so this happened almost 4 years ago and til this day it still bugs me. I was 17 and dating a non JW and we realized we loved each other and wanted to get married. he knew of my religion and respected my beliefs about sex before marriage and what not. anyways i told my parent about him and my dad was the P.O at the time (presiding overseer i think that's what it stands for sorry i go to a spanish hall and dont know what a lot of the names are in English) anyways he told me to go to the elders and tell them i was going to marry a non JW (i also wasnt baptized yet) anyways they censored me (not disfellowship, i was a publisher at the time and they just took the privilage away censored i think is what its called) anyways a special commity of elders had to be formed since all the elders at the hall where my dad, and 3 of my uncles. all the elders in the commity didnt like my dad and other elders said

i shouldnt have been censored they just wanted to make an example out of me because i was an elders daughter. anyways a couple months later one of my friends ended up pregnant (15yrs) the dad wasnt a witness and nothing happened to her. 6 weeks after her baby was born she got baptized. another girl married a disfellowshiped guy (she was baptized at the time) and nothing happened to her also 7 months later she had a baby she claims the baby was a premi' (8lbs) nothing happens to her either. is it wrong for me to still be mad about this? that something happened to me just because im a daughter of an elder.

i know they did what they wher supose to i guess it just bugs me that nothing happend to them. wrong of me yea probly but its just hard for me to let it go at least

Answer 1

Jehovahs Witnesses like all humans are imperfect,whether they be elders, or presiding overseers.
What you need to remember is that Jehovah God and Christ Jesus are overseeing everything that goes on.If mistakes are made,Jehovah may or may not have them fixed.Jehovah knows what he is doing.These things happen for a reason,and we may not always like the decisions made or understand themThey may be a test.We dont know but what I do know is to trust in Jehovah and know that he will safeguard me,as long as I am obedient.
It should be Jehovah God you love and want to serve.There is always going to be someone or something that gets in the way. We live in Satans system.It cannot be a smooth ride.But one thing we should all have learned from the ancient nation of Israel is that obedience to Jehovah is vital for survival.

Answer 2

Who is the judge at the end? elders are humans and can make a mistake, if you feel or not that is a mistake it doesn´t matter at the end the most important thing is this:

It is true or not that this planet will be transform in a paradise under Jesus Chirst rulership of 1000 years after Armageddon?

If this is false then left JWs but if this is true , would you loose the oportunity to leave forever for something as stupid as a bad feeling you have or for a boyfriend ? at the end you were doing something incorrect so you deserve a correction but at the end you are the one that will benefits of that correction , if you got married with the guy or not , elders didn´t earn or loose nothing but you (Later) will see the consequences.

but if you are doing this Qs to make beleive people here that JWs are parcials which is false, then you will also suffer the consequences.

Spanish is my native language.

Answer 3

here is not the place to talk about Jehovah Witnesses. you know they will talk against us. the elder where only trying to help you. there are many in my kingdom hall who married non Jehovah Witnesses and they are still Jehovah Witnesses. pray to Jehovah and Jesus Christ. the elders help you. they are in perfect just like we are. there was a woman going to a hall that I use to go. her dad was an elder also. she was disfellowshipped four times. one time she was having a baby and was not married and never told the elders. she got disfellowshipped again. she blamed the elders for disfellowshipping her. at the time, I was in a restaurant and she had the waitress, ask me why the elders disfellowshipped her. I told the waitress, the elders try to help you. it is Jehovah who keeps a clean house. she did not like the answer. but it is true. churches let anyone in, even ones who are doing wrong things, like sleeping around

Answer 4

What happened to you can happen to others also in many other churches. I think it will be best for you to forgive and that will make you a happier person and you will be a better person for it. Even when we pray the Lord's prayer we pray forgive us as we forgive others so that means if we want God to forgive us we need to forgive others also. People are people are are sinners and always do things that sometimes we latter regret. I am not a Jehovah's witness as I do not agree with your doctrines. ( if you feel comfortable maybe you can even try a different church and I do understand you religion forbids yous from going to other churches but I am sure you will be welcomed to attend if you decide.)

Answer 5

I have been "away" from Y!A, but I just HAD to answer your question.

There is no need to cry "Injustice!" here. People do not get disfellowshipped for doing wrong things- they get disfellowshipped for not repenting. A repentant fornicator may remain, while someone who steals staples from work can be disfellowshipped if they refuse to stop.

Those girls you talk about did wrong things, but did they continue? You do not know the circumstances that were there in those meetings with the elders- only the girls will tell you if they wish to. Each case is different, that is why it takes spiritually mature men to deal with them.

We all need readjustment from time to time. Jehovah disciplines those he loves. We are not allowed to have free reign- we are under God's rulership, hence we follow the rules.

You should be appreciative that you have a spiritual family that takes care of you, cares for you and seeks to help. You yourself know very well why you received discipline- it's most likely not that you were just friends with this guy- you were planning to marry him. That shows that you were going against counsel, even though you knew all about it, probably from your father.

BTW- there is NO WAY you can ask a JW question here and ask non-JWs to stay away- they CAN'T!!!!

Now that I've let it out, I'm getting back to my homework. You sidetracked me!! :-) Take care.

Answer 6

Jade, this organisation censors or disfellowships people who are doing wrong because allowing them to remain calling themselves one of Jehovah's people would be hypocritical.

Perhaps you could explain how that makes her weak.

In my opinion, having to criticise other peoples religions and lifestyles to make yourself feel better makes you look like the weak one.

Answer 7

I am not JW but I love your nick it is one of my favorite names in the Bible. If I had a daughter I would consider that name.

We don't have the same beliefs but Jesus taught forgiveness for those who have wronged us. The forgiveness will set you free.

Answer 8

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Dear, are you not seeing what the LORD is trying to teach you? Like the Pharisees of old, Matt15:8 This people draweth nigh unto Me with their mouth, and honoureth Me with their lips; but their heart is far from Me.

Flee from that cult!! Seek true repentance, I sensed that there is still a lot of bitterness and another spirit(s) in you! Seek for the true forgiveness of your personal sins, trust me, once you have tasted true forgiveness, you will not be in your present state! Luke 13:24 Strive to enter in at the strait gate: for many, I say unto you, will seek to enter in, and shall not be able.

As the Apostle Peter said .... Act 8:23 For I perceive that thou art in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity.


Balaam's A S S had spoken

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Answer 9

Regardless of religion, people are people and sometimes our ego's and opinions get in the way.

Answer 10

Why would you belong to an organization which 'censors, disfellowships etc'????

Don't you respect yourself enough to say NO to such atrocities? How could you let other people dictate your life. Religion is for the weak. You've proved this.