Would you say these people are very FAKE, PHONEY?

Question

make a long story short, my Mom has always put my aunt, uncle and 3 cousins on this huge pedastel saying their the best and were very close..
Only time i saw them for years was on x-mas, thanksgiving, once in summer.
No phone calls to keep in touch in between.
I even moved 20 minutes away from them and never got a call once from them...
I tried reaching out and being friendly by writing friendly emails,, not once did i ever get a repky back from any of them..
I even asked one cousin to call me when he watches a movie i reccomended, he looked at me stunned and said "umm your phone is always busy:, " i said leave leave a messsage, he never did..
Then i visited another cousins town on my own, she was always sugry sweet in person on x-mas, in her town she was mean and did everything to get me to leave and never come back...-

So my question is arent these people Fake? I told my Mom if they cant keep in contact with me why should i even see them on holidays, dont i have a point?

i even started buying them nice x-mas presents to show i care about them,, i was questioned by them "why are you buying nice gifts:, i say cause i know what u like and i care,, they say "umm but still"

Answer 1

These people DO NOT want to be an integral part of your life, for whatever reason. Certainly buying more, and more expensive gifts is not the answer as they perhaps are embarrassed by that, and certainly have been plain to tell you that they do not consider the gifts appropriate. The cousins DO NOT want to keep closely in touch with you, and the one who didn't want to phone you about a movie was less than subtle for sure.
Because they do not like you does NOT mean they dislike your mother or anyone else in the family; and your mother should not feel that she cannot have them to family get -togethers because you are offended by them.
I cannot answer if these people are FAKE, as we don't know both sides of the story; and there always ARE two sides. I think you should not put any pressure on your mother, the world does not revolve around YOU. Go to get-togethers and be cordial to your aunt/uncle and cousins. Do no more, or any less.

Answer 2

Bad relatives have been around since Cain and Abel.

You may not like them much, but you love your mom, so just do your best to not be a problem and hope for better days in the future.

Answer 3

Your mom is trying to see the good in them but you see more clearly, - you are right, don't waste time on these fakes. They are kidding your mom but not you. Don't put yourself out for them and try to avoid them when they visit - you can be among better people than that when you go out with friends.

Answer 4

Stop buying them gifts and stop trying to build friendships with them since they are clearly not interested. You only have to see them three times a year when all you need to do then is be polite.

Answer 5

Whatever floats her boat and yours. People have differences of opinion. To your mother, they might actually be her closest family contacts (other than you that is) and she loves them. To you, they are not exactly high ranking. Whatever. Just go with the flow and try to play nice with everyone.

Answer 6

Just sounds like people that just do not want to bother to have anything to do with you.You don't need you be in contact with them just because they are relatives.Spent the time with friends.

Answer 7

Yes you do , as they say what is is, and what ain't ain't so let sleeping dogs lie, because when you lie down with dogs, you might wake up with fleas!( some of my grandmother's old sayings about stuck up relatives, remember you can pick your friends, but not your relations!(smile)