Mother trying to make me believe in God?

Question

I don't believe in him, he's never been there for me. I used to pray to him to make my life better or help me get through it but so far nothing. I'm a cutter, and a beater of my body. I'm also sort of gothic. My mother just can't get it that I do not and do not want to believe in God. It's my choice she can't respect that? So my question is how can I make her stop? Why is she doing this to me? To me if I start to believe in God again it's going to put more pressure on me to be good and do the right thing. So yeah not a good idea to me. And no I do not believe in the Devil either, so no calling me a devil worshiper.

Well thanks to some of you for your answers, and to others well you're no help. I am going to therapy, so yeah. And to the guy who says I'm selfish. I'm not, I've always put others before my own well being so F you. But thanks to everyone who were at least nice in what they were saying.

Answer 1

You may be "sort of gothic", but you're also sort of lost!......Maybe if you tried OBEYING HIS COMMANDMENTS then God would have probably heard your prayers and answered them. "And whatever we ask we receive from Him, because we KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS and do those things that are pleasing in His sight" (1 John 3:22).
God has always set apart and marked those who truly serve Him by keeping His commandments and His LAWS. The Apostle John was inspired to write: "He who says, ‘I know Him,’ and does not keep His commandments, is a LIAR, and the truth is not in him" (1 John 2:4). And, at the very END of the Bible, as His final message to YOU, God states: "Blessed are those who do His COMMANDMENTS, that they may have the right to the tree of life, and may enter through the gates into the city" (Revelation 22:14).

Answer 2

Seems like we have something in common here:
1. I was a goth
2. I was a cutter and beater
3. I was angry at God (I thought He left me, instead of never been there for me)
4. I felt the pressure of being good because I believe in God (I am born Catholic)
5. My mom did the same thing as yours

Notice the past tense? Well, since we have so many things in common, I'll tell u my current condition. Maybe it'll help u:
1. I still consider myself a Goth. But what do you mean by Goth? Do you know about the origin of Goth? You might be surprised to know the truth about it.
2. I used to cut myself because I just can't feel anything other than the negative ones (loneliness, etc). Physical pain are more bearable that mental pain, or so i thought. Cutting gave a temporary relieve, doesn't it? But then like all other abuse (drugs, alcohol, sex, etc) everything comes spiralling down after the initial time. It sucks, I can't wear my favourite clothes again (because I had to hide the marks) and i thought that there MUST be another way to "release my pain".
I'm no longer a cutter and beater now. How? I did something that I never did after I turn adolescent: I went to a confession! The priest and I pray to God together and thankfully God gave me the courage and strength to stop. God doesn't stop there though, He filled me with grace and wisdom. I look back now and thought of how selfish and unreasonable my reasons were. Believing in God and surrendering my pain to Him is the most reasonable thing I've ever done. (PS: faith and reason DOES go together. At least Roman Catholicism does!)
So, you see, there's a way out of the pain. If i can do it, you can! Turn to a priest or a psychologist, it's your choice, but speak up!
3. I love God now. I was a sulking baby but He didn't lost patience and once again prove His love for me.
Try to not cut yourself for a month, surrender the offering to Him, and see what He'll give you instead. It can't be worse than this, right?
4. I don't feel pressure of being "good" anymore. I choose to do it now. I tried anger and vengeance and it only make things worse, so i tried the opposite and see how God's Way work! You should try it too. If you can't believe yet, think of it as a scientific experiments like i did ;)
5. A Mom that "banters" you about religion can be overwhelming. Did you feel that if you do as she says that means that you are "losing the religion war" against her? I felt that way, and if you do too, maybe you can ask her to let the problem rest for a while, and hopefully, in the silence, you can feel that you make YOUR OWN CHOICE of going to the church.
This is how I stopped my mom from "strangling me" with her Bible ;) but do try to go to church and study the faith before you give it all up.

I'm sure we don't feel exactly the same, but hopefully my experience would help. Please don't expect that you will always receive the best in life. Down moments are part of life! But that doesn't mean that you can let yourself spiraling down like this. Deal with the problem and gain back your freedom!

Answer 3

I'm really sorry that whatever has happened to you in your life has made you so jaded. I know how hard it is to have your mom trying to tell you what to do all the time, especially on so big of a subject. I'm sure she's probably worried about you. I think the best way to handle this situation and really get her to stop would be to tell her that you just have a really hard time accepting the concept of God right now, but tell her that you respect her for her beliefs and would like her to respect yours. I feel like there are a lot of people who turn away from religion, because It's always forced on them. If you tell her that you need to find your own way, she might understand.

I do have to say that you should really stop cutting and hurting yourself, because I'm sure that your self-destructiveness is what's killing your mom. I really hope that things get better for you and that maybe you can see some of the good in life..and be happy..and no, I'm not talking about the way you dress or saying that the happiness has to be in religion. I'm sorry that you're going through this.

Answer 4

No one can make you believe in God, it's something you have to believe in for yourself. As far as being a cutter, I would seek mental help for depression. Cutting yourself may make you feel better for the moment, but it has no long-term relief from the anguish you're feeling. I don't understand how believing in God will put more "pressure" on you to do the "right thing" and be "good." Newsflash, just because you don't believe in God does not mean you should not be a good person. You should do the "right" thing because it's right, not because you're afraid of some higher power.

Answer 5

unfortunatly you might just have to deal with it till your 18 and can move out. My family tried to do the same thing to me, made me go to church, youth group, sunday school, I was going to the church at least 3-4 times a week. I didnt believe it then and I still dont now, my mother knows what i believe and doesnt try to change me anymore, I also dont speak to her very often. Im sorry that you are a cutter and seem depressed, maybe you cuold ask your mom to go get counceling, either for yourself or together. It can help. Good luck, it wont last forever.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Your mother probably wants you to believe in God largely so that you stop cutting/beating yourself. If you stopped cutting and beating yourself, she'd probably be so relieved that she'd leave you alone about religion.

Also, no offense, but not wanting to have to do the right thing isn't a great basis for disbelief. Whether or not you want to be a good person doesn't affect whether God exists or not.

Answer 8

I'm sorry that you feel that God is not there for you. I can testify before him that he has been there for me. He saved my boyfriends life. He used to drink,curse, and have a bad temper and it took time and patients of waiting 3 years but in the end God rewarded me for being faithful to him. Today he doesn't drink and drive nor curse or hit for that matter he is a change man I have God to thank.
He was like you at first telling me to stop talking about God or trying to change him but the other day at church while holding my hand he said where would I be if it weren't for you? Thank you because you never gave up on me I love you. It's a beautiful experience and we have peace in our hearts.
Your mom is only doing what God asked her to do which is spread his word. She does it because she loves you not because she wants you to suffer. You are blessed to have a mother like her. I had to go to my mom to help her imagine that. Don't be impatient with God if you are faithful to him he will do the same. You should read Joel Osteens 7 steps to a better life one of the best sellers thanks to God. This book really helps you understand why you feel the way you do.
I'll pray for understanding and wisdom in your life.
God bless you.

p.sI'm 23 and been with him since 14 yrs old.

Answer 9

I assume that you are living at home. In that case, you owe your mom respect - not vice versa. When you are independent, you can do whatever you want. Just stick it out until then.

Your mother feels your pain and is trying to help you. But she cannot make you believe. That has to come from the heart.

Just be nice to her. And whether you agree or not, listen to what she says. Something may finally sink in for you.

It's tragic that you would cut yourself.

Answer 10

" To me if I start to believe in God again it's going to put more pressure on me to be good and do the right thing."

If you cooperate with God, he promises to renew your mind . . . and change your "want-to". Instead of more pressure it would feel like freedom to do healthy things.

With a renewed mind you would be able to see your self-destructive behavior for what it is.