why do parents put differences between their children?

Question

some parents put differences between their children for example they like the son better even tho the sister is better and

parents do put differences between their children some times and ive seen it! and if ur bored and dun have a real answer plz dont write nything

Answer 1

They Don't

Answer 2

Most parents try not to give preference to one child over the other - but it does happen.

Mothers tend to have a softer spot for the son and the father for the daughter although that does differ at times.

I suppose it is a little like friendships - we prefer a particular person more than another and we don't know why. It is just the way it is.

One thing to remember - if you are the one in this situation - parents love all their kids equally - just sometimes a softer feeling shows for one over the other.

If you are young you probably feel this is quite unfair and I guess it is. The thing you SHOULD NOT do is cause trouble between them.

Just be gentle and loving and give love and understanding to your parents.

It does sort itself out in the end - and maybe they think the one missing out is strong enough to cope anyway. Maybe the getting the preferential treatment needs more than the other.

There is no easy answer to this - the only other thing I can suggest is to take your mum aside and explain how you feel and let her know it is upsetting you.

Maybe you could work something out together that way.

Answer 3

I'm not sure I understand your question.

Are you saying that parents treat children differently? Of couse we do, because children are different.
I have 2 teen-age boys. One of them I let do his homework on his own schedule, because it always gets done. The other will wait until 10 minutes before bed time, then he doesn't finish it, or he asks to stay up late to finish it. So for him, he comes home, gets a snack, then he is not allowed to do anything until his homework is complete and checked for accuracy.

The issue isn't that parents treat their children DIFFERENTLY, but that parents treat their children FAIRLY.

Answer 4

There is no "BETTER" child. A child is a gift regardless of their age, status, academic profile and so on.


You cannot have a son being a better child than a daughter, and vice versa, considering their upbringing is correct.

Answer 5

i know what you mean
my best friend is the only girl in her family. and her parents make it very obvious that she is not as wanted as the other 3 boys are. they are a very sporty family where as she is a very girly girl and is always left out.

I don't know if they mean to do it however it had affected her pretty badly, she has had to see a psychiatrist.
it's sad.

Answer 6

every child has a different persnoality and needs... some may need more attention or direction than others.

if you feel you are being neglected by your parents, let them know you feel left out.

Answer 7

I teach my kids that everyone is good at different things and that is okay