How come some parents don't believe in spanking anymore?

Question

They just let the kids run around like little freaks. and if you ask the parent if the believe that they are doing a great job raising their kids, they would say they were.
My parents whacked me couple times when I did something bad and I turned out fine. If I ever have kids someday I will probably do the same.
Would you?

Answer 1

I would.
I've seen too many children grow up in families who don't spank and they're perfect little monsters.

I believe in using the rod and the difference, I believe, from effective spanking and all the horror stories of children growing up abusive due to it is the how parents speak/treat/explain to them afterward.

Parents should also keep a level head when spanking their children, more often than not their anger gets the better of them and they go a little too far. Mature parents/ing should be able to pull of a physical punishment that will leave the child with a clear idea of what the punishment was/is about and not leave any emotional scars afterward.

Answer 2

I was spanked at a child and suffered no ill effects. I don't think those few whacks determined if I was going to be an upstanding, contributing member of society vs. a "little freak" if my parents had chosen not to spank me. Certainly, my family could be a good place to look as my parents were very equal in how they punished us (there are 6 kids in my family) and why and two of my older brothers grew up getting into trouble despite being spanked when they misbehaved.

I do not spank my children. Our son has autism and when he was young, he was very physical when he bacame angry. We spent a lot of time and energy helping him learn that he could not hit or smack someone when he became angry. Spanking him would only have confused him and in fact, would have reinforced that it IS ok to hit in anger. Our daughter, who is the older child, was remarkable easy going and well behaved when she was young. When she did act out, we did not spank because , again, we did not want her brother's negative behavior to be reinforced. At one point, when she was 8, we did try spanking. It had no effect on her..she simply laughed (although I tend to think it was a nervous reaction and nothing disrespectful). In the end, it simply was not useful so we stopped using it.

I fully understand why parents who do spank often feel attacked by those who don't. It is a very personal choice. While I personally feel spanking is counterproductive many times, I have no issues with parents who may give a spank when a child does something wrong. I do not agree with the use of anything other than a hand, slapping across the face, spanking your child in public or using spanking as the only punishment or for any infraction, no matter how large or small. My children do not run around like little freaks. They are polite, well mannered, do not lie or steal. Kids who may act that way do so not because they were never spanked, but because there was never any sort of discipline or consequence for acting out. Also,and as the parent of a special needs child (and this is an ever increasing demographic) many of the kids you may be referring to may have disabilities or developmental issues that they can not control and that spanking or punishing will not change. Do not judge all parents by a few. That is no different than someone against spanking stating that all parents who do spank are abusive and un-educated...and that is simply not true.

Answer 3

Definitely. Spanking, IF USED PROPERLY, is the greatest form of discipline on the face of this earth ... contrary to popular liberal belief. I think the sad situation with the no spanking crap is that it takes accountability away from the parents and allows the government to dictate we should be raising our children (ps that's what communists, facists, socialists ... do also). I think that parents should take discipline into their own hands, literally. I also think that the decision to spank should vary from child to child. For example, I have 4 brothers and we were all spanked. For me, it was a VERY effective method, for my youngest brother (who is now 22), it was as though he derived some sick pleasure from being spanked. Most children will respond with positive behavior to being spanked. I do not think that the whacking should physically hurt the child, just shock him and reprimand him a little more harshly than simply scolding. And besides, after you've done it a few times, the threat is enough of a deterrance.

Answer 4

Spankings are ways of discipline. I don't see how "time out"...which is sitting in a corner for five minutes can help a child differentiate between right and wrong. A spanking on the other hand literally knocks some sense into to children.

Answer 5

Nothing wrong with a little swat on the rear end. Now a belt or a swat across the face is where I draw the line. I try other methods first, but if I need to spank them, I do. Then they know not to do it again. I was spanked, and I didn't need therapy.

Answer 6

I see this, too.. parents today have some guilt complex over giving their kids a whack on the butt from time to time. i did it, and my kids didn't grow up to be abusers.

parents today let their children run the home, as if they were the adults..... there is sometimes no structure or respect, because parents aren't consistent and don't take on the role of leader or disciplinarian.

Why? because they are afraid their kids wont' like them.... hmm i bet most of these little brats who are running around would rather be disciplined and paid attention to.... it must be hard having a parent who acts like a little kid.

Answer 7

I don't believe in beating your kids in any means but a swat on the behind will never hurt them kids now are getting away with everything and it makes me sick they rule their parents and now they can get away with anything. And yet those parents are all wondering what went wrong I dunno maybe because you don't control your childern and 11 pm and your 10 year old is out hanging out with the drug dealers on the corner. Sorry tired of seeing lil wanna be thugs running around and their parents could give a crap where they are all hours of the night. Get control back parents and swat the kids when they need it. my Parents did it I'm turned out ok and guess what I actually respect my elders unlike todays youth!!!

Answer 8

I guess cause u see all these cases where people get in jail for hitting their kids even if they are just disaplining them rather then abusing them...

Personally i dont like to spank my kids but they know better then to be running around and acting bad ..There are plenty of other ways to disapline ur child...Time out, no toys, no tv,ect..

Answer 9

These lazy-as sed parents ought to have their kids taken away. This is why we have all the trouble with kids that we do these days: not enough spanking!

Answer 10

yes. spankings though...not beatings...there is a diff and a spanking makes a diff....beatings let kids know that violence is ok...spankings let kids know right from wrong...


hitting your child on the hand is ok to me, I think the people that dont start young from terrible two are the ones who have problems with their kids as they get older.... Just my opinion