The big thing that gets me down is am really different form the other girls my age. I dont wear designer clothes, i like to be my self and i dont care about my rep as long as i have friends. Well what's hard for me is people insault me ALL THE time cause of my differents. I tell people i dont care about what they think but everytime i get bulied it hurts inside and i have to pretend i dont care. At school am allways happy but on IM when people insulte me i almost cry.Is what am going through normal? How can i get this feeling of always being sad when people insualt me gone for good?
2007-11-28 17:32:03 · 13 answers · asked by cool 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Bullies should be reported. Their behavior is not okay. As to your reaction, remember that you are the better person. Find other people you are comfortable with and stay away from the jerks.
2007-12-01 04:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm much older than you (47) and have been on both sides of bullying.
It seems to me that the best thing to do is to bring this to the attention of your school counselor. You don't have to take action against the students yet, the idea is to get your feelings about it out of you. To internalize the hurt feelings is like filling a glass with water - eventually it will have more to handle than it is able to.
The most important thing is that you talk about it with one or more folks who can help you deal with it. A trusted person in your life like a teacher, relative, etc.
If talking about it a few times makes you feel better that would be great. But no matter what, if the abuse continues, you will still have the option to ask for help from your school administrators.
There is a movement surfacing in the US where bullying is being dealt with more strictly than it has ever been. It isn't to the point where it is widespread and effective, but at least people are aware of it and they can change things.
So, again, talk to the counselor, and try to let them know that the bullying hurts you and that you want to find out what action(s) can be taken to deal with it by yourself AND with the school.
Your parents could be involved too, but sometimes they can make it more complicated than it needs to be. Try to work it out yourself and if you aren't satisfied with what the counselor says, then that would be the best time to talk to your parents and tell them how you have tried to deal with things on your own.
2007-11-29 01:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does being different get you down?
I was bullied also and I dunno if I'm different but it hasn't bothered me at all in the long term. Just do your schoolwork is my best advice. Seriously it makes you feel better because you can think and/or say 'at least I'm not gonna be a dumb crack whore'. Nothing matters once you leave school except how much that you learned. I just finished and I confirmed that.
Just forget about them and if you have no friends, so be it. Honestly, if people see you being happy with who you are, they are attracted to you. I know from experience, I became friends with some of the most unlikely people because I appeared happy with being me. The only thing that comes out of faking is bad friends who are fake aswell and who you don't really like.
2007-11-29 02:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its ok cool, i been through the same **** when a teenager, and I'm almost sure you are quite sick of people telling you, that they are just teen bastards and don't pay them much attention ........ well they are, you know that.
but funny part will come when your personality, if you chose to keep it (which I strongly advice), will stand for all the years of abuse and bullying, trust me, you will stand out of all the crowd of poor losers, if what I see in you is true, you will probably follow an independent and art-oriented career, like architect or photographer, or something the like. Then you will see those who bullied you with pity and amusement while they are driving cabs and selling stuff over the phone (I have nothing but respect to cab drivers and telemarketers)
trust me, nightmare will be over, and when it does, you'll find out that it didn't matter that much as you thought
2007-11-29 02:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mak_time 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went to a catholic grade school and let me tell you 7th and 8th grade were hell on earth for me. There were some very cruel girls who attended that school. As an adult I have come to realize that THEY were the ones with low self-esteem. They would bully me to make themselves seem important and popular. I've always wondered how their lives have turned out. You're not alone in this. Don't let them get the best of you. Always be polite. Don't stoop to their level. Keep your grades up, study hard and I promise you that you will have a very bright future. Good luck.
2007-11-29 01:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by seashell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This won't help much, but I went through it in school, and now it's a distant memory that seems almost insignifigant. I am far from HS and can surround myself with people who are like-minded and who don't suck. This is a hard time in your life that will develop strengths in your future. People who sit around making fun of you have too much time on their hands and not enough good ideas of things to do. Be creative and shocking. Take up your time developing your personality instead of being on the computer surrounded by jerks.
2007-11-29 01:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hay kid keep your head up.
Keep the positive attitude at school.
My son is just about your age he gets picked on all the time just because he has Autism. there are days he calls me at work crying.
Yes I know it hurts.
And if most of you teasing comes from i,m an easy to stop that is not to log on.
It-don't mean a f what the other kids think of you it's what you think of your self.
And just remember GOD LOVES YOU and that's what really counts
Good luck sun shine
J.T.K..
2007-11-29 01:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by jeffkuehn15057 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people your age are immature, don't listen to them and don't get down. Those people aren't worth dealing with. As you get older the bullying will stop. I am sorry you feel sad, try to smile. I like girls that don't wear all that fancy stuff and are who they are, be proud.
2007-11-29 01:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
had the same problem at your age minus the IM..They all want to be my friend now....the losers! Sounds to me like you're doing a fine job...keep it up and try to be patient....likely you'll turn out to be the best looking thing in your Senior class.(Boys DO grow up and get tired of all the copycat garbage of the "popular" girls)
2007-11-29 01:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by rumblecookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be sad. Strive to be different and stand out. Its no fun when you're like everyone else and you blend in. Theyre probably just insulting you because they admire your individuality. Its a great thing to have.
2007-11-29 01:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by Laura 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋