Help with over eating/ depression?

Question

I've been depressed lately. Not extremely depressed. Not enough to go to a therapist.. just enough to consult yahoo answers (ha). I'm 20 years old, in college, I have a boyfriend. My parents are going through hard times and considering divorse. I think this is really bugging me. I'm an only child and I feel alone with this. My boyfriend is always busy and I feel alone a lot of the time. I don't have many friends were I live and I've been too busy to make more.
I've been over eating and I can't seem to stop! I've been really trying but I can't control it. I was under 120 pounds and now I'm over 135. Gah, it's just getting worse and I want it to stop now. Any tips? Has anyone gone through this?
I'm feeling so terrible about everything. The weight makes me feel worse, but I can't stop eating!

Answer 1

nothing wrong with that. wish i cod put on weight

Answer 2

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression.. But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then. Helping you eliminate depression?

Answer 3

yeah currently going through it i but i undereat. college is stressful especially when you feel alone. you're right to try and make more friends and it can be hard when you're not a freshman in the first week because by our age, a lot of people already have close knit groups that are hard to squeeze into. exercising can help alleviate stress and make u lose weight. try keeping a journal (if time permits) or drawing or whatever calms you. Personally drawing and painting help me but i dont have anytime because my major is so demanding. I guess I'm not much a help because I'm in the same pit and I have a horrible roommate on top of it. But good luck! At least you know you're not alone. :)

Answer 4

it will continue to make you feel worse if you dont stop!!! this has happened to me. im 23- i was depressed for most of college due to an ex boyfriend. your parents contemplating divorce is tough. and its hard to not let it effect you. but you have to take control. when you just want to lay in bed or eat and eat....say no! no one can fix yourself but you. you are in control of you. you can stop this. you just have to decide that your not going to let this sad feeling control your life. i dont know if you believe in God but you seem like you would. praying is the best advice i can give. it helped me. i now am alot better. i run marathons. thats how i got my weight under control. i set a goal and went for it. the only thing that you can do for the people in your life is show them that you love them each and every chance you get. you cant conrol them or their actions. i know you dont want to go and talk to anyone. but it might be good for you. make an appointment with a counselor at your college. depression is alot more common than you might think. alot of college students suffer from it. its nothing to be embarassed or ashamed about. also writing in a journal might help. just getting out all your thoughts and fears on paper is an amazing release. i have been in your shoes. and i know how hard it is. and how you dont even see how things will get better. but they wont get better until you take control. start fighting to be your life back! after all you only get one. i hope i helped

Answer 5

how about a pen pal I'll be your penpal I just have a new baby boy and of coures two other childre ages 7 and 5 ver smart
my husband is busy with work and well I'm home all the time i feel depress don't have anyone to really talk to my sister in law well she is on top of the world and I have no friends that I could really talk to now I am putting my self on a water diet.

Answer 6

i think you are at a deep enough point to see a therapist. you're using food as way to compensate for the things going on in your life, and in turn, it's only adding to the problem. i'm currently studying to be a counselor, and this is a good thing talk about because it can easily be solved before the problem gets worse....that's only if you're willing to fix it. you don't want to develop a serious eating disorder; it will put your health at risk and you'll be prone to other things such as clinical depression, suicide, etc. my advice to you is to see your school counselor, if you have one (every college should) and tell them what's going on. as long as you feel comfy with them, they should be a big help to you getting through this! good luck!

Answer 7

You dont mention anything about having a church home. They are the next best thing to family. If you dont have a pastor who prays with you and councils you, then your really are alone.
I would find either a Pentacostal one or Church of God in Christ Church. A place that is teaching the Bible as the word of God.
Sure, every one gets depressed at one time or another. Some like you eat, others like me dont want to.
Why are you depressed? Because your foundation is being cracked/destroyed. Your parents were and (still are) you foundation. They are what lead and guided you thru the beginning of your life. You looked to them as the "stable" elements in your life. What was unchanging as man and wife. Now that "foundation" is looking "shakey" because they want to destroy it through divorce. Which means if they can be shaken apart, where does that leave you? If you can't trust them to hold on together through thick and thin, who can you depend on? It makes you then begin to wonder if they were just putting up with each other for the sake of the kid/you. Which just shows the faility of man. He can't be depended on.
So now that you are of age, you need (as the song goes) a friend in Jesus. He is one in whom you can depend. He will never leave you, even in the end.
It is so simple all it takes is a simple prayer of "Dear Lord God, I know I am a sinner and cannot save myself, that Jesus died on the cross for my sins. Please Jesus come into my heart and save me. Send the Holy Ghost to, so that I won't feel alone and depressed. For you said you will stick closer than a brother to me. Give me your strenght because right now I am feeling awfully weak. In Jesus name amen."
Then start having conversations with him thru out the day..
You will find the more you start learning about him (through his word the King James Bible) you will actually hear him talk to you. He starts out as a still small voice but as you learn to listen and heed what he says, he it gets louder.
Try it!

Answer 8

I know what you're going through. The thing that worked for me was a gradual cut-back of junk food and step-up of fitness.

I started my junk food cut-back by stopping drinking soda and sugary juices. I lost weight immediately with just that.

I stepped up the fitness by enrolling in a kickboxing program. I was getting fit and learning a helpful self-defense tool at the same time.

When you are healthy, you will start to feel better about yourself. When you start to feel better about yourself, then you can start to deal with the situations in your life more rationally and calmly.

Plus, beating punching bags is a great way to ease tension and stress while toning your tummy. :)

Oh, and the boyfriend who is never around? Well it shouldn't bother him if you start doing other things since he's never around anyway. Tell him if he wants to see you, he'll have to work around your schedule, instead of you working around his.

Answer 9

very sorry to hear about your parents and its effect on you.

if you follow the same routine everyday, you need to make some urgent changes.

the fact you are concerned about the weight is very positive and it means you have the will to stop snacking.

try to include exercise in your daily routine.

sitting in a jacuzzi will melt away the stress.

try to do a lot of walking.

also, very important, change you eating habits. lots more vegetables, less or no, ice cream, cookies , cake , chips etc.

good luck.

hope your parents can resolve their differences.

god's blessings.

Answer 10

I'm going thru the same thing - I eat when depressed or stressed or even bored. Make sure you exercise everyday because it raises endorphins and your metabolism. It will help you handle the stress. And try to get used to eating healthier, so when you do eat, at least the food is healthy.

Answer 11

I went through that a few times in my teenage years. What helped me get over it is kept telling myself it wasn't worth it. It's not worth it. The mind is a powerful thing and you should keep telling yourself it's not worth it. Your going to get more depressed and feel worse about yourself if you continue to over eat. I do suggest a counselor. I think you need people to talk to. Keeping to yourself is not going to make it any better.