Am I too picky in selecting a guy?

Question

I'm 5' 8'', 118 lbs. I love to exercise. I have a awesome sense of humor, I am nice, I enjoy being around people, etc. So here's the problem: I haven't have sex in 15 months and it is KILLING me. I am 20 and I would love to meet an awesome guy. I feel like I am wasting my sexiness on nothing! I am tired of sleeping alone but I'm not slutty. Should I just look for a 'cuddle buddy'? What should I do??

Answer 1

Its in a humans nature to detest being alone, so I understand completely but its perfectly fine to be picky, actually your really smart for being picky because at least you know you have standards, thats better then some women who have none! we all have needs but sex isn't always the answer so just look for someone to hold you on those cold nights alone if you trust them not to tempt you to take it further...Self Control My Dear!!(Something You Obviously Have Alot Of)

Good Luck

Answer 2

You are 20 and have no kids...a woman doesn't need a man. There are other things to help your "sex" problem and get a pet for your "sleeping alone" problem. And, being 5'8 and 118 lbs sounds a little too skinny, so maybe thats your problem. At 5'8 you should weigh 130 lbs. Some guys like really skinny girls, but most like healthy looking girls. I admit, I'm a fat-so, but I do know that with my extensive experience in dating (since I can't find the right guy) I have learned the basics of what they want and one of them is a healthy chick.

Answer 3

First off, I'll be blunt. You won't find a good guy if all you want is sex. At best, it is HIGHLY improbable. All the nasty guys are the ones out there just for sex, although the crafty ones won't appear this way at first, they'll "hook" you with appearing to be nice, and the relationship may even last a year or two before their true colors come out when they become "relaxed" in the relationship. That aside... I would suggest that you change around your priorities just a little... what do you really want etc...

People have lost the meaning of love. Now, "love" is pretty much a synonym for "sex" more or less. It's pretty sad. This is what happens when people reject God.

Answer 4

Unless you are refusing to date someone for shallow reasons, such as nose size or movie preferences, I doubt you're being too picky. Being reasonably selective is a good thing because it helps you avoid the jerks who won't treat you well or guys who will be incompatible with you.

As for finding a cuddle buddy, I don't reccomend it. If you haven't had sex in 15 months, you wouldn't want your first experience to be with someone who will take advantage of you. I've tried the FWB experience, and it ultimately leaves a person empty inside. It's a lot like eating chocolate chip pancakes. They may be filling and delectable at the moment, but you will feel dissatisfied and hungry in a couple of hours. Value yourself enough to wait for that awesome guy you want. Let your friends know that you're willing to be set up. They can help you find someone who shares compatible personality traits and will treat you well.

Answer 5

You're young. You don't need to find a serious relationship. I say that you should use your sexiness on some fun while you're young and still ooze of sexiness. Enjoy yourself while you can. I emphasize that. When I was in college, I used that time as a time to learn and grow in all aspect of life...experimented a lot. At least I won't look back when I'm ready to get married and wonder why I didn't do that and that and that. Just be careful and use protection.

Answer 6

girl, there is no such thing as "too picky", only "not picky enough." dont waste your time with just anyone. wait for someone who impresses you. i was in the exact same position a couple months ago, but sometimes you just have to wait it out. even if he's not perfect, he's gotta be a good guy. because if you choose to have a cuddle buddy for friend with benefits, it will get pretty ugly when they realize you dont actually have interest in them. hold on, stay strong. haha

Answer 7

For the time being go buy a rubber friend to help you out with your sex drive. Unless your a goddess don't be so dam picky. if your looking for a perfect man, you might never find one. Look deep inside a person not superficially. Looks are not all there is to it. Many of the riches men in the world are not your awesome looking type person.

Answer 8

I think your just feeling a bit lonely right now (theres no need to justify your personality and appearance for this question, right?)

Just wait. Wait for something more meaningful than bumper buddies.

Answer 9

You should wait for the right guy, if you have to wait 2 years, just to find the right guy to have sex with wait, or unless you just want sex, think what you want.

Answer 10

definitely, get a cuddle buddy. cause you needing what is definitely not primo in a relationship makes you vulnerable to any relationship as at now. you go, get you a cuddle buddy!