How do I get rid of my mother and her never employed husband?

Question

I have been supporting them for a year now and I'm tired of not having anything because of it. So, how do you kick your own mother out?

Answer 1

Tell them that since they are adults, and you need your own place, they will have to move on to supporting themselves. Since you have been supporting them, you may have to subsidize their first apartment. Find one, pay first&last months' rent and deposit, and help them move in. Also, find out what social services may be available to them.
Be ever so loving and let them know that you are supporting them in taking control of their own lives. This will not include any money from you, of course. But they can come over once a week for dinner.
I know this is really hard for you, but it is absolutely wrong for able-bodied adults to take advantage of you this way.

Answer 2

Your mother and her husband are going to mooch off of you for as long as you allow it.
This is about boundaries. This is war.
Quit buying groceries. Cut off the cable TV service. Install a lock-box on the thermostat and keep them uncomfortable in your absence.

Talk to them and give them a solid move-out date, tell them you were glad to help them out in a pinch, but it is long since time for them to be gone.
Offer to help them find an apartment in the area.
After that date, you will put their stuff on the porch and change the locks.
You can file eviction with the local county courthouse if you need to, so a Deputy will show up and forcibly remove them.

Answer 3

If there in your house simply say When you live in my house you go by my rules If you do not have a job do not contribute to the food gas @ lights and fuel cable or gas for tranportation car and home insurance you have got to go It is time for you to act like an adult time for you to grow up Then send them to social services salvation army and let them help them get restarted and established You have been a good daughter now they need to help themselfs you can not do it for them they have to get up and want to do it for them selves Tough love my mom did this to me at 19 I have been on my own every since The best reality check I ever got It was not always easy but I still here doing well

Answer 4

When you let a relative (or anyone) stay in your home, you really need to discuss the length of the stay and RENT and how you expect your home to be run, BEFORE they move in.

Just tell her that time is UP, and she has X amount of time to find a place to live. You are NOT responsible for your mother, or her boyfriend. You didn't say they were retarded or disabled, so dont' let them act as if they are.

take care.