When my daughter bites me and we get mad at her she laughs and thinks we are playing. How do we get her to see the difference between serious and play or is she not old enough?
2007-11-28 16:43:25 · 15 answers · asked by BIllyG 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
the body language is very important, if you are laughing when she bites you must stop laughing and make a point that this is not acceptable. Frown and stop whatever you're doing.
In many cases she already knows she is doing something wrong and laughs either because she is getting away with it or because she is nervous waiting for punishment at such tender age physical punishment is a big NO-NO but you can punish by not carrying her on your arms or by giving her some solo time on her crib
2007-11-28 16:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by I'm a brain in a Jar 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I think you need to intervene.
Don't give her a chance to bite you and stop her in the process.
Grab her hands and look her right in the eyes and tell her in a stern voice, "No bitting, be nice to your Mommy."
Show her that you are the boss... I know she is only 2 1/4, but it sounds like there is a little bit of a power struggle going on... especially since she only does it to you.
Sometimes we just need to understand from their point of view as they cannot fully express themselves.
I did find useful info to understand and how to deal with something similar
2007-11-29 04:55:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dan B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am DISGUSTED by the people who answered "bite her back"
My LORD people the child is 2!!!!!!!
DO NOT bite her back...not only is it abusive but it will teach her "eye for an eye" mentality which you will only regret by the time kindergarten rolls around...
She is young so it will be hard to help her understand that this is not acceptable behavior... HOWEVER just be patient and, don't get MAD... You need to SHOW her that biting hurts. Example...Fake crying... or simply~ the next time she bites you Exaggerate the :OUCH" and ignore her for a moment as in " I don't want to associate {in her eyes play} with you right now because you hurt me... "
Consistency is key... she will get the point after a few times
2007-11-29 01:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by busymum 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
spank her but or put her in a corner for time out
as per biting bite her back just enough for her to say ow
she is certainly old enough to know the differnce you just have to teach her other than yelling cause yelling and laughing and playing loud all sound the same
2007-11-29 01:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by squeaker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not recommend biting your child back, as this only reinforces that the behaviour is acceptable, you in effect are modelling it for her to repeat. The same people who will tell you to do this, are the ones who scream, when their child screams at them, it may stop the activity, but it is not an appropriate or mature teaching method.
I agree with the time out scenario, when your child bites, tell her "no, we need to be gentle with our mummy and daddy" move her to a designated "naughty area" and leave her there for 1-2minutes, alternately, if you find it hard to keep her in one spot, instead of moving her to an area, remove your attention from her.
At the end of the time out, she needs to apologise for her behaviour and then move on, smiles and happy, all is forgiven.
This way, you are using verbal positive reinforcement and the word "no" which she understands. She learns that biting means nobody wants to play with you. She may find your response amusing at first but will soon find other ways of playing where you continue to interact, rather than biting - where she isolated for her behaviour.
This is just my opinion, hope it helps.
2007-11-29 00:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Vicarious 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She has been old enough for a long time.
Put her in time out. Take away toys. Stop playing with her(if she bites after you play, stop the play. Not perm. of course.)
If all else fails, spank her. (Yes, go on and thumbs down me.)
2007-11-29 00:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
usually children bite because they are frustrated that they cannot express themselves through words. try building her vocabulary and talking to her about feelings - grown ups have feelings, just like kids do.
next time she bites, put her in time out for 2 minutes. somewhere very boring. do NOT laugh or give in if she acts cute or upset.
also...i do know someone who bit back. her daughter never did bite again.
2007-11-29 00:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by leos_mama 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't get mad at her - that won't teach her anything useful. See this for tips on handling biting: http://www.askdrsears.com/html/6/T063900.asp#T062400
2007-11-29 00:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by daa 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take her by the hands and place her in front of you, face to face, and give her a firm, seriouse "No", and repeat it to here that what she did was bad.
2007-11-29 01:12:37 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Start setting up a naughty chair or corner where she goes when she has done something you are not happy with. then she can see the connection between behaviour and punishment.
2007-11-29 00:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋