my ex says that he will do anything for me if I go back out with him and screw up my life if I dont?

Question

I have ben dating the same guy for a 1 1/2 wonderful years. but the problem is that my parents hate him because he use 2 do drugs but he quit that for me. the 1 problem is that everytime we fight he tries 2 do anything 2 screw up my life. such as call my friends & family & try 2 get them against me. right now my mother does not ever want 2 speek 2 me & 1 of his friends is threatining me. that is another reason why my dad hates him. right now we are broken up & my dad says if I ever speak 2 him he is going 2 kick me out cause Im 18. but the thing is I feel misreable w/out him & I believe if we go back out everything is going to be perfect again. I love this guy dearly and he claims he love me but my only ? is if he really does love me y does he try 2 get everyone 2 hate me when we fight. he says talking **** about me is the only whay for him to get over me. & his mom says since we broke up he has been crying every night. what should I do and does he really love me? please respond thanx

Answer 1

Dump this zero and get with a hero

Answer 2

Wow. This reminds me of a relationship I was in. I thought that I loved him, and that he loved me. But that was all bullsh**. Someone who truly loves you would never do the things that he does. He is WAYY too controlling. He thinks that he owns you. Your parents are only trying to help you. Ending up with this guy would be the worst possible thing you could do. I know it is hard because of the feelings that you have, trust me, i've been through it. It took me months of crying, getting in FISTfights with my parents, and sneaking out of the house at night to realize this is not what I wanted. Your family will be there for you forever, this guy will control you, and maybe even hurt you. If he loved you why would he want the people you love to hate you? Think about it. I ended up having to get a restraining order against my ex, which at the time I thought was a horrible thing to do - but 4 years later I think about how my life would be if i hadn't! This is sad to say, but sometimes it's harder to stop loving someone that treats you badly, girls just like that form of control in a weird twisted way. But can you see you guys having kids together later on down the road? You get in a fight and he tells your kid that her mommy hates her.. You can find someone that loves you AND your family and friends. Let him cry. I'm sure hes made you cry..does his mom ask you that one!?

L O S E R = him.

Answer 3

You guys have broken up for a reason and you should know the reason very well. You guys must have come to a point whereby the break up is a must. So, why bother to get back and hoping that everything is going to be ok? He can do whatever he wants (which indirectly tells you that he is not a mature fellow). Dont cry over spill milk, be brave and live your life on.

God bless you.

Answer 4

This guy is possesive, controlling, revengeful, has bad temper. Your parents are right: they love you and they don't want their daughter to hang out with this jerk who feels no respect for their daughter.
Your boyfriend cannot control his anger when you fight, and try to put your friends and family against you telling lies, slandering you. Imagine what your life will be living with this jerk, if someday you'd try to leave him... he may try to hurt your physically, to do anything to take revenge on you. This is very serious, young lady. Don't waste your future, your present having a relationship with a fellow who has such violent tendencies. Get rid of him ASAP, you deserve better. Why is your self respect so low ? what happened in your life that you think that a man like this one, a man who doesn't hesitate to hurt you when he's angry, is the right boyfriend for you? . Your parents know better, they already know he's a jerk, and don't want this man in your life. Please, dump this guy, ask your parents for support, trust them, they want the best for you. Don't fall again for his charades, drama, because you could regret it bitterly for the rest of your life. You should be focused on pursuing a college education, positive stuff, not dealing- you are so young- with garbage like that.
Good luck !

Answer 5

Ohhh girl- leave him on the corner. He is no good for you. You're parents and friends only want what is best for you... and I think deep down, you know he is not best for you either. You WILL find someone else and someone better. He sounds extremely immature and has a lot of growing up to do before he should get into another relationship.

Answer 6

This boy is obviously very troubled. Stay away from him. You don't want to alienate your Family over this worthless piece of garbage. Don't go back to him. Ask your Parents to change the house phone number. Listen to your Parents, they know what they are talking about. You might think that they are being totally unfair to you, but trust me, they are only looking out for you because they love you. Good luck.

Answer 7

well i'm n expert but if he luvs u then wud he let u go. because its clear u both still hav feelings for each other. but if all my boyfriend did waz knock me down then he is absoloutely not worth my time.and u sud b worried about ur safty if he is talking about hurting u then he doesn't care about u enough 2 defend & protect u. and almost alwayz ur parents r right bout these things. if he can do u like tat then he's not all that. have faith n ya self gurl cause its clear 2 me u can do so much better. if hes this crazi about u then he sud want wats best for u.if he really cares about u then he will alwayz deepinside wants wats best 4 u .and gurl let me tell u it ain't HIM. drop him n the dust and move on with ur life. and well i hope i helped.

And God Bless You.

Answer 8

Sounds like your Buddy's got a control problem and if he is telling you this now it is only going to get worst...You want to be scared the rest of you life...RUN!

Answer 9

you just answered your question partially, you just said "if he really loved me why is he turning my famliy against me?" you really think thats love, i dont mean to be rude but my famliy comes first before any stupid boyfriend whoes trying to win sides and turn his girlfriend's famliy against her, thats not love, thats called being controlling and being jealous, why would you want to date a guy like that.

Answer 10

Not a good answer here.....

You're good for him.....but he's not good for you..
He's trying to control you..
I think I would move on...