I have a situation with my girlfriend... Can somebody help?

Question

Ok, my and my girlfriend are 14 years old. Now before anything, we both LOVE eachother. Not crush, not infatuation. LOVE. We have started thinking about 'intimate relations' such as touching, rubbing, massaging of the butt, legs, breasts. We AREN'T going to have sex, or touch the vagina or penis... We won't go past this step. We both want to know beforehand, if this is ok. If somebody could please answer this, I'd greatly appreciate it. Best answer will be selected.

Alright. Thanks for the replies up to 24. Here is the info I can provide:

Yes, I should concentrate on school. I have A's in every class, and the top in about 7 of them.

We've dated for about 8 months, and haven't argued yet.

As you can probably see, I'm more mature than the average 14 year old, and so is she. We both know love, we aren't stupid and think love is: LOL HER BOOBS ARE HUGE! I LOVE HER!

Thanks again for up to 30.

Yes, I do know my grammar is good for my age. My brain melts when I see "wel i nede soem gewd adviec" -Shudder-

I do love her. I've been there for her for all the worst. I've been there when she's sick, I do let a lot slide with her (She does have some habits that others find annoying, but I find them cute), and she does all the same for me.

I do appreciate that somebody does care about my health, but trust me ma'am. I can get an hour of sleep, and go for 24 more hours.

I am going to close the question. Thank you guys. If you have more information, you can IM me at PerfectPimping, or email me at [e-mail].

Thank you all for your imput.

Answer 1

It's a nice thought, but you try making out and heavy petting for an hour and see how well you hold up against temptation. If you can stand it, you're stronger than me, buddy.

There's nothing wrong with choosing to avoid that. If you can, then that's fantastic; I wish I had waited. Now that I'm with someone I truly love, I can appreciate what a special gift that is to give someone.

However, be careful with the word love, especially at your age. Love isn't that fluttery feeling you get in your heart when you see someone you like. Love is rubbing someone's back when they're puking their guts out with food poisoning. Love is shaking your head and chuckling away those little things that bug you (like when she chews so loudly, or he picks his nose). Love is dealing with someone when they're gross or smelly or bad tempered or all three, and not giving up on them. Love is sometimes letting your hopes and dreams take a back-seat so someone else can live theirs.

So if you're prepared for that, then maybe you're prepared for love. But I sure wasn't prepared for that at 14. :) I was a little snot-nosed brat at your age, and my grammar wasn't nearly as good as yours. So I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

Since both of you are only 14, I would say "hold it". The moment you start doing the intimate things, there is no holding back. You will end up doing the wrong thing; having sex. Remember keep it to holding hands and kissing on the cheek. Think of the possibility of a baby coming along, once you are into the intimate acts. Are both of you ready to have the fruit of your love? Real love means having to think of each other's welfare; thinking of her feeling and making sure she is safe and sound at all time and not satisfying each other's needs.

Answer 3

Personally, I don't think it is wise. Even though you two did set some ground rules (Which I applaud you on that) It is to easy to go past that step. Temptation is a lot more powerful then people give it credit it for and it is to easy to just let yourself go further than what you were planning. If you two are in love each other then I believe that you two have the patience to wait till you are married or at least prepared for the consequences of intercourse.

Answer 4

see see no touch.

touch take.

just remember to be safe too young for pregancy theres a lot of Cons that goes along with that.

i'd say making out and kissing should be the most a typical 14 year old couple should be doing

i think sex at 14 is too young but apparently im wrong so much americans have sex at that age its shocking

Answer 5

Here's the thing, you guys may be in love, but through my past experiences, 14 years old is too young for sexual encounters. I know how tempting things get, trust me. But stick to kissing for a while and you wont regret it. Touching the breasts and rubbbing leads to other things, whether your believe so right now or not. stay safe for a while. how long have you been dating?

Answer 6

You may touch, rub, hug, etc but the society would still think you're underaged and immature like it or not. I guess if your relationship can hit pass 18 and to 20, then people would start taking you both seriously. Just be patient and I think it's better to hug her and share with her your thoughts, feelings, etc more mentally for now.

Answer 7

You're 14 years old, you should be thinking about school. Love at 14?!! Kids don't even know how to wipe their butts at this age, how can you say you LOVE one another? Go to school and get good grades. Stop messing around online.

Answer 8

I think that it is not really ok being a mom of a 15 year old. I don't want to go into detail, but I just don't think that it is a good idea.

Answer 9

No, it's not okay. You are children. And yes, you know it's going to go further, because you've already thought about it. And it's not LOVE, you haven't had the life experience necessary to find out what love is.

Answer 10

Um... those things kind of lead to sex... so I wouldn't go there. I know you think the world's out to get you because they think you are to young to be in love, but I don't. I'm sure you love her, but I wouldn't start this serious of a relationship this early in your life.