Ouchie, I'm a stranger, so I can't see that my opinion will matter to you, but, if I knew you, I would be sort of worried about you. When there is such a big age gap between people it is hard to build a long-term, healthy relationship. When you were just born, this person was graduating high school. He's seem much of life that is not even thought about by you...yet! Making a relationship good is hard work. It is harder when each person is at a whole different place in life. You probably don't even listen to the same music...
Many times the older person has an unfair advantage to the younger person due to age and experience. In many places it is illegal to have that much of a gap because the younger person is more likely to be exploited.
I would be worried if one of my daughters was dating someone that much older than her. I hope this works out for you, but I would urge you to be careful, very careful.
2007-11-28 16:43:15
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answered by LeslieAnn 6
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Well, they say it's a bad idea to date someone who is (your age/2)+7. If you're happy with the way things are that's what's essential, but you may want to keep in mind that the way men and women change as they get older (we're talking years, please keep that in mind) are very different.
Our opinions are likely to vary in extreme degrees depending upon the details of your situation. How old you are, where both of you are with your lives, where you're both planning on going, and whether or not the relationship is serious or you have serious intentions all affect someones judgment on whether or not you're in over your head.
My parents were seven years apart and I've always favored younger men myself, although I have a hard time getting along with people consistently who are in my age group. There are a lot of legal and moral considerations to take into account in a relationship that has such a difference in experience, but I think it's more important to take into consideration the dynamics of the relationship than it is to consider their chronological age. To not consider it at all, however, is probably a mistake. Ignoring the differences instead of embracing them will often come back to haunt us.
2007-11-28 16:40:50
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answered by stickypurplecat 2
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Matters how old you are! If you are older than 18, hey... what-ever. I am 49 and wish I could find someone 31....Older women seem so formed in their ways and have problems coming into the middle on many things!
It's hard finding someone that treats you right so be happy if he does!
You got one thing going.....you will always be young in his eyes!
2007-11-28 16:33:11
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answered by Robert 2
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I assume he has some solid money - I actually think that makes alot of sense. If I has to do it over again (not that I really planned on getting married when I did; just met the right girl), I would work my tail off until 40, go teach a class or two at the local university in animal magnetism, and then go out and sign up a college girl.
Anyway, I hope he's well endowed...financially speaking, of course.
2007-11-28 16:35:45
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answered by orrFius 4
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well as long as your adult enough to make responsible decisions. you should be of legal age or he can be in BIG trouble.
My parents were 16 years different and stay married for 36 years before he died. Then my neighbor is 22 and her boyfriend is 48. They have 3 kids and been together for a little while now.
2007-11-28 16:34:44
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answered by Just ME 5
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hmm... are you over 18? if you are not then RUN AWAY FROM THIS HE'S BAD NEWS!!!!!
if you are over 18.... then it is still kinda iffy i guess it depends on maturity level and attraction... but how do you feel about the fact that when you are just turning 30, he will be almost 50? and getting grayer and heavier and older.....
or when you are 65, just barely ready to retire and travel the world, he will be almost 85-possibly to old to travel and possibly in need of a nursing home.
these are important questions to ask yourself
2007-11-28 16:34:17
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answered by Anonymous
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As long as you are 18, that is ok.
Nothing wrong with dating older men, I always have. When I was in my 20's...I dated men in their 30's, 40's and even 50's. But don't forget that just because they are older, don't mean they don't play games, cause they do! Not sure why, but older does not always mean mature.
2007-11-28 16:33:31
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answered by Anonymous
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Depends on how old you are...are you 15 and he's 33 or are you 30 and he's 48?
I'm not against age differences in relationships (except for minors with an adult) as long as they are sincere and are with them for the right reasons and not wrong($$) reasons.
If your happy, then who cares?
2007-11-28 16:32:53
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answered by Anonymous
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If that means 50 and 68 that's acceptable. If it means 12 and 30, it means get off AIM, go get checked out by a psychologist, you do not love this man no matter what you think, and avoid him before its too late.
2007-11-28 16:32:31
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answered by Anonymous
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Depends on your age. My wife is 9 years older than me but it is no problem.
Posted by Just Curious, " But if you are 38 and he is 51...that works."
But that's only 13 years older!
2007-11-28 16:32:15
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answered by Anonymous
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