This guy chased me for about a year. I was scared to let him in...and then finally agreed to be with him. We dated for 3 months and he broke up with me over something silly. For the past 6 months it's like we have never stopped dating, but he cant seem to commit to me again. I'm not sure what his problem is. I can tell he cares so much about me. Today, I've decided I needed to step my foot down. If he cant tell me how he feels or call me his gf...then I cant act like his gf anymore. I felt like I needed to move on because it wasnt fair to me. We've never told each other we loved each other...because we both feel like those are extremely strong words...but I miss him so much, and we have so much chemistry. Is it true that if he truly loves me he wont let me walk away?
2007-11-28 16:28:00 · 14 answers · asked by ilovecalc123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sad to say that sometimes we need to walk away from the one we love... I've learned from experience... But I don't really see any reason why this certain guy would let you walk away... Talk to him about it, let him know how you feel, and hopefully things will work out...
Good luck!
2007-11-28 16:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult question. Love is something that evolves over time, and someone can love you and not really love you the way that is required for the relationship to last. It essentially depends on "how much" he loved/loves you.
That is a problem with the English language. Most languages have several words for affection, but we modern Anglophones use two: like and love. Some people go so far as to include infatuation, affection, desire, etc., but essentially, we have a lack of vocabulary to express how we feel.
The main thing is, if he -truly- loves you, then he is physically, emotionally, and spiritually (if you believe in a "spirit" aspect of the human body) connected to you...and if that is the case, he would be hardpressed to leave you.
I don't know how far you got physically in your relationship, but if you can't tell the person that you love them, it may be for the best that the physical aspect of the relationship has died down.
The last thing that you want to do is verbally force him to tell you that he loves you. If he's a guy, he's probably rather stubborn, and that means trying to plead/force your way into his heart won't work, it will just push him farther away. However, I think that if he really loved you and you started talking about leaving and possibly dating other people, his true feelings would either come out. If he stops you, you know that he's for real and he's just scared. If he doesn't, you know that he's either really scared or he doesn't love you the way that you need for the relationship to last at this point.
Without knowing you and knowing more, that's about all I can say. I wish you the best of luck no matter what happens.
2007-11-28 16:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by ninjaphobos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do think they let us walk away and it can be so confusing! I think some guys get it in their heads that maybe they would never be able to live up to some expectation or that they are not good enough when most of them need to realize it NOT always about the Money they make or the car they drive, etc...... that there are some of us that are really looking for true love and what is in the heart. That is what makes a lasting relationship. I wish I knew all of the answers too! Good luck to You~
2007-11-28 16:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Gabrielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you really truly feel. That is the best advice any of us can give you. Just sit down with him over some ice cream at the local ice cream parlor and just have a long talk with him about what you want and need from him and see what happens. Don't have the conversation at home make sure you are in a neutral location. Good luck!
2007-11-28 16:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by Chris S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found you can't put pressure on a guy with ultimatums. It has to be his idea to commit. You may have blown this one but you learned something. Next time, if you run across another no-commiter, start dating other people but don't break up with him. Just say, when he says something about you doing something on Sat., that you have a date. Don't explain your reason for the date. Refuse to. Just say, "I didn't know we weren't dating other people, I'm sorry." Also refuse to break off the date because "that would be mean". He will end up asking you to commit or breaking up with you in which case it wouldn't have worked anyway.
2007-11-28 16:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by fantagirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you 2 really have something and you don't want to throw that away, since your already good friends and feel comparable with each other just tell him that you want to be with him and your sick of him toying with Your head, make sure you tell him your not going to wait around for ever and im sure hell get the point, if not then hes not worth it and he may just holding on to you as a back up for the next time hes not seeing anyone
2016-04-06 03:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really loved a girl would he let her walk away?
Yes and No, if he feels letting her go is what's best for her then yes he would. If he felt he was holding you back then he would want what's best for you.
No, if he knew you were happy with him and he was happy with you.
2007-11-28 16:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by dwickleworth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. in the words of a corny sissy poet "sometimes to receive love you have to let go of the things you love"
lame i know. lol. Yeah. A decent guy would let you walk away. An indecent guy wouldn't respect your decision to end it, whereas a guy who did respect you would let you leave.
2007-11-28 16:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by loveyoubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like what ever happened that made you two split up realy spooked him and has him thinking.
talk to him,,communication is the answer here
let him know how you feel
yes, if he realy loves you, he could let you walk away..
have you ever heard the saying " if you love something,set it free
if it returns to you, it was meant to be
if it doesnt , then it was never meant to be" ??
it goes something like that,
he might figure that if you realy care about him, youll come back and stick by him
2007-11-28 16:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by country_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes and no..this being the case cause if walkin away means that u are happy then he will cos if he loves u he will do anything in his power to makes sure u are happy 100% of the time..even if that means 'walkin away'
2007-11-28 16:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by e1ement739 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋