I have a big problem... the guy I'm in love with is planning on marrying my cousin in a few months and they both want me to be in the wedding, the best maid in fact... I try to avoid both of them as it is because of my feelings for the groom. I love my cousin and I would never hurt her by comming between them. Besides, I know that he doesn't love me but even if he did, I still wouldn't do that to her. Should I just suck it up and be in the wedding to make them happy? I don't want to be selfish but at the same time I really really dont want to be forced to watch it. It's especially hard because she has told me that she wouldnt be marrying him if nor for his $. I don't know what 2 do. I'm planning on moving out of state next fall but I still don't want to be in the wedding but she doesn't have many friends so I kinda fee obligated.
2007-11-28 16:02:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Suck it up. it would be wrong of you to come between them.
2007-11-28 16:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by mouchy123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have any idea you feel this way about him? Or does your Cousin know anything about this? Sometimes our feelings get a little misplaced when we are young. It is easy to think we have fallen in love when in fact it isn't real love. I don't know how old you are, but you are sure to meet someone who is in love with you that you will be in love with too. It works better that way. You need to have a relationship all of your own and not get involved in someone else's. Maybe your cousin meant she wouldn't be marring him if he didn't have a job and wasn't able to support her. It is a good Idea to be able to have enough money to pay for all the things we need in a marriage, but money is not a good reason to get married. Someday when you meet your Love you will be so glad you did not act on this one. Just go with a smile on your face and be in your Cousin's Wedding......this is her day. Your day will come and you will be so Happy when it does. Sometimes we think things are bad when in the end it is really the very best thing that could have happened to us. We never know what life might bring our way.Hang in there. My Best to you...
2007-11-28 16:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by AngelD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, you're being nice enough in not interfering with their relationship. I say do something for yourself and don't attend. I know I wouldn't. Just tell her that you're extremely busy that day. Make something up that'll sound convincing. It's a good thing that you're moving out of state. You poor sweetheart. Good luck.
2007-11-28 16:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by ღ♥Jess♥ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing by not coming between them...but for your own peace of mind if i were in your shoes i wouldnt be in the wedding...if you can honestly say to yourself that you do not support their being married, dont be in it. best of luck.
2007-11-28 16:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by Em-lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious that she is just marrying him for the money? That is bad news... I don't mean to be mean or anything, but such a marriage is destined for failure, once the guy finds that out.
2007-11-28 16:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Xan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do love him then you want his happiness and if that entails sucking it in and being there for his bride then im sorry it sounds the best thing to do ---- best wishes and fatherly hugs
2007-11-28 16:13:54 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh well you never told him this, or said anything about it, and i really doubt you LOVE him, its just a crush. you'll get over it
2007-11-28 16:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by spongebob! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him in private... KEEP IT QUIET
and then make a movie...
trust me... this is a MEMORY....
2007-11-28 16:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but i think you should let go and move on
2007-11-28 16:06:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋