My cousin and I used to be best friends. We were inseperable, and did everything together. She lives overseas, so I used to email her and talk with her on the phone all the time. Even though she is 15, and I just turned 13, I am very mature for my age.
She came to visit with her family last summer. I was excited to see her and for the first week or so we were fine.
Then my brother, who is also 15, started hanging out with us. I was fine with that. But me and my brother are not the best of friends, and pretty competitive. So when my brother made fun of me or was rude, I was not surprised.
But when my cousin sided with him on everything, that surprised me. Whenever she and I were with him, she changed, and so did he. They both were meaner to me, but when my cousin was mean to me, she always acted like she was innocent. Over the course of their visit, she did many things to upset me, and my brother was involved in all of them
2007-11-28 15:58:10 · 4 answers · asked by masonkids13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When my cousin's family left, I was pretty upset with her. I eventually got over it for her sake and started calling her again. Then she came to visit by herself again. This time we went on a camping trip for two weeks and I had a horrible time, because of her. I am sick of her and my brother teaming up and making me feel awful! I can't take it anymore. I stoped calling her, and my emails to her are short and cold, with no feeling. I am not going to be best friends with her, or even really friends, because i can't get close to her without getting hurt. My mom says I should just pretend, but I do not think that will solve anything. What should I do?
2007-11-28 16:02:24 · update #1
Sounds like your cousin thinks she has outgrown you.
Listen... you need to get a little something down. There are FRIENDS and there are ACQUAINTANCES... even within family groups.
Acquaintances only call you when they want something... bring a present to a birthday party, or come when they call. These people are "users" at best. They typically don't care about you or anything going on in your life. You always wonder where you stand with these people until you put 2 + 2 together.
Friends are different. They are there for you, usually share common interests, offer a shoulder to cry on, cheer you on, and want the best for you.
At some point, you need to evaluate each relationship and ask, "What does this person bring to the table?" Is this person a mooch? A user? A manipulator? A drama-queen? A time-waster? Or is this person your cheering section? Provide insight? Make you laugh?
As you go down the list of traits and how each thing makes you feel, you will know who you should be spending more time with.
2007-11-28 16:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first sand her to hell
second stand up for yourself and do something about
third the next time she comes don`t hang with her anymore get a best friend and say "i`m sorry we planed this a long time ago so i got to go and u cant came b......"
and just walk way and superior and live her with your brother they will have more fun together....
2007-11-28 16:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by xoxoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem,,except my'n are worse! theres two of them (twin girls) you should tell her how u feel
2007-11-28 16:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get over herself.....
2007-11-28 16:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋