Middle School Answers-Respectful and Helpful Answers Please...?

Question

Okay-I am in a little bit of trouble. I was put in "In School Suspension" for "making out" with a boy on a field trip. Making out isn't that bad...Not really at all. Before this, people called me hurtful names and others things of the sort. Now, everything is way worse and everyone knows what happened. Sixth graders and sophmores have come up to me and asked me questions about this incident and I don't even know them. How do I handle the situation maturely and gain back a good reputation. Plus, the guy I was with, well we weren't dating (which made things worse) and we were just good friends. Now he never wants to talk to me or hug me and he took me off his top friends on myspace. (I know no big deal, but I'm worried) What can I do-Please help! And what is my guy friend trying to say.
Am I just a hook up?
I feel very used and violated because now he's saying it's all me fault when I told him no, he just kept pulling me back...
Please help...Thank you in advance :

Answers were lovely
I think that you are all right

And my parents do know because I was in school suspension for 3 days

And also about the assult thing...
I wouldn't do that because he was my friend I am no going to save my own a*s and het him in trouble...but it was a good point.

This is my last year in middle school (THANK GOD) and I appretiate your comments and suggestions.
I am still a little stumbled on how I should approach my guy and ask him why he's being an a*s....

Answer 1

Oh you poor thing. Things like this have happened to me before. I suppose the mature thing to do is be mature. Stand above it all, be polite to people if they ask you rude questions or say horrible things, and reply with, 'It really isn't any of your business is it?' But in the nicest tone possible. If one particular person keeps harassing you and making your life hell, I think it's fair to be very blunt towards them and tell them to... get a life as such. In regards to the guy you made out with... well I think its important you sort that out, even if it doesn't necessarily result in you keep his friendship. I think he's probably having just as tough a time as you with rumors and comments and in hind-sight he has probably come to the realisation that making out obviously on feild trips is not a good idea. Yet it seems his way of dealing with this situation is by shunning you and removing you from his life. I think it's best you approach him and ask him why he's behaving in this manner. Pretending it didn't happen isn't going to mean it didn't happen and he needs to realise that. Best advice, don't confront him over Msn, myspace or the phone. Do it in person, don't loose your cool and be willing to let the friendship go if it comes down to that... If he keeps acting like a jerk, he isn't worth your time... Also if he kept making out with you when you said No... well maybe that's a big warning sign. Good luck darl x

Answer 2

I am a middle school teacher and see these things happen all of the time. What you need to know is that you are simply the "scandal of the week". In a few days someone else will be the focus of everyone's attention and the spotlight will be off of you. As far as earning your reputation back, that's simply up to you and the choices you make. On that field trip you were a hook up and now you're the subject of the gossip mill. Learn from that and don't make the same mistake again.

Answer 3

This guys is an @$$ if he did that he knows nothing about other peoples feelings im sorry that he did this to you im a guy and my sisters tell me about this stuff well my sisters say guys do this to impress there friends. well i cant give you advice on what to do to get your reputation back but hes trying to say bad things about you i guess because if he really liked you he wouldnt have done that to you and if sophomores and sixth graders have been asking you this it must be serious i would talk to someone about this before it gets any worse. the reason you got suspended is because there have been strict rules now and in my school were not even aloud to hug anymore without getting ISS which isnt fair were not harming anyone? My friend got ISS for hugging his girlfriend once i mean like come on thats messed up its just a hug. well im sorry for what happened this guy should drop dead.

Answer 4

Middle school is tough. I too got caught making out with a boy at a school dance when I was in 8th grade. It was embarrassing, but it passed. There is nothing that you can do really. Just keep plugging along, eventually it will get old and people will stop talking about it. If anyone asks you about it, just avoid the question with a simple laugh and a, "It wasn't really that interesting." I promise you will be okay. About the guy, hey, he's probably just as freaked out as you, let it go, give him space and focus on your good friends and your school work.

Answer 5

It's easy for me to say but this will probably go away with time. You probably find out who your real friends are at times like these.

To get the reputation back I'd say it's all about how you handle yourself from here on. People will probably forget it before long. And try not to worry about the guy. If he isn't willing to talk to you now, he really wasn't that good a friend.

Good luck.

Answer 6

Just ride it out. I'm guessing this is recent. I'm a junior in high school right now and have made out with plenty of guys. I STILL feel like this right after... very awkward and stuff. But even when I thought i was loosing a friend forever I just pretended not to notice and eventually we both grow and and forget about it.


just hooking up is fine, just don't do too much else. ;)

Answer 7

typical guy - blame the girl. yeah rite I know how it went down. He was seeing how far he could go with you and what kind of reputation you have and how he can prove it. Let me tell you something - I am 30 and I have seen all of that crap from little boys (sorry) Don't let some jerk make you feel like that ever - he was out to prove something obviously! Have respect for yourself and don't fall for that again - this won't be the last time I promise! as for gossip just hold your head high - the gossip will dissapear after awhile. if someone says anything say "(his name) who?" I don't know who that is or what your talking about". don't worry about it just don't fall for little boy tricks - hes trying to make you feel and look bad.

Answer 8

sorry to say but u were just a kissing buddy, that's what I think since he's acting different and took you off his top friends. Now you know how guys are! Don't worry, soon people will forget all about it until they hear new gossip! Good luck and I hope everything works out =)

Answer 9

There isn't much you can do, but ride this out and act like it doesn't bother you much. Eventually middle school will be over and you will be going to your separate high schools. That guy was probably just curious with the rush of youthful testosterone he wanted to taste how it feels like to become intimate. He blames it on you because he doesn't want to take the fault that it was his lust for you that got you both into such trouble.

Answer 10

To make you feel better, the opinions of your peers only matters if they give you a fair chance. They will be their immature selves till they get out of high school when they will realize they were stupid. To get your reputation back, dont have a relationship for a while. Wear clothes that make you look innosent. People react to clothes believe it or not.

Its the little things that count.