Family Problems, Need advice. help me out?

Question

Ok, well I am 17 years old. My parents divorced about a year ago and i am with my mom. I go with my dad everyother weekend and on some holidays and stuff like that. Me and my mom have not been getting alot lately at all everysince she got her new boyfried. She treats me like crap and she hates my Boyfried. we have been together for about a year and, he is a good guy he dont drink or smoke or party. he is a freshman in college and is always good to me. she dont like him because he isnt what she wants and because he is half mexican? She is always trying to split us up and i work part time and my mom is even trying to make me quit my job, My question is, can i go and move with my dad or do i have to go through all kinds of court stuff? like can i just go over there one weekend and not go back? can the cops make me stay with her? he is my partent to and hasnt done anything wrong. me and him get alot better, and he likes my boyfriend and thinks he is good to me. please help me?

Answer 1

that's the same court order that i have with my parents. But since your 17 you would have to fill out paper stuff or whatever, unless your mom didnt say anything about it to the court. But I think when you turn 18 you can go anywhere you please. Good luck!!!!

Answer 2

This is a big problem with divorced families. When a problem or problems arrive with one parent they run to the other. Your drive to move away from your mom shouldn't be based on just becaue you're not getting along but also because you really want to live with your dad. I would suggest you try to work things out at home. What happens if your dad doesn't do things you like either? In this situation, you're running away it seems and it is going to put a huge dent in your relationship with your mom if you leave. And just because your dad is nicer or "cooler", that doesn't mean he's a better parent. Really try to work on your relationship - if you are at your wit's end talk to her about leaving. But just make sure you are making a mature well thought-out decision.

The best way is probably to wait until you're 18 and move out. This will spare the hard feelings at home and give you some time to think things through.

Answer 3

Dear Jane,
Don't run from your problems with your mother it will only make things worse. Life is funny and strange. Your mother probably is worriedd about you repeating her mistakes, although in your eyes and your fathers they are not mistakes. This is not your problem but it is your mothers. this doesn't mean that you should be insensitive to your mothers concerns. Try talking to you mother by herself on a level playing field with no one else around. Express to her that you want a heart to heart and that you would appreciate her patience and understanding. Don't get mad when she does and talk to her like an adult. She is just worrie about you, that is what mothers do, they can't help it (they love you so much). Do understand though that you are 17 as you said. Soon you will be off to college and believe me whether you believe it or not everything, and I mean everything will change! You may not feel the same way about the guy your dating as you will then, as hard as that seems to believe now trust me life changes and so do feelings. Take your time, find a way to talk to your mother (don't give up or give in). You will all be better off for it. Good luck Jane.

Answer 4

Hi!If you think you feel like you're running out of breaths,talk to your mom.If you'll ask me,you can also stay with your dad,because he understands you and your feelings.To have a Mexican Bf is not that bad,they're also human,maybe your mom is already building barriers without knowing your BF,she has to befriend your BF first before criticizing.
You're 17,and she's trying to make you quit your job?not a good thing.You can settle this problem without going to the court,talk to her heart to heart.Maybe she's afraid that you might end up heartbroken,but if you think he's the right guy for you..Go For IT!!!sometimes you also have to follow your heart's desire...

take care!!!

Answer 5

No, you can just leave and go. I don't think they can really make you go back there, they can't choose where you live, especially if you're almost 18. You don't have to go to court unless your mom has custody, most likely not if they didn't go to court and fought when they divored, and since you were older, 16/17ish, I really doubt your mom claimed custody of you since you are a teenager and technically could live on your own now (not suggesting it, just saying). Don't let her get in the way of your love life, you could try talking to her and telling her that you don't like her boyfriend either, but you deal (but not in a rude or manipulative way...).

Good luck, talk to your dad about it, make sure about the custody, and technically he could retake her to court if she has custody and win it if he hasn't done anything bad.

Answer 6

Sweetheart, unfortunately you are still a minor and have no rights above your parent's decisions. I sympathize with you greatly since I a relate to many diverse people from many origins and it sounds like your mum is very prejudiced.

In less than a year you will be free, so hold strong. You and your bf need to take care of each other but take some steps (if you can) to protect him legally right now; this may involve lying to mum or just laying low (not so bad since life is long, n u can spend time with him later).

Answer 7

No, it's easy to move, whenever you want to decide. There might be a small court proceeding, but the judge lets you decide.
You might ask a school counselor if you can move rite in now, if Dads cool w/it.
As far as mom, tell her u broke up w/bf. She won't know any different. Put some sleeping meds in her food once in a while to calm her down,too.

Answer 8

Yes, you can move to your fathers house. I'm not sure what the law says in your state... but in most places you can choose which parent to live with when you are 16... sometimes even younger. Try calling your local police station and asking them. You don't have to give them your name or anything. Just tell them you had a question. Your parents are divorce... you are 17 and want to move with your father. Ask them if you need your mothers consent to do that. But I am pretty sure you dont!

Answer 9

if mom has primary residence guardianship then she can make you stay at her house. Talk to both of them. See if she'll let you live with dad for awhile. If not then you have to go to court. Dad will have to file. You will get some say in where you want to live though. I am a divorced dad who has children living with me.

Answer 10

If he wants you to stay with him, you probably can. If it goes before a judge, the judge would say you are old enough to decide with whom you live. The best thing would be to work it out calmly with both of them instead of going to his house and not returning, school and your safety will be the things the courts will look at first, not at which parent approves of your boyfriend.