What is the BEST way to get a 1yr old to stop cursing??

Question

You see, my husband is a Marine & well lets just say he has a pretty bad vocabulary.

I tried ignoring it. I tried telling him no. I tried putting him in the corner. I've tried just about everything. He will be 2 next month.

He is not the typical toddler either. He says just about everything, just not what I ask him to say.

Answer 1

I'l tell you a story about my father who is in his 80's and his grandmother. they were on an outing and my father chose to say his new word for Granny, The word was "son of a *****". Smart Granny pretended she didn't know what he said and changed it to "Sunny Peaches". She said things like "Sunny peaches" you know I just love sunny peaches. When we go to the market we will buy some sunny peaches if they have any. No matter how hard he tried to tell her she had it wrong she insisted he said Sunny Peaches. He doesn't remember where he learned the words but the family called him "Sunny" long after he was grown up. Be a little creative. Even a super smart almost 2 year old will give up these words if they don't get a rise out of you.

Answer 2

You have an AMAZING one year old. Most one year old boys are not saying complex words yet and many are not even close to imitating curses. He's sooooo smart! He's not old enough to understand that cursing is bad or that he should stop. A one year old is probably not going to respond to being put in the corner because they don't understand yet. They just know you're upset but they are not connecting that with their actions yet. Sometimes, the best approach is to actually ignore him - he knows he's pushing your buttons so if he curses - he gets your attention. I would try ignoring him again and just realize too that if daddy curses - well daddy is his biggest example to follow....it's hard. Things are not going to be perfect for you in a situation like this. Another thing to do is to get him interested in saying other exciting words that he hasn't heard yet. What will probably work is to wait until he says something that you want him to say - then tell him to stop saying it - reverse psychology works many times for me! He'll get so wrapped up in saying the right things because he's getting your attention and thinks he's winding you up - he'll forget all about the cursing - as long as you ignore it.

Answer 3

ok maybe the first place you need to start is with your husband yes the marines are awesome and you learn alot of things maybe some that shouldn't be done in front of children maybe if you help your husband change his vocabulary your son will to because at this age kids are watching very thing you do or say and they are like little sponges and soak up everything and as far as your son goes revert to the old days and bring out the bar of soap it wont hurt him!! Good luck and God Bless!!

Answer 4

Yeah, don't punish the 1 year old for mimicking his father.
You need to take care of it at the source and lay down some rules about language in front of him. Even though your husband is a marine, he is a dad and he needs to leave his language away from the child.

Answer 5

The best thing to do....just completely ignore the bad word, and redirect it firmly to another, more appropriate word.
Eg, your boy is saying "sh*t", you say, "oh, ship, do you want to play with a ship?", etc.

It might take a few times, but he'll realise that he won't get any attention for what he's saying, and there isn't a big deal being made of it. By punishing him you're telling him that he's doing something really out there!
Oh, and get hubby to watch his mouth as well!
Good luck, hope that helps.

Answer 6

well i have the same problem with my 20 month old my hubby is in the air force and hes the same way but when my son says it we tell him no thats a bad word and when he first starting cursing we laughed because it was so cute but now its not so we dont laugh at it anymore when he say 'oh man' we laugh and he starting to say that more than the other words

Answer 7

He talks at 1 year old???? wow. He's a bright boy huh? Here is my advice. STOP CURSING!!! Tell your husband to use better language! Does he want his son going to preschool using nasty language. This is bad. When he says those words, tell him NO. Use time-outs or take favorite toys away for the day. They learn from thier parents. Tell your husband that he is a dad. Its his reponsibility to raise his son being respectful. good luck.

Answer 8

You need to start with your husband.
If you can't get him to stop then your child won't either.

If your husband would start correcting himself in front of your son, then your son might realize it is wrong.

I wouldn't punish or even expect a 2 year old to figure out something that your husband can't.

My husband is a retired Marine that really is no excuse

Answer 9

You might want to start by putting soap in your husbands mouth. Just kidding. I know how you feel. I'm ex-military myself and I find myself using off language in front of my 7 month old but I have to start watching myself when she gets older.

Answer 10

Kids, as you know, pick up on what their parents do. Parents teach kids how to act. The only way to stop it is for your husband to stop and when that happens, you can tehn focus on the child. As long as your husband talks like a sailor, your child will, too.