me and my daugehters mom were never married and i love daughter but i was recebtly told by a mutaul friend she said she was not mine!! i want to know but i dont know what i need to find out!even if she is not mine i dont want her to know!i love her and dont want her to get hurt,therefor i want to always be
her dad but its drivin me crazy i need to know.is there anyway to out her knowing!!
2007-11-28 15:25:54 · 13 answers · asked by gary m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Call the Maury show! (joke) Consult your doctor.
2007-11-28 15:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well my friend,you have a lot on your plate... first of all I must ask this question. are you the only dad she's known for the last 17 years as far as you know? if the answer to that question is yes,I would'nt worry about what someone else is saying. You and your daughter have loved each other for all these years. I would'nt let anyone come between us with a bunch of heresay. But the answer to your question as to could you find out for sure without your daughter finding out,the answer is NO! There are two ways to find out. 1. is to talk to the mother and ask for the truth. and 2. is to have a D.N.A test done. Eitherway your daughter will find out and that will distroy what you two have together. Don't tear down what you have built in the last 17 years.Her Love is worth a lot more. GOOD LUCK TO BOTH OF YOU.........
2007-11-28 23:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
without doing a test you shuld be able to tell if she is yours by charicteristics (sutch as hairlines, facial fetures or personiality)
If she is your daughter there well be at least some resembleance.
If none of this turns out do a test. Haver he come over and stay the night, get a hair sample off of her pillow or something. There are places that can do test with just hair samples without dr being involved. Nobody has to know the resaults but you. Keep this a secret and do not tell her if she is not yours if you want a relationship with her. Do not tell her mother either or she will not want you in her life. Her mother is evil to do this and take child support for all these years. In my opinion it is just as mutch theft as if she went to your bank account and stole or imbesialed it from you.
2007-11-29 14:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Eric_The Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there would be no change in your relationship with her, why do you need to know? To prove that someone may have cheated on you? It would hurt you even after 17 years so my advice is that you dont waste your money. I found out when I was 16 that the man that raised me, may not be my father at all and my daddy never wanted to find out because he said it would not make a difference and that made me respect him more than I ever could. My mom made a bad choice and he knew that and didnt care
2007-11-28 23:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes a real man to be a father, I'm a single mother to a 3 year old, and dread the day I have to go through something like this. I would hate to see my son call someone his daddy and then have his father come into his life and tell him otherwise. While I am not in a relationship, I suggest for you that you talk to her mother, and seek a paternity test just to be sure. At least you will have closure, and seeing as you love her so much, it really won't matter in the long run (sorry, I had to edit this, it didn't sound right to me the first time).
2007-11-28 23:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The only way to find out is through a paternity test. And your daughter would have to partake in it, and as silly as it may seem, so will your ex. I don't know why, but thats just the way they do it. If you really want to know, then go for it, but if finding out if she isn't your daughter isn't going to change the relationship you have with her, then why bother? If this mutual friend is a reliable source, then I would confront your ex about it, and take it from there. I really hope all works out for you, best of luck.
2007-11-28 23:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak with her mom and if necessary get a paternity test. My dad and don't get along and my parents have been married for 30 years. Make sure you tell her before and after the test that no matter what you are her dad and you love her.
2007-11-28 23:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Devils's Advocate 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
17 years old, she should be matured enuf to understand the one who really cared for her is u. even if she insists on knowing her real parents, she should still be grateful to you. if luck chances upon you, she might hate her real dad and come back to you. by law, you have the right for her custody, so dun worry too much.
and cildren nowadays, usually goes to the one who cared for them when young rather than just blood parents :)
but get a paternity test first!
2007-11-28 23:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sheep :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your doctor about getting a paternity test
2007-11-28 23:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to the doctore and get the test
2007-11-28 23:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl159 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋