I'm constantly being put down because I don't put other people's happiness before my own, like my grandmother's. My mom works all day and leaves my grandma to take care of me and my little brother, who is quite a handful. He has to go over to his father's this weekend and my grandma decided that I had to go over to my father's this weekend so she could go off and shop and go out to eat and not have to worry about me at home. She is an extreme worry-wart and can't go off for a few hours and enjoy herself knowing I'm at home alone. It drives me crazy because there is nothing I can do to make her stop worrying. And when I complained about being sent away she pulled the whole "Why can you not do this for me? Is my happiness not important to you?" I have tried putting her and others before myself but it's kind of hard to make others happy when I'm never happy myself. Is there something I can tell myself when people ask me to do something for them?
2007-11-28 14:55:06 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How lucky you are to have people who worry about you! worrying means caring-caring means love. Do you know how many kids there are out there that don't have that? Put yourself in their place. Your mother works all day. For what? The love of family. Your grandmother, Who has done her job of raising her family. By rights she should be able to relax now and think about herself. Instead she is caring for you and your brother. For what? The love of family. The very day we are born, our thoughts are all about self. You say your brother is a hand full. Its because he has not matured enough to think about anything except how he feels and what he wants. Sound kind of like you? I,m not getting down on you. We have all been like that. But then we grow up. (at least most of us) When we start realizing it's not always about us, We have taken a big step in maturing. And when that happens you start feeling better about yourself. You,ll want to do for others. You will learn to love.
2007-11-28 15:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Wondering.... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure people are not asking you for constant favors... and it seems to me that if your grandmother takes care of you and brother and other things, the least she can do is have a day out. So let her.
Go to your father's house...
And you don't have to put others' happiness before yours all the time, no.... but respect your family and their leisure time.... think about your grandma's life and i'm sure she deserves some time out.
2007-11-28 14:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it dear, but your being selfish, no happiness about it, your not thinking of anyone but your self........ why should your grandmother have to worry about making it home in time to have to feed you whether your old enough to take care of yourself is irrelevant, she would still worry, that's what parent's and grandparents do......... go visit your dad, it won't kill you to see him you know......And give your grandmother a break for a change...... how tiring for her to always be the go to lady........ how sad your mom is forever working........ how selfish of you not to give grandma break........ it's not necessarily a case of putting others first, you can't just decide to do it, you actually have to care for others first for that to happen...... I'm not seeing that here..........
Good luck and go see your dad........... it will not kill you and you will live
2007-11-28 15:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by bizzymom38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD SEE YOUR FATHER.
YOU SHOULD DO WHAT YOU ARE TOLD TO DO.
2007-11-28 15:10:40 · answer #4 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋