Muslim sisters, I need advice on beginning to wear hijab?

Question

I know some girls may have asked similar questions before, but I also need advice. I will be going to college this fall & I have decided to wear hijab and start a new way of life. I believe it is mandatory for muslim women to wear it, but my mom doesn't agree. She thinks it's unncessary. My dad is definitely fine with it. My mom thinks I should just dress modestly without the hijab. She says it's just an arab custom (I'm african). But I told her the majority of arabs are muslim, that is why the majority of them wear it. I also thought to myself, If we don't have to wear the hijab regularly, why don't we pray or enter a mosque without it then? I know I am definitely going to do it before I go to college. I would do it tomorrow if I could, but I am in my last year in a catholic h.s. & I'm afraid it will cause problems if I suddenly show up with a hijab. I feel guilty about that though. I don't know if it's wrong not to wear it for that reason. Hijabi women, I prefer your answers.

I already posted this question before, but I accidentally posted it in the wrong section.

I am attending a Catholic h.s. b/c my dad felt it would be safer than a public school. Going to a catholic definitely does not make me a catholic. I don't care what anyone says. I am not trying to put down catholicism, but I am a very proud muslim. I did not choose to go to a catholic school. I think it's a waste of money, no offense. I could just get an equally goof if not better education at a decent public school.

Aqila you had the PERFECT answer. You also brought up good points. All the pics of Mary that I've seen in my Catholic school show her with a head covering, which she wears exactly like a hijab. Why did she wear it? I really want Christians to answer this? Why did Mary wear a hijab? Women are not oppressed in Islam. We are precious. In Islam, the man has to take care of her and provide everything for her. He has the harder responsibility. There are always a few people in EVERY religion who takes things to the extreme. Those who mask their faces choose to do so, but it's not required by the Quran.

Answer 1

AsSalamualikum
May Allah reward you for seeking advice and on deciding to wear hijab. I can not tell you to not do something that Allah tell you to do. Allah tells us to veil ourselves when walking abroad and to lower our gaze and not to look at haram( illegal) things. Allah created us and he would know best what is right ans correct for us. The prophet of Allah Muhammad (pbuh) tells us that our whole body is our private parts. The female body is so precious in Allahs eyes and he wants us to safe guard it and act humbly and modestly. Did you ever notice that high royalty like Queen covered their head and wore beautiful flowing dresses, and some even covered their faces. Hijab is beautiful and I think that you should let the world know that you represent the the truth, the pefect way of life. Christians are supposed to wear hijab too. Do Muslims not resemble the Mother of Jesus (Peace be upon him) Mary (may Allah grant her peace) Did Mary not dress with a head covering? Don't listen to No one that insist on you to disobey your Lord. You will be the one who answers to your Lord on a great day. Listen to your heart.

Answer 2

AssalaamuAlaikum WaRahmatullahi WaBarakhetu
MeshaAllah Sis, you've decided to wear hijab! It is great that your father is behind you Alhumdulillah. Actually doing something that is fard(obligatory) is a must so there is really no reason good enough not to. MeshaAllah, as we know, Allah SubhonaWaTala is oft forgiving most merciful. Now, the thing for you to do is find one that suits you, the shaylas can be pinned in a ton of cute ways, bigger ones give you more coverage, and Amira ones are fun, easy, and are great if you are more active or hate dealing with all those pins, and you can find them in colors and patterns. Khimar's give the best coverage, but they aren't for everybody, they go waist length and lower and you don't wear them with trousers.
If you need any help or anything please feel free to contact me INshaAllah.
Masalama

Answer 3

if you believe it is mandatory, then u can go against ur mother on this....i began to wear hijab recently, and i was told also that its just for "those arabs" by my nonmuslim family (haha im white)...but i still wore it and i love it! mashallah for your desire to wear it =)
And yea, it would probly cause more problems to wear it at ur catholic school =/
gosh ppl, half the students in catholic schools are non catholic, lol!! they just tend to be better than public skools, so parents send them there...derrr =)
(u might wanna post in the ramadan section so u dont get so much hate, and ull get more muslim answers =D)

Answer 4

dont listen to the people that say "oh well why are you muslim if you go to catholic school" my mom went to a catholic high school are shes a hijabi. but anyways, i think you should wear it asap. still try to convience your mom that it is necessary. if i were you i would wear it to catholic school today! is it against the rules? you know whats right dont let anyone derail you! :)



salaam

Answer 5

hun your doing the right thing, sometimes its very hard at first to put on the hijaab and you need a lot of courage to do it, but its definately worth it, i started wearing mine a few years back and im 16 now and if i dont wear it out i feel naked!!

the hijaab is for modsety and an identity for us muslim women and inshallah allah will give u the strength to wear it too
tc hun

Answer 6

I think your mom is right. When it comes to dress, freedom is the name of the game. I think if your goal of wearing hijab is to be modest and to not draw attention to yourself then I would suggest dressing like the people around you, in their more conservative styles of dress if it suits you.

Wear a hijab in a Western city and it attracts a lot of attention...you will draw less attention to yourself if you blend in...I'm sure there are styles from many cultures (including Western) that will accomplish the same goal that you feel is exclusive to the hijab.

Which begs the question: Are you wearing the hijab for modesty, or to draw attention as a conservative Muslim? I'm not saying that either is bad, I'm just curious about it.

Answer 7

Hijab is not mandatory for muslim women, it is simply encouraged by many cultures where Muslims are a significant portion of the population. Modesty for women IS considered an Islamic practice, hijab is simply a method of doing so.

I had many friends in college who are from Pakistan and India. Most of them were Muslim and many of them did wear the hijab, but not all.

To Berry123: Many muslim women I know did go to Catholic school when they were in high school. I think it is mostly because parents of muslim children believe in the value of having a school where girls are seperated from boys, as most Catholic schools are. Not a whole lot of other options for this type of schooling present themselves in America, so some figure that Catholic school is the better of other options.

Answer 8

I'm agnostic, but I think that if it is important to you and you feel it is a strong symbolic act of your faith you should do it. They almost certainly aren't going to kick you out of school for wearing a hajib, and if people at the school think it is a problem that you wear it, they are the ones with the problem, not you.

Answer 9

I am not a Muslim-ah but a covering Catholic and if you do not mind my advice. I say do as YOU feel called to do by God. Better to follow how you feel led than risk offended God.
Peace Be With You,
Debra

Answer 10

alhamdulillah sister that is very good, may Allah give you the strength to wear the hijab, and fear Him and not people.

By the way, although people on hear may say you do not have to wear the hijab, the Ulama (who the Prophet said are the inheritors of the Prophets in terms of knowledge) do not debate that at least the hijab must be worn.