i met this guy a few weeks ago and i really like him. we have been talking about commitment and everything seems to be going fine. I want to have sex with him but im worried about coming off like a whore! when is the right time to have sex in a new relationship??
2007-11-28 12:39:28 · 18 answers · asked by Ashley S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait at least 2 months! that way its not too soon and not to late! taht way you dont have waitin too long !
2007-11-28 12:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I personally don't think that there is a "right time" or "wrong time" to have sex in a relationship. It just really depends on what you want out of it. Only you know when you are completely comfortable with the person - when the trust and respect is there. You have to ask yourself several questions, ie - we are "talking" about commitment, but are we really committed yet? Where is this relationship really going? Am I in this for the long-haul or short-term? If I have sex with this guy and it goes no where, how will I feel? What is it that I "really" want out of this relationship (if anything)? Use your instincts, if it "feels" right and you feel that you will have no regrets either way, then do what you feel you want to do (with protection). However, if you really like this guy and want to see if things are going somewhere... wait. Some people wait 1day and some wait months b/f having sex in a new relationship. But deep down, it seems like your inner-self is really telling you to wait. If that's the case, don't ignore it. It'll be even better as the anticipation builds and you wait to really get to know the person. What's the hurry anyway...
2007-11-28 21:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by Poetic Rayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is never excatly a "right time" for sex in any relationship. for some it can mean a year for others it can be like 2weeks it just depends on how comfertable you guys really are with eachother. how does he feel about it? if he agrees then i doubt you will come off as a whore, and if you're worried about it then maybe you should wait a little longer and see how the relationship all plays out first. just know you both should be comferatble with it before you start jumping into things that could ruin a relationship and a status of how you are seen by other people.
2007-11-28 20:46:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tihink you both will know when the time is right for you, theres a good chance hes thinking the same thing, worried that hes coming on to strong, and that you will be offended. Even though it is a new relationship, maybe you need to talk to him, tell him that it is something you want to do, but your not sure that the time is right, that you don't want to mess things up by dragging sex into the mix. My advice, is to maybe leave it for a bit, let the new realtionship grow, before you start bringing sex into it, atleast you will know for sure that hes not just after sex, and the relationship will be alot more than just shagging all the time. But communicate and don't rush into anything.
2007-11-28 20:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by honeybee84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you can answer this question. i told myself that i was going to wait until marriage or at least until i met the person i really cared for and loved. i did and that was 2 months into our relationship. your heart will tell you. your body will only send mixed messages and push towards sex even if you aren't really ready for it. it's human nature. i think it is best to wait but it's up to you to decide how long. but remember...
don't let him pressure you into it. it will only make the experience unpleasant. and ask yourself...are you talking about commitment because you can really see yourself with this person in the future or just so you two can have sex? sex is something commited couples can do and i've found you get the most out of it when you are at the same level emotionally. think about it some more because when you are really ready you won't have to ask this question.
best of luck.
2007-11-28 20:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by thebodyelectric! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are no rules here.
You could do it on your first date. Or never until you get married. It all depends on how you and your bf look at sex in the relationship. What is important is that you both want to do it when the right time comes along. Which could be tomorrow, or right after your altar date.
2007-11-28 20:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure how old you are? but the truth of the matter is that if he gets laid by you after a few weeks he's not going to think less of you... he's just not going to think of you AT ALL! please don't give it up so fast take your time make him work for it... unless your not worth the wait? im sure your a smart girl and will do the right thing in your own behalf. and if not willing to wait a little so that he can really get to know the real you, then he really dose not care anything about you or how you fill. take care be smart.
2007-11-28 20:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'd make sure he is committed to you before you give it up. Secondly, make sure you have some certain real STRONG feelings for this guy so that if it isn't that good, you won't be disappointed and dump him anyway afterwards. Then you will look like a whore.
2007-11-28 21:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt, keep him hanging on. seriously.
wait for when the time is definitely right. you can let him know that you're thinking of it, but aren't the type to rush into it. He'll respect that, if he's a decent guy.
2007-11-28 20:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kara J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes in the first 5 minutes is ok ---- its how you both feel and what you both want from the relationship --- if its sex only then quickly ---- and sometimes if its a long term serious relationship budding the first date is also ok ---- best wishes
2007-11-28 20:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait at least three months. that way you can learn him because you will feel bad if you have sex with him then he totally changes or you guys break up. so wait for a little while
2007-11-28 20:45:07 · answer #11 · answered by Nne O 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋