My boyfriend and I have been together a little over two months. We do everything together and we really mean a lot to each other. He is there for me when I need him and right now he is my best friend. But, we still haven't said that we loved each other. I've felt serious feelings for him for a few weeks now but I'm to afraid to say anything to him for fear that he won't feel the same. Our relationship is fantastic the way it is and I would hate to ruin it. But, is it worth being in a relationship if I can't tell him how I feel? I would just like to hear another perspective.
2007-11-28 12:29:01 · 6 answers · asked by b e a utiful 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My girlfriend and I told each other how we felt after about a month and a half. It seems like you're in the same kind of deal. My girlfriend and I hang out all the time, are each others best friends, etc. It;s a great thing.
Keep in mind that he probably wants to tell you and is wondering the same thing. I'd say go ahead and tell him how you feel.
2007-11-28 12:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by smashingpumpkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this situation twice. The first time, we talked about it and decided not to say it unless we really meant it. After a month, he said it to me, but I couldn't say it back. He wasn't expecting me to and that felt great. However, it got awkward when he'd tell me I love you every night and I couldn't say anything in return. So we came up with an alternate thing to say. After A LOT of brainstorming, we decided to say something that is meaningful and true for both of us, "You're my inspiration." It was such a cool thing to say, because that's just how I saw him. And it was unique to us and our relationship. I wished that could love him, but at the time, I wasn't ready, and he didn't end up being the right one. Now I can look back and know that I didn't have to lie or regret saying something so special that I hoped to save. The guy I'm with now, I can truly say that I love. Saying it to him feels right...very different relationship and it fits and feels so great to say my feelings. Whatever you decide to do, I highly advice you to save those special words for when both of you can really mean it. I know it's a hard conversation to have, but talk with him about it. He's probably sweating too. If you both can't say I love you, or you just want to wait till you're sure, come up with something else meaningful for both of you to say to express your feelings.
2007-11-28 20:47:11 · answer #2 · answered by Copenne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just won't say it first. Go ahead and tell him how you feel. I bet he will say he loves you too. Two months is plenty of time if you are seeing each other exclusively.
2007-11-28 20:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never to early. my ex and i said it two weeks in. granted u can't realy mean it when u have been through the ups and downs all relastionship go though but still. and no we dind't brake up cause of that. however i did wait for the guy to say it. just cause it was my frist. but if u feel it stronge tell him he problye wants to say it too.
2007-11-28 20:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by punk girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him when you're ready to say that to him. I think once you said it, he will say the same thing too.
-HeartBrokenForever (Diane N)
2007-11-28 20:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♫Di [Pro-Love, Anti-Hate]♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say it when you're ready, the right moment, don't just say it, and not really mean it.
2007-11-28 20:35:07 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋